Okay. I'll get straight to the point without telling you the whole back story.
My boyfriend and I have residence of his son Ant who is 5.
The kids mother comes around whenever she feels like it but is obligated to every other weekend mostly because the kid is in school.
Recently Ant has gotten the idea into his head that he doesn't have to be good any time other than the Friday before the weekend his mother comes to get him despite having the opportunity everyday positive enforcement and reward for being good at school. This is because whenever he's with his mother she does even more of whatever she wants by giving the kid a video game controller or dropping all her mothers money on taking him to Chuck-E-Cheese or something else that would be amazing to a small child.
So my question is how do my boyfriend and I cope with his mother's bribery? How do we provide damage control and most of all how do we get through to the mother without taking this back to courts (this is not the worse she's done either)