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January - what are they doing now?

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Happy new year everyone! What are your kids up to and what have you got planned for the year?

 

DS has passed his first swim test in December and is super proud that after, seriously, weeks of trying and failing miserably, he managed to overcome his fears and put his head under water long enough to dive for a ring in the shallow side of the pool (he'd had the actual swimming down for like 6 weeks but the diving was part of the test). He did it crying, but he did it. That was really major for him. Just in time to start the advanced class in January which I'd signed him up for in October, phew ...only it's at another swimming pool and knowing DS, we'll have to go there at least once, better twice, before classes start in order to familiarize him with the new surroundings, otherwise it will be a desaster. Hope one of us parents gets over our colds in time...I hate this time of year for that.

 

And he’s been asked to the second birthday party this school year. I know it’s not a big deal for him, but it is for me! Funnily, it’s usually not the kids he invites, either to his birthday party or for playdates, that invite him back, but others. Wonder what’s up with that – not a real outsider, but somehow not interested in the kids that are interested in him and vice versa. I may have to start a separate thread to discuss, it’s really an enigma to me...

 

DS was in heaven with all the technical stuff he's been getting for Christmas (a Georello marble machine, Lego creator sets, a Playmobil set with a real working metal detector). He grabbed the Lego creator set which was for 8-12 year olds and insisted on starting out immediately with the "advanced build", a huge fighter jet. He spent a full afternoon, evening, and morning on it, something like 8 hours, and bar some fine-motor help and some troubleshooting about missing pieces, did it completely by himself, with minimal whining and exploding in frustration. His granny was so proud she went out right away and got the next set for him, but we agreed that she was to give it to him only for Easter so he wouldn't freak out completely (he was barely able to sleep the night after he'd started building, he was so excited).

 

With the new year, all the private school information evenings and open houses are coming up and with shooting for early entry for DS, I need to seriously get in gear for a lot of appointments, starting out with his preschool teachers, whose recommendation for early entry I want and probably need, because schools want it too. Thankfully the head teacher has hinted they’ll back us up, but she’ll talk to us together with his K teacher (K is an informal pull-out program in pre-school where I live, formal schooling starts only in first grade, so the formal decision about early entry is coming up this spring). So I’ll need the preschool endorsement, a ped’s certificate for physical school readiness, a positive result from the universal Kindergartners’ screening, the consent for early entry from the public school’s principal we’re zoned for and the provisional consent for early entry from any private school we may decide to apply for (there’s one catholic and one Montessori we’re considering, and then there are the applications, too). In an environment which is totally redshirting-happy. Fun! But it’ll be interesting, too, to say the least.

 

Thinking that DD appeared to be coming down with something, I happened to ask her daycare teachers how she’d been doing recently and they started gushing “Oh, she’s been doing wonderfully! And she is so social and so helpful!” –“Really?” I say, smiling happily, thinking I have finally managed to produce a social child. “Sure”, they continue, “and she is so bright, it’s really amazing!”  - “That’s always so pleasant I hear”, I mumble, smile freezing, thinking I can’t believe I am fielding those comments again already, she’s barely 16 months old. – “Oh yes, she is distributing all the bibs for everyone at lunch time”. “But that’s about being social and helpful, isn’t it”, I say smiling happily again in relief. “Oh no, it means she is really bright because she’s got to remember where every single child is sitting – some kdis don’t manage that for years and she’s got it down!”

 

Oh, and DD has discovered her identity and is obviously fascinated, waking me up every morning patting me with her hand and saying “Mama!” , then indicating herself “DD!” (or rather the baby talk approximation..), repeat...it’s so cute!

 

 

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Happy New Year to all!

 

DS (12) is stressing out about summer music camp CDs and auditions. He is really hoping he will get in at one of his top choices. We will see... He is also prepping for the Contemporary Festival at NEC Prep School. He has several concerts this month, including a solo with a local orchestra and an appearance in Weill Hall at Carnegie, playing parts of the 3rd Bach suite.

DD will turn 10 later this month. She is learning how to program in Alice, writing more poetry and enjoying baking and playing the flute. She has blossomed into a real sweetheart, very helpful!

DS (6) enjoys watching NOVA programs and being read articles from Scientific American. He is loving the Wii now--spent a lot of time this vacation playing Lego Star Wars.

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Haven't posted in a very long time but thought I'd start the new year out with a bang!

 

DD (16yo) has applied to her first choice college and is confident she'll be accepted. I'm also quite confident this will work out.

 

DS (15yo) is hoping to finish this school year as a sophomore but then hs the remainder of high school and move onto college asap.

 

DD (5.5yo) has been playing violin for the past couple months. The instructor is awesome but the location doesn't work for dd. It's a hs arts co-op sort of thing in a church. The room we are in is cozy but cluttered (issue #1) and we must enter the building through doors that lead through a large, noisy room full of chattering, laughing, yelling children (issue #2). We're hoping to switch to lessons at the instructors home. *fingers crossed*

We've always struggled with DDs mood. Initially we thought this may be something like reactive hypoglycemia and food does help but we also, per a friends suggestion, decided to try Child Bright gummy vitamins. We're not thrilled about the sugar content but omg did they make a difference in her daily outbursts. We did still have some issues while family was visiting over the holidays but we noticed a considerable difference since our last family gathering and she's only been on the supplements for about 2.5 weeks.

 

DS (2yo) seems to be slightly obsessed with trains, it's all we do. He either plays with his brio style trains (this often leads to frustration as he attempts to keep as many as 20 cars on the track but they always derail) or watches trains on the internet. He doesn't play with any other toys and I do mean any. It's all I can do most days just to get him to play with anything. Again, trains are always a draw but he does tend to drift from them after he's gotten frustrated. Then I'm left trying to find him something, anything to keep him busy. He likes to help in the kitchen so I will give him things to "cook" for me while I'm working in the kitchen. This keeps him busy for about 15 minutes then I'm back to searching for activities that will make him happy and keep him busy. Once boredom sets in he tends to look for inappropriate things to stay busy with such as smacking ornaments off the Christmas tree and clapping his hands when they went flying across the room.

He announced on Christmas Day "No more nursing Mama" and he hadn't nursed until last night and not since despite my offering many times. This is rather dramatic as DS nursed very often throughout the day and even some during the night.

This little guy is my most intense child, I've never experienced anything quite so much at such a young age. I fear I'm really in for it with this one.

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Hope it's okay if I join! DD is 4.5, and we're planning on homeschooling. Her two big things lately - she's a reader, hooray (but I think it freaks her out) and she's a second generation Star Wars nerd smile.gif. she picked up some Bob books from the library around September, loved them, and so we've been steadily reading through them ( or steadily as possible given new baby). But when I mentioned that we could move to learning/practicing with Frog and Toad, etc., next, tears, drama, woe! so we're going to go back and do Bob all over again if that's what she wants... Not entirely sure what that's about. I tried leaving her a written "clue" to find her snack today and she loved it, so we'll just keep it fun and by her lead and see!

DH is a Star Wars freak (said lovingly), and started sharing some little clips with her right before his Christmas break(teacher). Which turned into all of the original trilogy, shown in 30m chunks, minus violent scenes, plus all sorts of crafts and role play - character masks, snowflakes, paper crafts... A trip to a nearby science museum with a themed exhibit, books from the library on SW homes and vehicles that the girl child pores over all day, plus some books on prosthetic devices, which have been fascinating her. DH has even said the depth of her interest has surprised him, but she gets these intense interests. And she's so imaginative, the scope of the story is totally up her alley.
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DS 2.5 read his first book.  Very slowly and one. word. at. a. time.  Luckily it was only 1 sentence per page and only 10 pages long because it was quite a painstaking endeavor.  He was so proud of himself - very cute!     He's also learned left from right after a week of casually mentioning it a few times a day.  I don't know, this may be totally normal, but it astounds me that as soon as he left from right on himself, he could immediately tell me my left and my right when I was facing him!  No coaching on that at all!  I'm just shocked because I still have to pretend to write to figure out my right hand.

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DD(2.5) became a big sister in November!  She adores the baby and is adjusting relatively well - though we are certainly having more frequent and intense tantrums these days.  She is having to learn to play by herself which is definitely a challenge for her.  I'm not sure how typical this is but she seems to be using an imaginary friend "baby" and her "big sister" as a coping strategy.  When she doesn't like the way something is going, she tells a story about baby in which there is a different outcome.  She also tells stories in which baby does all types of "mean things" and gets into all types of "trouble."  It makes me a bit nervous to be honest but at least - for now - they are only stories....  

 

I took her to see the Nutcracker in December and she loved it.  She also got "Peter and the Wolf" for Christmas.  She has been repeatedly acting out these stories and has also begun asking to take dance classes.  I am in the process of trying to find a class for her.

 

DD(7 weeks) is adorable!  :-)  

 

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When she doesn't like the way something is going, she tells a story about baby in which there is a different outcome.  She also tells stories in which baby does all types of "mean things" and gets into all types of "trouble."  It makes me a bit nervous to be honest but at least - for now - they are only stories....  


First of all -- congratulations on the new little one!

 

Secondly -- this type of story-telling is totally normal and very healthy. My eldest dd used to re-tell all the emotionally charged incidents in her life as episodes in "Skeleton World," the place where everything worked out to her advantage, mistakes were the desired outcome, and people who she was resentful of had nasty things happen to them. In our family we still say "That's what you're supposed to do in Skeleton World" when we make embarrassing mistakes. lol.gif Dd is turning 18 this weekend.

 

Miranda

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I took her to see the Nutcracker in December and she loved it.  She also got "Peter and the Wolf" for Christmas.  She has been repeatedly acting out these stories and has also begun asking to take dance classes.  I am in the process of trying to find a class for her.

 

DD(7 weeks) is adorable!  :-)  

 

DD was 2.5 when she started ballet 3 years ago joy.gif:joy Nice to have another mini-ballerina to read about. Her teacher made noises about her learning the Cygnet pas de quatre from Swan Lake this year. I haven't mentioned it to DD because she would be devastated if it doesn't eventuate.
We are on Summer holidays. Ridiculous because we unschool and you know, learning happens all the time. It's true though; ballet, drama, violin and science club are all on a break until early Feb so it feels like we are on school holidays. Instead we are swimming, practicing vioilin, bushwalking and spending a lot of time at the museum.
DD's stamina for violin practice has just had a massive growth spurt. Meaning she can now practice for what I consider to be a reasonable amount of time for a five year old. This is huge because she really likes it and wants to progress bur hasn't had the stamina to play for more than a minute or two at a time (and isn't interested in doing multiple sessions a day).
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DD(7 weeks) is adorable!  :-)  

 


Congratulations! joy.gif
 

 

 

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We've always struggled with DDs mood. Initially we thought this may be something like reactive hypoglycemia and food does help but we also, per a friends suggestion, decided to try Child Bright gummy vitamins. We're not thrilled about the sugar content but omg did they make a difference in her daily outbursts. We did still have some issues while family was visiting over the holidays but we noticed a considerable difference since our last family gathering and she's only been on the supplements for about 2.5 weeks.

After reading this, I immediately went out and got a vitamin supplement for DS! We feel having him partake of DD's vitamin D supplement has already made a difference for us. Maybe vitamins are our magic drug, too...

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We're in our home city for a while, spent most of 2011 travelling and now we need to settle in for a while. DD (4 at the end of this month) is adjusting nicely to living in the city again.

 

She's taking cooking classes, which she likes, but some of it bewilders her. All the safety procedure and instruction are a far cry from her experiences travelling in places where children younger than her are expected to help cook and get involved without a second thought, she often got in right with them.

 

We're going to the park every day and she's making friends again.

 

We're browsing through furniture and decor stores, and going to be setting up a room just for her.

 

Going to museums and famous locations, taking day trips out of the city.

 

Library time is a new favourite.

 

She's already asking when we're going away again, so maybe we'll take a just-for-fun trip somewhere she wants to go rather than somewhere mama and daddy go for work.

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Hello, this school year has been quite a change for ds; last year focused on his deficits and this year his teacher his teacher is encouraging his strengths.  Yesterday he became a finalist for his school's Geo Bee, which he is super excited about.  He was the only kid in his class (5th grade) to qualify.  He is also doing elp math olympiads and another elp program for defining words.  He plays the cello and baritone, but loves the cello.  Much of his free time has been spent playing with legos and wii games he got for christmas.  Oh, and we gave up our cable programming a couple of weeks ago, and ds found he loves watching history documentaries in addition to anime on streaming.  

 

Dd (2nd) prefers the documentaries about space, but overall prefers to get lost in a book or funny movie.  Her friends keep moving and I am a bit concerned.  In the summer, one of her good friends moved, and during winter break another one moved.  The other night, a classmate, which she has been enjoying invited her out to her sister's birthday.  When I was picking dd up, the grandma told me the little girl was moving over the weekend.  Dd does not know about her third friend moving :(   Academically, she doing well- told me she wants to be novelist which is a change from being a witch.   She is her class representative for the school student council, but she does not like getting up early in the morning to go to the meetings.    

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After reading this, I immediately went out and got a vitamin supplement for DS! We feel having him partake of DD's vitamin D supplement has already made a difference for us. Maybe vitamins are our magic drug, too...


I've never been a huge fan of supp's but I decided, after hearing my friends story, that it'd be worth a try. I just happen to prefer to get our nutrients from food. It occurred to me that maybe my kiddos have some less than common nutritional needs that I'm not meeting as well as I'd like. Maybe their brain and body functions make them in greater need of certain things. IDK So now my kiddos are on quite the regimen. They've got am and pm Child Bright, there's additional D and Calcium along with their multi. I also recently added a superfruit gummy to our family's list of daily's but that's just for the winter. Come summer we'll just eat the fresh fruitwinky.gif

 

Glad to hear you're seeing some progress in your ds after increasing some supp's.

 

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Can I say something about me here? It's about youngest dc but really the epiphany I had the other day.

 

My children have never played with toys! This just hit me the other when I realized youngest ds seems to have an obsession with trains. I had to call dh while out of town for work to tell him I'm a fool, that I hadn't seen this before! Quite frankly, NONE of my 5 dc have really played much with toys. The youngest two seem (or maybe it's me) more affected by the boredom this causes.

Anyway, there are Christmas gift toys laying everywhere and the only things being played with are the trains. Other than that, everything sits without a place to call home so it's my goal to organize all these toys that aren't being used.

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That's interesting...I am having somewhat similar epiphanies with seeing DD developing so differently - she is playing with toys much more than DS ever did, at a much younger age (also imitating, waving, showing social skills etc), so I realize more strongly that DS' development really has been unusual from the get-go. In fact, I feel that DS is catching up somewhat on "playing skills" by her example.

Trains have always been a big hit, though, and recently cars and car tracks. Also, I feel that once children like this get into Legos and contruction toys they appear more typical.

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I've never been a huge fan of supp's but I decided, after hearing my friends story, that it'd be worth a try. I just happen to prefer to get our nutrients from food. It occurred to me that maybe my kiddos have some less than common nutritional needs that I'm not meeting as well as I'd like. Maybe their brain and body functions make them in greater need of certain things. IDK So now my kiddos are on quite the regimen. They've got am and pm Child Bright, there's additional D and Calcium along with their multi. I also recently added a superfruit gummy to our family's list of daily's but that's just for the winter. Come summer we'll just eat the fresh fruitwinky.gif

 


Yeah, I wish I could just feed my kids fruit and vegetables (okay DS is now eating three kids of fruit and four kinds of vegetables, and is old enough to be gently coerced to be trying more, but DD, who will actually go hungry rather than eat anything but sausage and starch, sheesh...)! In fact the pharmacist, somewhat concerned, pointed this out to me when I asked or a recommendation for a kids vitamin supplement. If she had ever tried to feed my kids, she wouldn't bother...
 

 

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That's interesting...I am having somewhat similar epiphanies with seeing DD developing so differently - she is playing with toys much more than DS ever did, at a much younger age (also imitating, waving, showing social skills etc), so I realize more strongly that DS' development really has been unusual from the get-go. In fact, I feel that DS is catching up somewhat on "playing skills" by her example.

Trains have always been a big hit, though, and recently cars and car tracks. Also, I feel that once children like this get into Legos and contruction toys they appear more typical.



Yes, I have been longing for my youngest dc to start playing with things like legos, etc. DD (5.5yo) is interested in skeletons and organs and such. It's difficult for folks not to think she's interested in odd things. lol You should see her Christmas list! (animal x ray cards, human body models with removable organs and skeleton lol)

DS (2yo) is into trains and this is at least a little more typical to the outsider but he also likes to watch train videos online and we're considering buying him a tablethuh.gif after watching him use my dads ipad last weekend. This would free up our house hold desk top for others to use. I'm hoping to find a tablet that has a otterbox available.

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Yeah, I wish I could just feed my kids fruit and vegetables (okay DS is now eating three kids of fruit and four kinds of vegetables, and is old enough to be gently coerced to be trying more, but DD, who will actually go hungry rather than eat anything but sausage and starch, sheesh...)! In fact the pharmacist, somewhat concerned, pointed this out to me when I asked or a recommendation for a kids vitamin supplement. If she had ever tried to feed my kids, she wouldn't bother...
 

 



I'm so pleased at how well my dc eat. We have issues when things aren't perfect like a taco falls apart or I make red potatoes rather than yellow. Other than that, they eat just about anything I put in front of them. I am grateful.

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These are some of my DS's favourite videos at your son's age:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ANB-yZIJP6o&feature=related

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iKISC2Ac3rY

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dWGc8JAWWj0

 

And the killer video:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FF8YIH160hA

 

This last being the one that made me wonder at the time whether we might end up having an ASD eval at some point. As you know we did.

I'm so glad it's okay to have odd kids here.

 

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DD (18m) got accepted to a co-op for gifted this January. We are very happy for this opportunity.  They were not going to accept younger than 2 initially, and the next oldest is 3.5, the oldest 8.  But, lucky for us, they met her, and said they could see the need for it, and have been wonderful!  She loves it!  

 

A break through...she is self entertaining.  One day she played for about 15 minutes, and next thing I knew...hours!!! (sometimes lol)  Today I was able to cook dinner, and actually had to say "you okay?" ... TWICE!  (she also took out my pots and pans and emptied a zip lock bag container onto the floor one bag at a time, but hey, she did it all by herself lol) 

 

At her co-op, they go to the park everyday, and today she actually went into the sandbox.  (Big big deal).  They said she put her hands in the sand and actually "played" with the sand for a couple of seconds before having to have it wiped off.  This is the girl I watched learn to stand without using her hands because she didn't want dirt on them, and I wouldn't pick her up.  

 

Okay, and one more development, she seems to really like "no", doing what I tell her not to, not "hearing" me, ect...  I started some very breef "time out's" for safety reasons.  Luckily, she is so active, a few seconds on my lap is all it takes! lol 

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DD, just turned 5 in September, and we're considering starting her into 2nd grade now and skipping all of 1st. We home school, and ended up just doing the 1st 2 weeks of 1st grade this year before family issues came up, so she's been unschooling with 1st/2nd grade level computer software for the fall. I recently tested her for buying materials for next year, and discovered that she's already testing 2nd grade level for reading / grammar - I still need to test for math and science but from the work she's doing on the PC I feel she's ready for 2nd grade work. She's devouring chapter books {her favorites right now are Berenstein Bear chapter books and Mrs. Piggle Wiggle} and has inherited my speed reading. We are making progress on her social skills, but still I think it's time for a eval for ASD as her deficiencies are beginning to bother her more and more and I'm running into areas where I'm not sure how to help her. 

 

Our big thing was she finally agreed to go down a slide with assistance, and in one day went from being totally terrified of them to sliding on her own on big slides.  

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