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Congratulations Planet and Dandy!joy.gifjoy.gifcarrot.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifjoy.gifbanana.gifbanana.gifbroc1.gifbroc1.gifcarrot.gifjoy.gif



Cananny and TD:  Good luck!



Nosreves: Nausea is apparently one of the more common reactions to the trigger shot, and since I have a sensitive stomach anyway...


It's IUI day for me!

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Congratulations, Dandylez!!!! That's awesome news!!! I hope you get your clinic confirmation as expected, and have fun telling the family!






AFM - I will be bringing up the tail end of this week's 2WW crew with a test most likely on Tuesday. Re symptoms: If I press firmly I can feel slight tenderness in my breasts, but it's nothing like the very heavy feeling they usually get before AF. So that difference from usual is making me feel a little hopeful, but I wouldn't be surprised if I'm not pregnant. If I hold out to test until Tuesday, it will be 16-17 DPO. I'd like to wait until then because that's when I'd expect my period. I probably won't be checking in here over the weekend, so I hope everybody has a great one! We have successes to celebrate!!!!!!  love.gif

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Congrats to Planet and Dandy! Sticky, sticky thoughts headed to both of you!!

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Congratulations Dandy!!!  That is awesome news!!!  If I knew how to make you a parade of vegetables and babies and people rocking out, I totally would!!!  Have fun telling your families!


RS11- Hope the IUI goes well for ya!


Invitin- That's a tough call.  If it were me in your situation and I trusted the donor (which of course I would, or I wouldn't be using him as a donor) I would probably go for it, knowing that he is donating to other people...  UNLESS he was in any way defensive about sharing the STD results.  Why didn't he have the results on time as per your agreement?  To me that would be a red flag if he didn't have a good explanation.


To everyone braving the TWW, rock on!  May the time pass quickly.


Thank you all for the amazing parades and wonderful encouragement.  While yesterday was painted with shock and disbelief, today I am feeling quite ecstatic!  I have a good feeling about the whole thing. :)  I have no reason to think that anything will go wrong.  Sure, it could, of course, but I am just going with it for now!  We're not going to do any testing or anything until the 8-10 weeks that my ND recommended.  Sadly, she shared with me yesterday that she won't be able to be our midwife - she is about to take a long break from midwifery so she can start her own queer family!  Very exciting, but sad for me.  So, ahead of us we have our search for a midwife and some learning to do!


Much love to all of you!!



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Nosreves-I love that movie, haven't seen it in yrs. I hope you and DP IUIs go well and soon you have 2 beautiful babies to love without anymore heartache.

Thank you for asking about DW. She is doing very well at this point. She is *healthy* again. Altho I am sick now. Got the ick thats going about. This is the only time that I have been thankful that DW is working overnights so I am not around her to give this to her.


Planet-CONGRATS!!!!! Stick lil one STICK!!!! And WOW on your 2nd try even better!!!!


Dandy-WOOOHOOO!!! Congrats!!! Good luck telling your LO. DW has informed me(lol) that is it ever happens for us we will NOT tell anyone til 12 wks cuz it is bad juju. She is too cute sometimes.


Lise-I hope you are healing very nicely and this was exactly what you need to get your BFP!


Invitin-First I want to say I would do it, you have to have a level of trust when using a KD and clearly you trust him in some form or you would not have picked him. Now second, I was wondering if this KD happened to be a teacher? Why I ask is cuz DW and I have picked a KD from OK and sounds like maybe the same guy. If this is the case then if he works out for both of us our children would be half sibling. winky.gif


AFU-WOW! That is all I can say. I have now heard of 3 new preggers today! 2 on here and 1 I know irl! It must be in the water...so everyone step up and take a drink! I have been doing a lot of soul searching and today is the first time since TTC that I have NOT been a bit bitter from this news, plus I feel much more positive about this TTC process even tho we have pushed it back to March.



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Inviting: Would you please move to the TWW? Thanks!


I just got back from my IUI! I'm sitting in the living room with my feet propped up. I know they said it wouldn't do any good, but I know it won't hurt. :)


My IUI went almost smoothly. It turns out I was an overacheiver when it came to getting my bladder full. They had to try twice; on the first try my bladder was full the catheter couldn't pass! I had to empty it a bit, and on the second try it went fine.


Our 0.5 ml "sample" had 39 million sperm in it! The nurse was so impressed she called another nurse over to see. She said their samples normally have 11 or 12 million and called ours "supersperm." I hope it is! ROTFLMAO.gif


Now the hard part (the TWW) begins!

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Sad... I just had a post all ready to go and then lost it... so this is my attempt at recreating...




Yay Planet and Dandy!!! I am so thrilled for you and your DPs!!!!!!!!!








Cananny, Tiney, Outdoorsy and RS- Heres to very quick TWWs with BFPs watiting at the end for all of you!


Lise- I hope you at home healing up nicely and that getting "cleared out" is exactly what you need to get your LO.


Desert- Thank you for sharing your video. It was great to see your families reactions.


Krista- I am so excited to watch you on 20/20. DW and I are going to be watching it tonight.


Invtin- I agree with what some of the others have said. Unless your gut is saying something sketchy is up or you dont trust him, then I would go for it!  Good luck! Also would you move me to watiing to O?!


Anna-I am sorry to hear about your BFN but I am glad that you seem like you are in a good place about it. Also, I wanted to say that you are freakin hilarious my friend! Thanks for the many many smiles you bring to my face!


AFM-I am on CD2 and getting ready to place our order for our sperm!!! I do have a question for all of you though, Should we do one vial a month or two? I can see both sides to it so I am unsure. Originally, we were going to go with one because of the cost of getting two and i didnt wait to feel like I was wasting the money. Also because my cycles have been like clockwork since I started tracking in August. Every month I have O'd on CD15 so I thought it would make sense to just inseminate on CD15 (if things dont change, which i know that they can) Currently we have enough money for 6 vials which could either last us 6 months or 3 months. I want to be realistic and have enough to last us in case we arent pregnant when month 4 roles around but then I keep thinking that maybe it will increase our chances if we do two insems per month? So now I am kinda thinking we should go with 2 each month that way we can insmeinate the night of CD14 and the night of CD15 (again, if things are the same this month) I feel so ready to be pregnant that I really just want to do everything the right way so that it can happen as soon as possible. Also for those of you who do only use one vial of frozen sperm a month, how do you work with your work schedule? I am gone for work for 12-14 hours and feel like durning those hours it is very likely that I will O. So do you inseminate before or after or does it change each month?

Thanks in advanced for all of your knowledge ladies!

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Hopeful: The right answer to one vial or two mostly depends on what type of insemination you are doing. If you are doing ICI, studies show that two inseminations are a good idea, but they also show that a second insemination doesn't help you conceive if you do IUI. Frozen sperm only live for 12-24 hours, so you want to inseminate as close to ovulation as possible, but before you actually do so if you are doing ICI. The reason is that it will take several hours for most of the sperm to travel through your vagina, your cervix, your uterus, and into your fallopian tubes. (The faster ones will be there in half an hour, but the average is several hours.) You want them to be waiting on the egg, if possible. The LH surge comes 24-36 hours before ovulation; you might want to insem at 12 hours and 36 hours post-surge. But I'm not expert.


AFM: I definitely ovulated on both sides; I was feeling crampy on both ovaries all of yesterday afternoon. Whether or not either one of those follicles had a viable egg remains to be seen, obviously.

I need your help though, ladies. Here's the thing: We're not even 24 hours post-insemination and DW is treating me like spun glass. She doesn't want me doing any exercises but walking and "non-stretchy" yoga during the TWW, she doesn't want me lifting anything (even the takeout containers from last night!), she won't have sex (like, at all, until we take the test, and probably not then until after delivery if I'm pregnant), she doesn't even want me walking up and down stairs! Now, I'm not about to do anything stupid, such as spend an hour on the cross-country machine at the gym, which I would do normally, or take my bike out for several miles, but I somehow don't think getting on Just Dance or walking up stairs is going to hurt anything! Am I wrong?

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DANDY!!!!!!! i am soooooo happy for you and your DP (and your big magical fertility balls!):  


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here's to a sticky bean and an easy and uneventful nine months!

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Hopeful: studies have shown an extremely low additional success of getting pregnant in using 2 vials for insemination. We never did (primarily due to the cost and the fact that I didn't think it would increase our chances) and tried to focus much more on the timing and making sure that the clinic was inseminating us not on their schedule, but what my body was saying to do. Unfortunately for us, doing that in a clinic setting never got me pregnant. It wasn't until later in the game but I still maintain that timing has a lot to do with it. If you feel like 2 vials is going to help better cover ground because you're unsure of the timing of O, then it might be worth considering.
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Hopeful- We decided to use two vials (IUI) because even though we were *pretty* confident about our timing, we couldn't be exactly sure down to the hour.  So, questions like: morning, afternoon or night? were difficult to resolve because we have no way of being absolutely sure.  That's why we decided to do two IUIs in one cycle.  I've read conflicting studies - my ND shared one study with us that showed that doing two IUIs does not increase chances of conception, but Stephanie Brill's book recommends doing AT LEAST two IUIs per cycle.  She even suggests that it's better to do one cycle with two IUIs then skip a month, than doing one IUI per cycle.  I totally feel your uncertainty on the matter - we had a tough time making up our minds, too, as it's quite expensive and we are pretty limited financially.  Whatever you decide, I hope your IUIs go well & I'm crossing my fingers for you!



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Rs, it's going to be a long nine months. I am very independent and proud of it. People gave me grief for holding my kids, opening my own doors, carrying groceries, you name it. I believe the typical advice for physical activity is that if you were doing it regularly before you got pregnant you can usually keep doing it. I'm going to tell you, I quit running races with the kids first trimester because it made me wet my pants and I quit lifting them the last month of my pregnancy (50 lbs) and now I feel like a lightweight and like I lost most of my muscle. So I would say sane activity is good for your body and you still want to be strong enough to lift a baby and a diaper bag. 

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Originally Posted by rs11 View Post


AFM: I definitely ovulated on both sides; I was feeling crampy on both ovaries all of yesterday afternoon. Whether or not either one of those follicles had a viable egg remains to be seen, obviously.

I need your help though, ladies. Here's the thing: We're not even 24 hours post-insemination and DW is treating me like spun glass. She doesn't want me doing any exercises but walking and "non-stretchy" yoga during the TWW, she doesn't want me lifting anything (even the takeout containers from last night!), she won't have sex (like, at all, until we take the test, and probably not then until after delivery if I'm pregnant), she doesn't even want me walking up and down stairs! Now, I'm not about to do anything stupid, such as spend an hour on the cross-country machine at the gym, which I would do normally, or take my bike out for several miles, but I somehow don't think getting on Just Dance or walking up stairs is going to hurt anything! Am I wrong?

lol that's cute :) But I agree that some activity isn't going to hurt you at all. I have been carrying around my DD who is close to 30 lbs and it didn't affect me getting pregnant. I am also very careful when pregnant but this time around I obviously can't avoid lifting her!


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invitin - would you move me to waiting to O, please?  merci :)

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Thanks again to everyone for your good wishes and support!  joy.gif


Planet: I'm glad you're feeling good! And good luck finding a new midwife.  It's sad when someone you had hoped to work with can't do it, but I bet you'll find someone as wonderful. 


rs11: Hooray for super sperm!! Those are fantastic numbers! Ours had 28 million, and we were impressed.  39 million?? Holy crap!!  Good luck this 2WW!  May it pass quickly with a BFP at the end.goodvibes.gif

Oh, I just saw your next message about exercise and sex. That's pretty cute, but I really don't think you have to worry.  I continued to practice derby during my 2WW, but I excused myself from heavy hitting and really strenuous cardio activities.  Basically, anything that was the equivalent of a light jog, I did.  (I'm not playing derby anymore, but I'm still exercising.) Oh, and sex. Yep! I read that it was good after the IUI, so we had some fun... :)


Hopeful:  Damn, why is sperm so expensive, right?  I'm glad Krista has those studies to show there's not a huge increase in success rates with 2 vials.  We used 2 per cycle also, not only because Brill's book recommended it, but because our clinic did too.  Good luck with whatever you decide to do!


Outdoorsy: I'm excited for you to test this week!! Good luck!! fingersx.gif


AFM: I moved the blood test up to Saturday morning, and I POAS before going in just to reassure myself.  Sure enough, the nurse called yesterday afternoon with confirmation.  She said my numbers were very good, and I'm to go back in tomorrow morning for another check. She didn't tell me my numbers, but I'm going to ask tomorrow.  And, I'll be on progesterone for the first 9-10 weeks.  Oh, and I booked our midwife.  She's a friend, and she's awesome!


We did tell our immediate families yesterday. My mother-in-law and I both got teary on the phone. My parents and siblings were thrilled too. Everyone knows how much we've been wanting this. Needless to say, I wasn't allowed to lift anything too heavy during my sister's move yesterday! :) I'm feeling good.  A bit of mild nausea at times, and my breasts are quite sore, so that my usual bras aren't very comfortable. I've switched to an old sports bra that was always too big until I can buy a couple of new ones. :)













Edited by dandylez - 1/22/12 at 11:34am
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hopeful- I'm glad I make you chuckle.

I'm here to entertain  smile.gif

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Dandy -Yay for confirmation! I'm so happy for you! I'M not worried about exercise, sex, etc; my wife is. She's convinced that bending over to pick up a sock could have disastrous consequences. Her extreme paranoia is both starting to rub off on me and stress me out. Thanks for the well-wishes!


Planet: I'm sorry about losing your midwife. I hope you find another one soon!


Nosrevs: Good luck this month! How will the clinic time your IUI, etc? I had to go in four times for u/s and bloodwork here, and I'm curious how it works across international boundaries.


Seraf and Carmen: Thanks for the advice. Hopefully, she'll calm down soon. We both want this SO much and everything is so uncertain.


AFM: I'm not 2/3 days PO and 2 days post-insemination. My CM started drying up like clockwork yesterday morning and was gone altogether by this morning, so that's another good sign that I did ovulate. Other than a bit of nausea (expected; I did the same thing after ovulating on Clomid and I had two drugs this month) and some breast tenderness, everything is fine. I just wish the TWW would hurry by!

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dandy -- congrats on the betas!  you'll be missed her in QC, but i'll definitely be keeping up with you over on QP&P!


rs11 -- well, because of the illegality of it all, the only monitoring i'll be getting is an u/s at cd8 or 9.  i have to call the clinic in belgium with the results and they'll tell me what to do from there (trigger followed by IUI, if all looks good.)  i suppose i may have to get a second u/s depending on how things look, but i hope i won't need it.  every time i have to have a test done, it's a bit nerve-wracking, because they tend to ask questions, and i can't let on that i'm gay.  i already had problems at one of my past u/s, so i try not to look too dykey on those days to avoid suspicion and to avoid being reported to social security.  my biggest hurdle right now is getting the follistim/puregon from the pharmacy tomorrow.  they may demand proof that i've been accepted into the fertility treatment program (which is only open to straight couples.)  in addition to 6 free iui's and 3 or 4 free rounds of IVF, straight couples get a lot more monitoring....probably similar to what you have.      


it sounds like you nailed the timing for you insem, btw!  i hope the tww goes by quickly and that i get to break out the veggies for you at the end of it!


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Thanks nosreves!


I'm going to miss you all too, but I'll still be lurking around here if that's okay. I just poked my head over at the other group, but I still kind of feel like I'm straddling both groups.

Best of luck, and lots and lots of baby dust to everyone here! blowkiss.gif

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Wow, so many BFPs this month, so exciting!!!! Congrats to dandy and planet and their respective DPs!!! :D


Rs11: that's  kinda cruel".. The human body can withstand a lot of pressure/manipulation. You will have way more complications if you don't stay active!!! You will sort it out with her, I hope it doesn't turn into a total battle!!  My wife would probably strangle me if I told her she wasn't allowed to do all that stuff!


Lisa, hope everything is healing nicely!!


AFM: we have 3.5 days left of vacation, DW's uterus is getting ready for AF, so we'll be starting our feb insem on then1st. Could I be moved to waiting to O please?  We've had a lovely time. I'm very glad we decided not to insem before we left, as knowing DW wasn't pregnant at all meant we could relax fully, and that drinking 4 margaritas with dinner was a distinct possibility!! Since we own in PV, I've scoped out what we'll be doing next year in terms of equipment to bring with us if we are accompanied by a tiny human (there will be no flying while pregnant!), so that's been fun! Definitely bringing the carrier, probably not a stroller and maybe not even a car seat, since we don't have a car here... Things to mull over for sure!

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