I was looking for some opinions on if I should seek evaluation/treatment for my son. He was diagnosed with possible ASD at 18 months and then Aspergers at age 4 by the public school system. His pediatritian was unconcerned and said that if he had autism it was very mild and he would grow up to be very high functioning. The problem is that my son has violent uncontrollable temper tantrums. He is now 5 and it takes several adults to restrain him during his tantrums. He picked up a baseball bat and started swinging at his principal and teacher during the last one, to which the principal replied that he didn't think it had anything to do with being on the spectrum. (We switched public school districts and the new one kept his ASD certification but are not sure they agree with the diagnosis. They say he seems to be highly gifted and has the behavioral problems that go along with that).
My son has never played with toys, only lined them up. He has had an obsession with calendars and clocks since he could crawl and had not had much interest in anything else. He scored extremely high on an IQ test given at age 4. His social skills are pretty bad although he is not completely isolated, just prefers to talk to adults and much older kids. These violent tantrums scare away the kids in his class, not that he notices, but I do. I am asking for advice because I am a single parent and his only caregiver. I want to get him as much help as possible but we don't have any insurance coverage for mental health.
I would have to pay for any professional evaluations but would do so if it would help. I just don't know if I should wait out these tantrums, he has started to use whatever he can find as a weapon against me and I'm afraid to do nothing. Thanks for any help!