I'm not sure if this is the best spot for this thread. I wish they had a "Complaints about In-Laws" section
My in-laws all smoke...my husband's mom, dad, and sister. They smoke in their tiny, cramped house. They don't smoke in the house when we visit, however (or else we'd never go over there), but I can smell the stench as soon as I walk in and we leave there smelling like a chimney! It's disgusting to me. Everytime they buy something for my 3-year-old or we receive presents for him like on Christmas, it all smells like smoke, especially the clothes. Thank god for the washing machine! I am currently 33 weeks pregnant and when we went over there for X-mas day, I wanted to immediately leave that house and go back home. The smell was awful and it made me feel uncomfortable breathing, as it's getting hard enough as it is. I also worry about my son and my soon-to-be-born as well breathing in that air. I didn't say anything that day except I asked my husband to turn on the fan (for some kind of ventilation because there was NONE). I just told them I was hot because I didn't want to start anything, and at that point what could have been done???
Well, I was talking to my son's pediatrician about it and he said even third-hand smoke (smoke in upholestery, etc) carries a risk, which I could guess on my own. We aren't over there too much but I'm at the point where I can't even stand to be there, don't want my 3-year-old breathing it, and certainly don't want to bring a newborn over there. I talked to hubby about it and he said they will never quit, which I knew. I just explained that I don't feel comfortable going over there and asked him to ask them on the days we plan to go over there they smoke outside that day to at least let the house air out for a day. I told him if not than they can just always come here. I don't plan on going over there anytime soon after the baby is born anyway, so that helps.
(BTW, my MIL bought the baby a little rattle-type stuffed animal toy for X-mas that I wound up throwing away because I could smell it. Her X-mas cookies also taste like smoke - YUCK! LOL!)
What would you guys do if you were in this situation?