For a while now dd2 has been hitting and pinching our nanny's child (3 year old boy) when she is at my house caring for dd. Today was especially bad when she scratched him and he needed a bandage because it was bleeding. She not only hits with her hands but with block and other toys. She does do this a few times a week to older dd when I am home. I usually tell her "No, and we do not hit, hitting hurts, ouch". Sometimes this works and other times it doesn't. Many times older dd will just sit there and let her hit her and then whine about it. I tell her to just get up and walk away and she will hopefully get the hint that if she hits you then you don't want to play with her.
Older dd was not a hitter, so I am not sure if I am handeling this right. Nanny suggested a time out, but I don't think she will understand that at her age. It is really concerning for me because I do not want to loose this nanny, it seems to be working out so good for us. Her child told her today that he wanted to go home and he's never said that in the 10 weeks she's been caring for dd.
Any help would be much appreciated!