When I had DD1, I felt like SuperMom. We did all of these wonderful things. DD2 came 8 years later and I felt pretty close to good Mom-ness. DD1 adored DD2. DD2 was a treat. Then 2.5 yr later came DD3. She has been working through some health issues that has made her realllly challenging, in addition to just being an incredibly active, strong willed, tough kid. She is now 19 months, DD2 just turned 4 and DD1 is 12.5 yr. I am really struggling about what to do with them on a daily basis. DD2 loves to cook but DD3 is extremely hard to manage in the kitchen. I cant get her to entertain with an age appropriate activity. Everything is climb, climb, climb, near death near death near death. Our Learning Tower is a catalyst to get on everything. I removed things she can climb on and she throws herself down and head bangs on the hard floor. I try to engage her in the cooking process and is it a disaster. Any sit down kind of activity is a disaster. So we go outside and DD2 likes to build, stack, make sticks house for animals, etc....DD3 likes to knock them down (DD1 calls my 4 yr old Lilo and my 1 yr old Stitch, lol). I can redirect and chase DD3 which leaves DD2 to play alone all the time. We do library story time, which is a mess. I can't find anything to focus on with my preteen because of the little one. My DD2 has the same condition as DD3, so both of them are a bit extra work, and DD1 is really self-sufficient, so I feel like she gets the shaft.
I am sure every parent goes through stages where they feel like they cannot meet every kids every need. I have an amazing DH who is an absolutely incredible father. Our two little ones' medical expenses are humongo right now so he is, by is working a lot more than either of us would like to make sure everything stays afloat. And we are expecting our 4th and final in April. :)
So mamas of many o kids.....what do you do, like on a day to day basis, with them? I have never felt so lost with parenting. Often I feel like I need to try and structure our days a little better. A loose layout for things....maybe a short block for music/dancing? Which they both do. Or an art time I can try and engage them both in something different? I just am not doing well at filling the days, and the little one does not just go with the flow as far as engaging in our normal house activities that DD1 and DD2 always did.
We do have some access to one babysitter that is familiar with and great at handling the girls with their health stuff. I have been leaving both girls for a couple hours just to gather my sanity. But mom guilt says I should spend with one or the other.
Any activity advice??? Structuring the day????