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December chat 27th-January 2nd

post #1 of 77
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and  the end of the month approaches.  im so excited for everyone else to have their babies soon.  i love the fact that this is a group so we can all grow and talk and share about our babies.  this is a great sounding board and everyones opinions are so valid and insightful. 

 

in other news, im combatting stinky cord.  it smells like a rotten fish and is making my cute new baby smell likea dead animal.  ive peroxided it once today and its hanging on by a thread, cant wait for it to fall off completely pee u.  .  he loved sleeping on my chest, and sleeps surprisingly long hours at night hows everyone else today?

post #2 of 77
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Originally Posted by rustydaisies View Post

and  the end of the month approaches.  im so excited for everyone else to have their babies soon.  i love the fact that this is a group so we can all grow and talk and share about our babies.  this is a great sounding board and everyones opinions are so valid and insightful. 

 

in other news, im combatting stinky cord.  it smells like a rotten fish and is making my cute new baby smell likea dead animal.  ive peroxided it once today and its hanging on by a thread, cant wait for it to fall off completely pee u.  .  he loved sleeping on my chest, and sleeps surprisingly long hours at night hows everyone else today?



 

My baby's cord fell off when he was about 5 days old, but it's still scabby. I have to clean it several times a day still. 

post #3 of 77

Azadhhast:

 

 

We've been navigating that road too. I've got a good supply that is finally evening out (4 weeks today), but still have an overactive let down as well, plus Tenley is showing some serious signs of reflux, so it makes it difficult. People's automatic response is that if they want to nurse, then let them nurse, but as you've seen, that only results in them throwing it back up-- plus anything else still in their bellies. It's so sad watching it! Plus you feel like a bad mama for not giving them more milk when they want it, even though you know it's better for them. 

 

We've started DD on probiotics and ordered her a hazelwood necklace to start coping with the extra acid. There's also little things we've found that help-- we're nursing her on an angle, so her bum is sitting lower than her head. And after she's done I let her sit five minutes or so before burping her. It sucks, but I think the most helpful change has been the soother-- we didn't want to introduce one until at least 6 weeks, but it helps immensely with her not wanting to keep eating all day long (and then throwing it all up...) and the extra sucking stimulates saliva production which helps with the acid as well. If we give her the soother immediately after pulling her off the breast, it seems to keep her calmer, and then she doesn't throw up as much. 

 

We're also limiting nursing times to about 10 minutes (and she absolutely gulps during that time!) and then she can nurse again any time after an hour. If we let her back on before that- she'll throw up both of those feeds. Anytime within about three hours, she'll nurse from the same breast, and then we'll switch to the other one. 

 

Rusty-- ick! We didn't have any issues with cord stink, it fell off at 6 days and was no problem at all. So thankful!

 

We're tired here! Tenley is still nursing every hour and a half... and even though she only nurses around 10 minutes, then you add in burping, changing, settling back down and actually falling asleep... so by the time she finally settles I usually only get half an hour or so of sleep before she's up again and wanting to nurse. *sigh* She had a good stretch of about a week where she slept for  3-4 hour stretches all night long. Not any more! lol

post #4 of 77

Rusty- you might try just letting the cord dry up on its own...with DS2 and DD I didn't do anything to it and it very quickly dried and fell off. IT took forever with DS1 when we were cleaning it etc.

My mom and I took DD to meet her great grandma today, since she hadn't been born by our Thanksgiving get together and we hardly see her. IT wasa very pleasant visit and we took pics.

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I think my DD is nursing a little better too...though I'm kind of nervous because she hasn't had any wet diapers yet today (other than when she woke up at about 8:30 this morning - its 3:30 now, but, she's been sleeping about 2 hours) I'm hoping for one when I wake her up in a few. I am going to try and get a weight check tomorrow since it is already a bit late to do it today.

 

Umm and can I just say I love the Wii that we bought for Christmas...its amazing...I have yet to play it lol but it seriously keeps the boys busy and burns off some of their energy so they don't get total cabin fever!

post #5 of 77
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Umm and can I just say I love the Wii that we bought for Christmas...its amazing...I have yet to play it lol but it seriously keeps the boys busy and burns off some of their energy so they don't get total cabin fever!



I wish we would have got a Wii for xmas.. my older boys refuse to play outside because its too cold... and they need to burn energy too!

post #6 of 77

Congratulations to all the mamas who have had babies recently! Welcome to the world, sweet babies!! love.gif

I'm 40 weeks today, and we're hanging in here with nothing happening. I keep telling him that any day after Thursday is good for me LOL My sister is in Maine with my dad & stepmom and two stepbro's families - the wife of one of my stepbro's died somewhat unexpectedly a few days before Thanksgiving this year and he and my niece and nephew are up in Maine from Texas to celebrate Christmas with his family and get some loving care. It's important that my sister be there - I wish I could be! - but the plan is for her to be at the birth, so it's good that baby is chilling out happily so far -  no labor signs.

 

Hoping everyone who celebrates had wonderful holidays! We had a mostly quiet Christmas - my mom and sister came up Christmas Eve and we went to the church pageant where I go to church, and then to Christmas Eve Quaker Meeting where my husband is a member. Quaker meeting was lovely - it began in silence, in a candle and fire (in the fireplace) lit Meeting room, and then eventually people began singing Christmas carols and others joined in. At one point during the singing, Owen began moving a lot (he's a big music fan *grin*) and I put my mom's hand on my belly... it was the first time she had gotten to feel him move at all, and it was such a special moment. We had a quiet and slow day Christmas Day, and then my in-laws came over for dinner. I over did the time up on my feet in the days approaching Christmas, and on Christmas Day itself, trying to make sure all the preparations were perfect, and ended up with swollen feet and ankles and calves and really hard, painful BH ctx on Christmas Day and the previous two, so part way through Christmas I was confined to the couch with my feet up and regular beverage deliveries to combat dehydration. People were really sweet, especially my mom and sister, who ended up doing most of the meal prep and cleanup. Bonus... we have lots of ham leftovers in the freezer now!! Yum!

post #7 of 77
I'm in the hospital... Things are taking forever, but they just started my Pitocin drip (very low dose), so hopefully soon things will get moving!
post #8 of 77
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I'm in the hospital... Things are taking forever, but they just started my Pitocin drip (very low dose), so hopefully soon things will get moving!


oh good luck my thoughts are with you!

 

on another note

 

first time momma questions

 

how often do you change your babys diaper at night? 

post #9 of 77

 

 

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Another thing that helps my babe is to latch and then quickly lean back so he is on top of me nursing uphill.  It helps a lot with the pulling off and choking and  little with the gulping.  For this reason I also introduced a paci.  My little guy really  needs to suck but will puke if I leave him on too long.  

^^^ Yeah that. I end up practically lying back flat while I'm nursing. It's nice at night when I'm tired, and I can doze while she eats! :)

 

 

Thinking of you Jesusfollower!  Try to get rest while you can. Even just a couple minutes makes a difference. 

 

Rusty-- It depends. DD has had a lot of problems sleeping, both in getting to sleep and staying asleep, so we're always very hesitant to wake her if we don't need to. She goes 'down for the night' usually around 10pm, at which point we change her. Then she feeds around 2-3, and around 5-6, and then 9ish, and then up again at 11am. The basic drill is that if she wakes up screaming, we'll change her while she's already awake and worked up. If not, and she wakes up calmly, then I'll just nurse her right away. Same with after nursing, if she nurses and then starts to fall asleep right away, then I'll leave her be, unless I hear a big BM. If she nurses and is upset and crying after when we try to put her back down, then again-- we'll change her since it won't make a difference. Anyways, not counting the 10pm and the 11am, which she always gets changed, at, that means she gets up on average 3 times during the time (though the last two nights it's been more like 5-6 times, and we normally change her twice on average I think. 

 

I'd ideally like to change her every time she woke up, but with her having such trouble settling at night, it just doesn't seem like the best idea! She is in cloth though, so at least I'm not worried about the chemicals being on her skin too long. 

post #10 of 77

rusty- my 2nd dd had stinky cord and I was using a cord care powder that my midwife gave me, wont use it again....it stunk awful, I was so happy when it fell off

 

my mw came today and I am 2cm and almost completely effaced. yay!

post #11 of 77
Thread Starter 

i wasnt doing anything to the cord, until yesterday i noticed it smelled so bad! so i cleaned it it seemed to help a little maybe?  its hanging on by barely a thread, oh please fall off!

post #12 of 77

I don't know how to move the birth bead exchange thread to the group, so I'll post my birth necklace photo here:

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I love the way SierraBella's rainbow moonstones and futuremamaheather's crystal beads glow in photos.orngbiggrin.gif  I've added snowflake obsidian, more tourmaline, some amber-colored spacers, and a replacement for the lovely glass butterfly bead from sowega.  (My 2yoDD broke it -- reminded me of Mayachel's bead story so it seemed appropriate ... sowega's was much nicer than the replacement, but it is what I had in my bead stash.)

post #13 of 77
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Originally Posted by rustydaisies View Post





oh good luck my thoughts are with you!

 

on another note

 

first time momma questions

 

how often do you change your babys diaper at night? 



 

 

Diaper changes at night...

 

Unless she's stinky, I feed her first when she wakes up. When she gets lazy/falls asleep on the first side I go change her, and then feed her on the other side. The idea is that by then she'll be good and stuffed and GO TO SLEEP, but she tends to cluster feed in the night... so far diaper changes have been about every 2 hours around the clock. Not evenly spaced though... sometimes she gets a change after 15 minutes if she poops right after I put a clean one on her, and sometimes she sleeps for 3 hours straight (YES!) and gets changed when she wakes up.

 

With my son, the midwife told me that as long as the baby doesn't have a diaper rash to not worry about changing the diaper if the baby is asleep. Even if you think s/he's had a bowel movement... you could have gone out of the room to get a snack or pee when the baby did that & you wouldn't know about it, so catch that extra hour while you can! I couldn't always follow through on that advice with him, but it was good to know anyway. My daughter had eczema so I had to change her promptly every time, so I just got good at doing it with her in-arms (at least for pees) so she wouldn't wake up.

 

So yeah... if there's no diaper rash, you're changing the baby enough, and if you're having a rough time at night it's okay to try changing the baby a little less often and see if it nets you a bit more sleep :)

post #14 of 77

I always change right away...but, that's because my kids would cry/grunt/wiggle whenever wet and since they all slept/sleep in bed with us at least for the first few weeks I need to change them so I can sleep! Thankfully DD doesn't seem to wet much at night so most nights and can change her around midnight and she will be ok then until morning. The one thing with cloth is that they don't have the chemicals but depending what type you are using it may hold more moisture on baby's skin.

 

So I called the WIC office because I wanted to weigh DD before/after feeding without paying for a LC visit and also I am hoping to get a second pump because I am super stressing that something will happen to mine and I won't be able to get spare parts quickly and we will go off WIC as soon as my state medical care ends in couple months (I think anyway - I'm not really sure what the current income guidelines are) so I want to get one before then and they can't see us until Thursday because they don't have  a BF support person in tomorrow and I called to close to closing to come in today. Boo.  DD did poop shortly after I woke her, then pee'd an hour or so ago and just pooped again; so I'm feeling much less worried than I was when it was pushing 7-8hrs of nothing!

 

I also ate a whole bucket of cotton candy just now...oops...so not helping the whole weight loss thing!!! It was delishhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh though.

 

I am really sick of having to do stuff every day too. I just want to stay home and catch up on my house work! Once I venture out I'm too tired by the time I get home!

 

I'm also so sad about having to return to work in just over 3 weeks...I don't wanna!!! Is anyone else going back to work?

post #15 of 77

Benny- I love your necklace!

 

LilMomma- Not going back to work, but taking 6 credits at school.. which reminds me, I need to introduce a bottle soon! I waited too long with DS2, and he never took a bottle, which made things really hard! 

post #16 of 77

With dd1 I almost never changed her more than once over night - I used disposables at night with her and cloth during the day.  Of course I was completely spoiled with dd1 - she almost never leaked, didn't spit up, wasn't gassy, slept well...  The twins leak constantly unless I change them every 3 hrs.  They also spit up constantly.  So I'm doing a lot of laundry *sigh*.  Still trying to figure out if I have  a formilk/hindmilk issue or if Max has reflux.  He nurses ok but gets really fussy right after eating often spits up a lot of what he takes in.  His poop isn't green anymore but he is still really gassy/fussy.  Audrey is a happy spitter and doesn't seem to mind a fast let down.  she only nurses for about 10-15 mins and then is pretty satisfied for 3 hours.

 

Well I ate the last christmas cookie.  Wish all the chocolate was gone so it wouldn't tempt me.

 

I am planning to go back to work in Feb.  Still not sure how much I will be working.  And I have no idea what I'm doing for childcare at this point.

post #17 of 77

Benny, your necklace is beautiful!!

post #18 of 77

Oh hugs mamas. I've got a whole year off (and then likely will be going into full time doula work, rather than returning to a 9-5 type job). I just can't imagine having to go back so soon. I've been even more spoiled because DH has been home with me this whole time... though we really do need to find him a job soon, but it's hard when I know that means I'll be alone at home! 

post #19 of 77
I just touched my feet, massaged them, even!!!!! Oh holy yeah, this belly going away thing is fabulous! joy.gif

Diapers: Winter HATES diaper changes, I mean, screams bloody murder hates. So I hate them too. But he equally hates having a diaper the least bit soiled against his skin. We're going to be champion ECers--we even caught our first pee in the potty today! But that means that at night, if anyone is to get any sleep, he's changed pretty much right away. Luckily, poos usually coincide with feedings, and he settles back in nicely, but, oh, poor baby. Today, though, for during the day, we tried just having the diaper off, since I'm still recovering in bed. I kept a puddle pad under him and a flat diaper under him and usually wrapped around his tiny penis to keep from being sprayed, and he's been so much happier today. Obviously, we can't do that always, but for now, it's nice, and makes us more aware of his cues.

How would you deal with a baby who hates changes and dirty diapers?
post #20 of 77

we just go fast! lol  9/10 times DD hates it and will scream. Having the washcloth very warm seems to help calm her. Otherwise we just make sure that we change before feeding, so that the feeding can calm her down again. 

 

As for the leaning while nursing thing-- we never got around to getting a rocker, so I'm nursing either in bed, or on the couch. I always have at least one pillow behind me, so i just latch her on, and then slide my bum out so I'm reclining backwards. The first two weeks when I was still very slow-moving and trying not to move my legs too much because of the stitches/SPD pain, I had a reusable chux pad from the hospital that had a slippery back on it-- it made the slouching down so easy. lol. I'm tempted to always use one in my bed/on the couch. haha

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