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I don't have a 3yo yet, but I've seen it, and yeah, I think it's good to listen to everyone who says it's ok to have your limits and show them, and let your child know when you are angry - not necessarily with yelling, but tell them how you feel. This applies to almost any age (after say 18m), right? Today my 18mo hit me with a toy and I say firmly that hurts. Still not smiling, I don't like that, it hurt me. Unhappy face and I see she understands. There is a whole chapter on expressing anger in Liberated Parents, Liberated Children, and I've come to agree that there is nothing wrong with letting them know you are losing your patience, of course along with taking a break before it gets really bad or you reach your real limit. It's true we always try to keep our cool and sure that's best if you're feeling in control in a positive way, but sometimes holding it in just lets it build up until it's really bad when it can't be suppressed anymore. I tink a 3 yo is mature enough to start understanding other people's feelings and how interactions and other people's behavoir affect feelings. Anyway, just yeah, everyone is right on here, if you're feeling like this, hang in there and give yourself a break -I see the OP's kids are not in this phase now that I look at the dates though...