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Hmmmm.. I still don't know what to think. While I am not in Norway, I bet their system is a lot like ours here in Northern Europe and not very much like the US system. The idea that the relatives who flew in were not allowed to help is not surprising to me. I think it is problematic that they were not living in Norway and thus it is quite impossible to find out much about them. Also, if your kids have been taken away, yes, they could be placed with relatives, but it is not a short process, as training and all kinds of "research" would be needed. Also, even if they had been living in Norway, they would, IMO, have to live separately from the parents. I don't think even the US system would send kids back in their house just because grandma moved in.
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I still feel like we just don't know anywhere near enough to complain...
I agree. Since usually these cases are rather sensitive, there are probably quite a lot that media do not know about the case since social services will not be able to discuss it and the family will of course not tell media all either.
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I live in Sweden, where we have a rather similar system to that of Norway. Usually, if a court comes to the decision that the children be permanently removed from the parents and not just taken into protective care for the time being, we are talking serious abuse of the children in one way or another. In both Norway and Sweden spanking a boy for being unruly would be considered serious abuse and be cause to remove the children, as would grabbing a child hard enough to cause bruising. In many cultures, child abuse of this kind is not cause to remove the children, and if the parents come from such a culture of course they will not be able to understand why their children are removed since they are not doing anything wrong in their eyes!
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So, before being all outraged about this story, I would really like to hear what they are accused of. As previous poster have stated, bed sharing is not a cause for removing the children since it is such a common thing here that no one thinks twice about it. Neither would a court sentence be so harsh, if we were just talking general neglect. Of course, a court can discriminate a family because of their ethnicity etc. but to take it so far, as to actually remove the children if there is no proof? That would not fly in a Norwegian court. There is more to this story than what is being told. For example, why is the mother deemed as unfit to care for her children? Is she mentally ill in some way, that may put the children in danger?