Hey guys! I am still hanging around, reading and following along and mostly just not posting out of sheer laziness.
Dandy! It's lovely to see you back! Thanks for the congrats. :)
I know there has been somewhat of a discussion about timing and I thought I'd poke my nose into that one. The most dreaded part of every cycle for us has been trying to figure out what the hell we are doing as far as timing the inseminations right. I know that isn't likely to boost confidences, but it's the truth. The literature and the professional advice and the amateur advice and EVERYTHING you hear about timing always seems to contradict. It's truly awful. I think the most important part is figuring out *your* body's rhythms and patterns and doing your best to go with that. I spent so much time researching and reading about ovulation and probabilities and likelihoods and majorities and whatever, that I wasn't listening much to my wife when she was trying to tell me what her body was telling her. We inseminated at home, not on any meds, for five cycles. Each cycle was different, each decision on insemination timing was different, each cycle was frustrating and infuriating. Each cycle I thought FOR SURE my wife was pregnant and each cycle I thought FOR SURE it couldn't possibly have worked. Even the cycle that we got a BFP. So really, who the hell knows. The one different thing about our successful cycle was that we were finally brave and patient enough to actually inseminate when DW thought was the best for her body - which wasn't until at least 48 hours after a positive smiley OPK. The "odds" of that cycle being successful are definitely against us, and yet... it worked. I hope everyone can take from our story the courage to try something that maybe breaks a "rule" or two, something you haven't been brave enough or patient enough to do. I feel that I should mention, we're both 25 and I've seen some statistics to suggest that younger women ovulate further away from a positive OPK, while older women tend to ovulate closer to positive OPK. That's getting into guesstimates and odds again, though. Ugh. I don't look forward to playing this game again.
TineyDreams, sorry about your BFN and immediate AF. That really sucks a lot. Hugs.
Cananny, awesome about your new place! It sounds perfect. I hope it's exactly the right place for a baby to call home. :) Also, hooray that AF finally showed up!
Amt, oh my gosh! Your poor wife. It sounds like you guys have really had a rough go of it. I'm so sorry. I hope she's able to stay healthy for a long time. February sounds like a great month to make a baby. Good luck!
Hopeful, I'm glad you're feeling positive about the decision to wait one more cycle. If there's anything I've learned, it's to try and feel positive and confident about whatever decisions need to be made in this process. Yes, we've been using Northwest Cryo this whole time. In the interest of truth, it should be said that we never changed donors through the five months we tried, even though it's kind of recommended to swap if one isn't working. We bought twelve vials to start, hoping to only use half for my wife and then planning to save the other half for my pregnancy (in a few years). Yeah... we ended up using ten vials to get my wife pregnant, and now we have two left in storage and if this pregnancy sticks around we want to buy a bunch more vials so we can use this same donor for another baby. So nowhere in our plan was there room for swapping donors, we kind of just hoped he'd work. Eventually, he did work out. Something I've found about NW Cryo that I like is that they have a forum that's associated with the bank, and I did a forum search for our donor number and found a couple people who'd gotten pregnant their first try with him. Of course, that was thrilling and we'd hoped for it to happen to us but oh well! There are a lot of positive experiences over on that forum, as far as successful pregnancies. There's a fair bit of drama, which is why I primarily am here and occasionally lurk there. You can find their forum under the "Community" tab. Oh, also, NW Cryo has a sibling registry specifically for the NW donors, that just went live after a website restructure. We're so far the only ones who've got a pregnancy registered for our donor, though I know there are more. I've always found their customer service helpful, I called probably a million times to ask about vial supply on specific donors and ask questions and they were always helpful. The only thing that might be weird for you is that they have men answering the phones. I was prepared for that, so it was totally cool by me. They are also doing a lot of work right now to get baby photos on as many donors as possible, which I appreciate. Okay, whoa, more than enough about the bank! Feel free to ask if you've got more questions.
rs11 - congrats on the selection of your donor! Not an easy choice, by any means.
- Hooray for insems and second tries! Good luck on your TWW, I'll be crossing my digits for you guys. And likely, watching creepily from a distance.
Carmen! Thinking good, healthy, sticky thoughts towards your uterus.
As for us, we're just kind of hanging around and lurking here, there, and everywhere. Thinking about you guys!