Took dd to sports practice last night and another mom had dropped off her kids and then gone out for dinner. Came back 2/3 way through, drunk. I didn't say anything and let her drive her girls home. I'm not sure who noticed besides me but it was obvious to me and one other mom I was chatting with.
We've been becoming sort of friends with them and had gotten a weird vibe about her, and that was (unfortunately) my guess (drinking to excess too often). I think she usually doesn't have the kids with her when she does that, but I don't think it's the first time she's driven home in that state either.
I thought about saying something to her quietly and telling her I'd take her girls home, or calling her husband (we both live about an hour from practice, so he couldn't have gotten there before it was over, by the way, and they lock the doors when we leave--so I couldn't have called him and just let him deal with it, without getting involved with the mom, making her wait for him, and everyone noticing- and I would hate to get her girls either too embarrassed to come back or the family not welcome back (and yes, obviously, I'd more hate for them die on the way home--please don't flame me). But I decided to say nothing. She did hang around for about an hour at practice before driving home so that may have helped her sober up a little.
As soon as I got home (before actually), I was second-guessing my choice to do nothing about the situation (except deciding my dd won't be going to their house again or riding with them to practice again, but her kids are welcome at my house--which sucks for the girls).
And we have another practice tomorrow. I have a hunch either the girls won't be there or the dad will bring them (or they'll call me and ask if I can take them--which I have done before but can't do tomorrow, I don't have enough seats in the car.
WWYD? Is there some other way to have handled it that I missed thinking about? If it happens again, I want to have a plan in my head. I've gone back and forth thinking maybe I should call the husband tomorrow and talk to him about it for the future, ask what he would like me to do--I hate to embarrass him like that, but again, I'm sure he would agree that the girls' safety is more important.
I'm 99% certain (sure unless he worked late yesterday and was asleep when they got home) that they got into it about it when they got home, so I would think he'd be wanting to know if anyone at practice noticed, etc.--but not sure how to just call up and say, "Hey, your wife was wasted last night and I don't think hardly anyone noticed but they might have...and by the way, if it happens again, should I just take your kids from her or what?"
There's also an eatery place right by practice--it just occurred to me, maybe I should have firmly invited her to coffee there and told her on the walk over that I was taking her kids with me. That way it could have been handled out of sight/earshot of the coaches/moms/kids unless she chose to take it back there and make a scene. That might be my future plan--but I'm open to ideas!
Thanks in advance for advise/insight :)