I want to start this message on a positive note… this forum truly is the only place where I can be completely honest and not be judged for my nighttime parenting decisions. All of my other friends with babies (and there are a lot of them) have “sleep-trained” their babies… and I’m sad (and totally jealous) to say that all of their babies sttn. Of course, how much of this is the baby crying and them ignoring… no one wants to say. But they are rested and functioning… and their babies seem to be happy.
Our family, on the other hand, has sleep shared with DS since day one. He is now almost 13months old. And although I love having him in bed with me – it seems as tho it’s getting harder not easier. DS has never been a great sleeper. And we are not the type of family that has ever stuck to a consistent routine. We do manage to get him to bed everyday at around 830, but there is the odd night where he would rather stay up until 10 playing. I work fulltime and so does DH. We take DS to my mom and dad (such a blessing) and then pick him up at 5 where he has the best power nap ever in the car from 5-6. And honestly, I would rather him sleep in the car than cry the whole way – because he does have the tenacity to do this. Then its dinner, bath, play and off to bed. I have always nursed DS to sleep and nothing has changed. I have tried rocking, bouncing etc but now he literally just pulls my top down and goes for what he wants. If DH tried to put him down then it’s just screaming and protesting… so it all falls on me. And nursing to sleep is just so much easier. I have read all the sleep books from Weisbuth to Pantley and I am fed up with them all. Too much info and it’s causing my brain to overload.
So here is my problem. Since 7 months old DS has gone from a mediocre sleeper to a horrible sleeper. I know he is teething but he still has no teeth! So how long can I really use the teething rationale? He now wakes up at least every 1.5 hours and I am exhausted. And I’m sad. DH and I have been arguing because he says that I made him like this. If it was up to him DS would be sleep trained and sleeping in his crib in his own room. So needless to say that I am pretty much fighting this battle solo. DH usually sleeps on the sofa anyways. DS wakes up yelling and full of beans. He flips around and around, bangs on me, yells and won’t stop this until I put him on the boob. But every hour is ridiculous. I don’t mind nursing say twice a night – but I don’t see how I can communicate with a 1 yr old that I will nurse him sometimes when he wakes up but not all the time? Is night weaning my only option? Because I was hoping to at least nurse until 2 years old… but at this rate – my mind and body will fall apart way before this.
Has anyone been in this situation before? Is it considered cio if I roll over and let him work it out on his own? Could it really be teething? And if so, once he gets teeth will things get better?
We would love to have more babies but at this rate – I’m honestly afraid too because DS is so consuming of me…and DH is not as supportive as I would have wished for L.
I appreciate any advice. Thanks mammas…
Edited by tdot mama - 12/22/11 at 5:21am