Pleas help, I am so stressed

[estrellablanca]

I am 9 weeks pregnant and have an 18 month old son (we co-sleep). I am so tired of waking up 4-10 times a night. I would like to wean my son during this pregnancy because I really don't think tandem nursing is for me.

But, my husband is working a very demanding rotation in the hospital for the next month, and after that we are going out of town for 3 weeks to stay at a friend's house while he does an elective in their town.

Do I nightwean now, and risk a crazy sleep deprived husband? I am already feeling like a maniac myself with the pregnancy exhaustion and the waking up at night. I cannot sleep while nursing due to the nipple pain. I can't imagine nightweaning going very smoothly, because the few nights when I have told him no more nursing, he just cries forever. He does not want anything to do with DH at night. I feel so stressed out that it might not be a good time, but I also feel like I have to change something ASAP because I feel exhausted and overworked all day (even with a nap).

Any advice out there from mom's in the same position? We planned on spacing our children much further apart, and I was really looking forward to peaceful nursing and co-sleeping until 2.

Can you nightwean while still co-sleeping? Will he still wake up and I just wont be able to nurse him? I don't want to make things harder by doing this, but I feel like I have to do something.

Also, it takes him 90 minutes to fall asleep at night. He tosses, and cries, and talks, and pulls my hair, and kisses us, and generally acts very rangy. This is after an hour long  bedtime routine. I can't imagine going through this with a newborn.

HELP!

[Mama2ChicknLil]

First...hugs to you!! I hope things iron out soon! Secondly, you may want to post this inthe Breastfeeding forum, you'll likely find moms there who have great advice!!

Good Luck :)

[treegardner]

Hugs. I'm sure nightweaning can be done while still co-sleeping, but for us that did not work. DS needed to be in his own bed, in his own room, for nightweaning to work for us. We still co-sleep in the mornings, but at night DS sleeps in his own room. At first I was sad about it, but we all ended up sleeping so much better after that change. Good luck!