Originally Posted by _ktg_
Last night I ended up working a little water magick - big warm bath, cleansing salts, dropped in my jet stone to wash away the negative energy of the meeting. Also a little chant which came to me after awhile:
What's said is said
What's done is done
Time to close the door and
take steps to move on
I do miss you all so very much and I think of each of you as I'm reading through my books I have from the library right now. It is a three fold boon of pagan/witchy fun:
Phyllis Curot - Witchcrafting
Christopher Penczak - Inner Temple of Witchcraft
Ellen Dugan - Elements of Witchcraft
Love the bath idea. What is jet stone? I might need to get one for ds. But he can't seem to stay still in the tub yet and gets water all over the fake-wood floor, which is a really bad thing. So I have banished him to showers only.
Love the little chant! We might steal it!
How do you like Witch Crafting? I loved it. Made so much sense. I lovelovelove practicality and efficiency. They are my goals of how to be, eventually!
Originally Posted by 3xMama What is the HCG diet? Is it breastfeeding friendly? I need more information!!
Ohh, I love Ellen Dugan! Her writing style is so casual and fun but informative.
I dunno if I'd nurse during it. It IS 3 weeks or more of shedding toxins. But there is a thread over in Health or Weight Management that was started by Mary3Mama (from here, remember her?) and it is called the hCG SUPPORT thread, and it's awesome. Go read! Lots! I read and read and read before I started this whole journey. I am on my 4th Round, because I kept cheating and gaining weight back, but I am still 40lbs below what I was 16 months ago!
I have never read Ellen Dugan, but I have to say, I was sorely, soundly disappointed in her in person. Went to a workshop she gave at PSG and she was so crass...lots of swearing and all. I am just not like that and I felt very offended at her demeanor.
Originally Posted by redveg
(((hugs))) Oh it is such a difficult job this parent thing! I have been in similar situations with my DD who can really test every last nerve and having me thinking my God what am I doing wrong. I think the key is when my DD wants something the behaviour turns around It's a miracle!!! I use to let them, all my children earn things back because I sometimes felt I over-reacted, spoke out of anger. I no longer do that. If I say it too bad. No matter how well you behave it's a done deal. It just got to the point they would be wild, disrespectful, push all the limits, the punishment would come down and bang they were wonderful! I was the one being manipulated and it got old quick! Not telling you what you should do or shouldn't do but this is just what I did. My Brother also took his son's Birthday away for his behaviour, wouldn't even let us give him the gifts we already bought. We said happy Birthday and that was it just another day. My DD really needs a firm hand and a strong punishment. I always give a warning then it's done, except all the begging she does! I feel horrible but the world will not tolerate her outburst and I just see her future sometimes as a terrible struggle unless she gets it. Thinking of you and hoping for the best! You know I remember when I was a kid if I even looked at my parents with what they called a smart look or rolled my eyes, the belt came off! I would never do this to my children of course but I was semi good out of fear, my children fear nothing! My only power is denying them things and sometimes when I am not valued for all that I do around here I go on strike!
I did let him earn his birthday back, but in increments, and he had to behave nearly perfectly. He's not done yet. He has a sleepover this weekend that already got postponed once.
My point for him is to show him that he CAN act perfectly when he puts his effort into it! And I am trying to find a way to teach him that good behavior is its own reward...but I haven't got there, yet. It's just, he has always been so externally motivated. Gifts, presents, doing things that HE wants, like going to the skate park. I want him to see, consistently, that not getting yelled at/called down/sent out of the classroom/having things taken away is not necessary nor normal, nor does it contribute to self-esteem.
OTOH, I now have the new Wii as heavy currency
I would not, with a belt, but I have, with my hand, and may still. Though I'd rather not. Yeah, when I was a kid, I wouldn't have been able to sit for a week. Him, I could conceivably have him down on the floor with my fist over his face and he would still mouth off to have the last word. SO frustrating.
3 more weeks of this diet, for now-- I really, really hope to have at least 10, hopefully 15lb off by then. Then I go to M's and then finish losing weight, hopefully, when I get back.
Edited by Maiasaura - 2/1/12 at 9:39am