Originally Posted by FeralFox
I think my word for the year is going to have to be "endure", because I feel like that's all I can do now. Sometimes in the last few weeks, I lost all my joy. We have hit snag after snag lately, sending some of our plans down the tube and causing us to drastically alter others. And the baby we so enthusiatically planned? I have no idea how it happened, or even exactly when, but I have become so depressed about having it that I no longer want it. I'm not even sure why. Now Husband doesn't want it anymore either, because he sees what it's doing to me. I'm so depressed I don't want to get out of bed in the morning, I'm so sick and exhausted I can't get out of bed some mornings, and the two are starting to becaome so mixed up that I don't always know which is which. It's crazy - Husband can't touch my belly anymore or ask about the baby, because it makes me angry and nauseated when he does. I have no idea where we can go from here.
Oh, huge hugs, hon This sounds medical. I told M about it and he said both he and his 1st wife were very unexcited at their 2nd pregnancy. That they finally found the ropes with the first one and then they found themselves back at square one, and wtf were they doing, and all that, kwim? I hope it irons out for you soon!
Originally Posted by wombatclay
Maia- get the kind of service that comes with a DVR. That way you can record shows and fast forward the commercials. DH and I found that after years of dvds and netflix the commercials really drove us bonkers (to say nothing of exposing the kids to the merchandising) but the dvr has been pretty good. My only problem is remembering that the ads can be fast forwarded. I usually end up watching about half of the first ad and then going "oh yeah". And you can set it up so you're only "off" a few minutes from the real time, like, a show comes on at 2pm so you record it and then start watching it at 2:05. You have enough headway to fast forward the commercials but you're not creating a pile of video or something like that. And if you know you might had trouble with a certain channel, put a channel lock on it. Parental control type dealie. So far I'm loooooooving having the tv, and I'm not actually watching all that much. It's just nice to have the option again. :)
Glad you're having fun in the frozen north, and hope this really is the year it all comes together for you.
You and me, both! By like....spring. At the latest. I have to be back in the job market by 2013, and I want to be fully situated long before then, to iron out ds's medical stuff, and all that.
TV-- um, nope, cable is enough of something for me to figure out. What the heck is a DVR? That involves learning technology of some sort, does it not? I am SO uninclined to learn technology. Ugh. M and I upgraded my computer a bit while I was there, and now, if I have to, I suppose I could replace memory in my laptop without supervision, but UGH, I hate learning technology.
Disney-- your kids won't remember at all if it was World or Land. If you have the opportunity, I'd say just go! Take lots of pix! When we went in '07, my mom made ds little photo books all for himself of the time we had there, one for each park. Pretty cool (she's a scrapbooker).
Originally Posted by Aubergine68
Mine: Fulfillment (another word without a down side, I hope. I want fulfillment in every area of my life, to be present in the moment and find fulfillment in my every day life)
Dh- still unsure, wants one that means the opposite of "stressed out" if anyone has suggestions. I will suggest "well-being" - that is pretty close!
DD - Confidence
DS1 - Action and Adventure (couldn't choose)
DS2 - Safety
For your DH: SERENE, or SERENITY. And BREATHE.
Ooooh, your DS1 scares me Sounds like something mine would choose!
Mine is BELIEVE. M's is FREEDOM. I don't know what ds's is yet. I shall ask him later.
Originally Posted by witchygrrl
I just hope my DD can enjoy it--she's been behaving so badly lately that we've all been losing it. 3 years old is such a crazy age!
You're telling me! I thought I was raising a sociopath. I remember banging my head on the headboard So.Many.Times. And just crying and crying.
Listen: LOUISE BATES AMES. Her book "Your Three-Year Old" saved my LIFE, I kid you not.
Originally Posted by vydalea
For the past week the UU church sign has read "LAST THINGS FIRST" - which struck me as brilliant and I couldn't get it out of my mind so I am adopting that as my mantra for the year. I do seem to say I have to do XYZ and THEN I can do *whatever* which is usually something superfun or a seemingly difficult undertaking that I just want to push away... but I keep pushing those things, both fun and difficult, to the bottom and they hang over me and I start to get annoyed as in "grumble, grumble, I never have time to paint" well, i DO have time to paint I just put them last, after laundry and dirty floors...and maybe my floors just need to be dirty a little while longer so I can enjoy the time I have a little more. OR on the other hand, if I just DO the dang thing that is hanging over my head then it will be done and I can get on with it. KWIM?????
Good thoughts, those. Now I need to get on to the laundry and get off the damn internet
Originally Posted by FeralFox
Ugh, Disney. That"s a "just to make matters worse" subject with me right now. I have always been really vocal about the fact that I dream about taking my kids to Disney, and that it's a really big deal to me to be able to do it. My ex knows this, and his parents know this. So what did I find out a few weeks ago? My ex in-laws are taking the whole family to Disney next year - Ex, Badger, and them. Not me. For badger's first ever time on on airplane, and his first time at Disney. They never even asked me to see if I was ok with it. I'm so hurt and angry about the constant disregard shown to me by then, but this just takes the cake. They know how important it is to me to take him to Disney, but now I never can. I am never going to get over it. I haven't talked much about the situation with Badger, but it really feels like I'm not even his mother anymore.
Oh, Feral Oh, honey, that is just freaking awful. Oh gods. I'm sorry. That is just outright freaking MEAN.
Plus, and don't stress on this right now, but maybe you CAN. Badger's only 3, right? This is worth carrying credit card debt for, IMO. You can do Disney for $1000 or less, I think. There are sites that tell you how to do it frugally. Check....what is it, DisBoards? I think. A forum like this one. They're not....um, they're not like us -- they are WAY mainstream, it's kind of shocking after hanging on MDC for so long, but it has a great bunch of information if you hang and lurk and read.
Originally Posted by StevensMommy
Thanks everyone. I would have to say my words would be perseverance and mindfulness. Like I hope to persevere with this being a vegan thing...
Why persevere about being vegan? If it's that painful, why do it? I mean....it sounds like you are not liking it.
OK, back to work; I have LOTS of laundry. All my stuff always smells like ashtray after a trip to M's