My son started kindergarten in September. He was so excited to go. He has been struggling a little bit with reading and writing in comparison to his peers. He is one of the only kids in his class who did not attend preschool. We have him in early intervention to help with that. He is a little bit socially awkward, but he is working through that. Lately, he has been spacing out in class. I attributed it soley to life at home being hectic this past month. But three days ago, he came home and told me that kids we're making fun of him in class. Two little girls were telling him that no one likes him and that he doesn't have any friends. So he asked the.kids at his desk to raise their hands if they like him. None of them raised their hands. Another boy...we'll call him Alex...said the whole class needs a vacation from David. David was hurt by all.this. Apparently they were just riding him the whole day. He then said that one of the little girls constantly calls him stupid and tells him that he doesn't do any of his work right and that all of his schoolwork sucks. This obviously has made him feel bad about himself. We were doing his homework the other night and he spent a half hour under the table screaming, "I'm stupid!"I'm over and over again. I believe this is a result of bring told he is stupid everyday by this little girl.
I keep hearing arguments that kids will be kids and that being picked on builds character. I understand that we all face adversity at one point or another. However, I don't exactly think that bullying is necessary for building character. I was bullied terribly in school and it didn't build character. It turned me into a woman who is insecure, bitter and full of rage. So...I'm not in favor if the argument that kids will be kids.
I requested a meeting without his teacher to discuss this. I told her everything that he told me and how I believe some of it is causing him to just mentally shut off in class and "space out." She said she did overhear the girls say that no one liked him and that she spoke to them immediately about it. She says she is very anti bullying and that she has explained to the class that they don't need to be friends after school, but that they need to get along while in class. She said she don't tolerate that behavior with any of the kids. That meeting was two days ago. He said yesterday was a great day. Today, he came home and told me that Alex called him "gay." Sigh . I don't know what to do. I explained what it meant to be gay and told him that some people have a problem with gays because they don't know any better. School isn't back I was session until after the new year. I don't want to let this go.
Tonight, he lit the Menorah and sat down and prayed. His prayers broke my heart. "Please don"f let me hurt. Please don't let the kids call me names. Please don't let them call me gay gay gay. Please let me have a better life and make the kids be nice to me. Please let me have peace. " A five year old should not feel the need to say a prayer like that.
Edited by MrsMike - 1/2/12 at 8:03am