Advise on Boundaries with Family? - Page 2

[IncompetentHousewife]

Oh jes h! Somehow I missed your post about them moving on to the grandparents. I can understand you being teary eyed, but also hopeful toward the next placement. My best!

[jes h]

Originally Posted by IncompetentHousewife 

Oh jes h! Somehow I missed your post about them moving on to the grandparents. I can understand you being teary eyed, but also hopeful toward the next placement. My best!

Thank you!!!

Thanks, also, for your story;  that really helped me get how assertive I can be.  I definitally tend toward passive, but have the capability of speaking up.  I guess I just didn't expect to have to this time around (expecting everyone to behave like competent professionals...), so wasn't ready for it.  About 2 months into our experience, I realized, 'wait a minute, I advocate for kids ALL THE TIME in the classroom (when others don't act like competent professionals), why am I being so mealy right now?!?' 

Your story was a great illustration for me - thanks!  I will be thinking of that when we get the next call!

Jes

[marsupial-mom]

Originally Posted by jes h 

Yikes, Marsupial-Mom! That sound like a very frustrating experience!
When your little ones were placed with you was the agency clear that reunification was possible? I know when we went through our licensing process it was an option to only have kids who's parent's rights had been revoked - or is this possible reunification with other family members? Three visits a week seems like tons of visits if the intention is to eventually adopt! I know that for us, three visits weekly makes it really hard for the boys to really feel that they belong anywhere - our house or the family's.

Of course we understood that reunification was a possibility, but it was an unlikely possibility.

Now we're back down to 2 visits per week and in the future it will be about once a month. Adoption was the plan virtually from day 1 but they keep demanding visits for this or that reason.

[Smithie]

" I guess I just didn't expect to have to this time around (expecting everyone to behave like competent professionals...)"

[IncompetentHousewife]

Also laughing my bottom off at this! Just coming off a few recent weeks in which our caseworkers did not behave as competent professionals ...
 

Originally Posted by Smithie 

" I guess I just didn't expect to have to this time around (expecting everyone to behave like competent professionals...)"