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The Chinese chart said my daughter would be a boy, so it wasn't accurate for me the first time! But this time it says a girl, so maybe it'll be a boy? orngbiggrin.gif

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Have any of you mama's used the Chinese gender predictor chart? It's supposedly 90% accurate. Out of 12 of my friends/family (including my baby) it's been 100% accurate. It's saying another boy, and I'm feeling another boy. Mostly based on heartrate (142), what I'm craving (grapefruits and salty bread) and just the intuition. I've never vomited either... but, maybe it's a girl!

 

Bras: I personally really love Bravado bras. They have a stretchy chestband and the soft cups so you can grow into them. They've fit me when I'm a DD/E and when my supply decreased first trimester a bit and I was probably down to a C/D cup. I have some from Motherhood maternity and they're fine, but not as comfortable or easy. I think trying them on is the best choice (obviously) and getting fitted at a maternity/pregnancy store or Bravado has great Q&A's online and have an easy return policy.

 

We absolutely love the 2nd trimester in this household - we're 2/2 as far as increased blood flow goes! hug.gif I definitely had increased libido after DS was born - we only waited 3 weeks!

 

rivkajean - Hi and welcome to the group!



The Chinese Gender Predictor was right for all three of my sons and says girl for this pregnancy, so I guess we'll see! I have had dreams before I knew I was pregnant that I was having a daughter (and dreamed of boys with past pregnancies) but most of the other 'tests' I've done came out as a boy. I saw something a few years ago on a French study that was done indicating that the morning sickness issues were a fairly reliable predictor. But I will say I had pretty significant morning/afternoon/evening sickness all through my pregnancy with my sons. It's been pretty minimal for me this pregnancy, so it'll be interesting to see if that means anything!

post #43 of 103

chinese gender predictor was WRONG with my first. right with my second. this time date of conception was *i think* straddling the month, so either a boy or girl. not helpful :)
but it feels like a girl, same morning sickness and other sensations as with daughter, son felt totally different. we'll see. i don't necessarily want to find out but we do need to do an u/s for dates so we may find out this time.
i wish i could show you guys my fertility chart, trying to figure out conception date while breastfeeding is a joke for me. it's so messed up LOL... i've got a range from Sept 20-October 30...probably it was smack in the middle. add to that the range of 37 wks to 42 wks and i pretty much cannot stand not to find out a little more specifically. :)

post #44 of 103

I just spent $50 on flosser things for my kids. I used a gift-cert so it wasn't out of my pocket, directly, but I felt a little insane. All in the name of dental hygiene, right? jumpers.gif

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Whoa, and you only have 2 kids, right?  Those must be some high-tech flosser things!

 

Speaking of stuff totally unrelated to pg :), I had something funny happen at the grocery store yesterday that I wanted to share on mdc (because you ladies will "get it.")   So I am in the check out line and my 2.5 year old says "What is that thing called?"  (That's like a catch phrase with him these days).  I said What?  And he said, 'that thing that's like a big toilet paper."  I looked and he was pointing to a display of rolls of paper towels.  I told him it was paper towels.  The check-out lady was weirded out that he had never seen a paper towel.  She was like "I KNOW you must make a mess, big boy!  He acts like he's never seen those!"  I said, well, I guess he hasn't, that I don't use disposable stuff in the kitchen.  I think she thought I was crazy and she told me she never goes shopping without buying a couple rolls.  So I said, "well, then you can appreciate how much money I save by never buying them."  I think I got her thinking and I hope she might consider switching to cloth for the kitchen, too!

 

I hope ya'll are feeling better!  I'm loving the 2nd trimester so far!

 

 Last night I had my first dream that actually starred the baby.  I dreamed that this doctor told me that most ppl don't know it, but you can actually get the baby out as long as you put it back within 30 minutes.  So I got it out and it was so cute, but so little ( smaller than it really is now) that I was cupping it in my hand and holding it against my neck for warmth.  But then I LOST it!  DH was helping me look and we found it in the couch, we thought it was smothered (a friend had told me a story about a baby smothered in the couch just yesterday).  But it was alive and I made my husband go out of the room while I put it back in!  Weirdness!  lol

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Whoa, and you only have 2 kids, right?  Those must be some high-tech flosser things!

 

 I think I got her thinking and I hope she might consider switching to cloth for the kitchen, too!
 

 

It was a pack of 480 individual flossers. Wasteful, I know, but they are a disaster with a string of floss. DS has a mouth full of cavities in his baby teeth and I'm determined for him to have cavity-free permanent teeth!

 

We are hybrid cloth/paper because there are sometimes I just want to throw it out! I hate cleaning up yogurt mess with cloth since I don't always wash immediately. I don't sew so I look to etsy for the cloth items. It's funny because part of my job has me involved with corporate office for a sewing machine company. Let me know if you have any recommendations for shops. I'm recently obsessed with a friend's soap shop because I'm trying to take care that my skin doesn't totally flake off this winter. It's dry to begin with but pregnancy doesn't help. I even bought spray body oil from trader joe's to help. I know I can just use oil, but I like the spray part.

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lbkw, i do sew and while I have made plenty of napkins and such for my kitchen, what I almost always use for "rags" for wiping, like you would a paper towel, are just plain woven square dish wash cloths.  You can get like 30 or 50 of them together for $5 or less at a dollar store to be cheap about it...I bought two different packages of these years ago, so we have PLENTY and we use these for wiping counters, tables, spills on the floor, etc.  Like I said, we have lots and so I don't have to wash them nearly every day.  I just rinse them well at the kitchen sink and ring out, then let them pile up in a bucket in front of my washer so they don't sit wet on other laundry.  It works and I never think twice about paper towels.  DH thinks we should have a roll stashed on hand for the (occasional) times we fry fish or french fries or something, for draining grease.  But that happens infrequently enough that I just save paper napkins for that from our even less occasional take-out or fast foods.

 

I have been thinking about cloth tp, only for #1, and only for me, during pg, to save more paper, but I have a harder time committing to cloth for tp!

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ms.shell - I just read this article on the blog and it made me think of you. Although I'm not as weirded out by the "lotus birth" or "no-poo" movement, the quote she has about the cloth tp made me giggle. Specifically, this quote, "No way in heck am I ever washing cloth wipes that my husband used on his bottom.  NO WAY.  I would cut down a tree and make my own toilet paper before I would go there.  (If you are reading this, I am sorry honey.  I know my crap stinks too.)"

http://mamabirth.blogspot.com/2012/01/4-crunchy-things-that-just-make-me-gag.html

 

Isn't it funny how having PAPER in a house makes some people feel so comfortable?! My husband is from a family of 5 boys, and the cloth napkins only came out for very special occasions (and all of the brothers and my MIL and FIL live within a 1/2 mile of us). So whenever they visit (which is all the time), his brothers constantly ask - where are the REAL napkins? Where's the paper towel? I just smile anymore and don't take it personally!

 

rivkajean - So you were charting - everything? CP, CM and BMT? I am still actively nursing my 12 month old, but he was 9 months old when I got pregnant. I used the website Fertility Friend and they did accurately guess my ovulation date (with the current dating I have). I'd love to look at your chart if you want to share - otherwise, maybe input that stuff in to FF and see what they say! That's a huge range!

post #49 of 103
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ugh... been looking forward to today. pay day. Hubby off early. get to make my roast.

I'm soooooo sick. Why does it have to make a return on the day I've been looking forward to? I hope I'm better by Saturday... my little man turns 9 and wants to go out for his birthday... I don't want to ruin the day for him by feeling terrible!

 

Which makes me not look forward to my little woman's 7th birthday. End of June. I'm not going to be comfortable doing much by that point.

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You have sure had it rough, MaerynPearl.  I really hope you feel much better really soon.

 

I am so worried, ya'll.  I have been very diligent about trying to shield my belly from my exuberant ds.  But last night I was lying down in my room with my eyes closed and he JUMPED hard, knees first, right onto my belly.  Like I said, my eyes were closed, so I am not exactly sure how it happened, but it felt like he jumped off the headboard (he's never climbed up there before) onto me.  He is 2.5 (well, 2.75, really), and he weighs nearly 40 lbs.  He really slammed his knee down, right where I usually feel baby kick.  It REALLY hurt.  I thought about going to the ER, but then decided they wouldn't be able to do anything, so didn't.  Immediately after it happened, I felt A LOT of spastic seeming movements, definitely more than I have felt with this baby before.  At the time, I figured that what happened was that baby was sleeping and was rudely awakened .  But I haven't felt baby move today, despite lying down, nudging on my belly, really trying to get it to move.  I think my placenta is in the front, though, so the movements I have felt (before this) haven't been very strong or often.  But now, tonight, I am having what seems like a lot of cramping, especially on that side.  I keep thinking I am about to start bleeding, but I haven't.  I am really worried, especially since all this cramping started right where his knee landed.  I don't know if I should go to the doctor or hospital tomorrow, because like I said, I am sure there wouldn't be anything they could do...

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ms. shell - That is one of fears that my DS will do that to me.  He kicks me in his sleep sometimes, but nothing like what you described.  (Btw - my son was also born 4/09, they're the same age!)  I think I would call my care provider - probably not ER unless you are bleeding, but call in the AM.  They could do an ultrasound to check for heartbeat/bleeding or just doppler for heartbeat.  Then you would know, right?

 

MaerynPearl - I second what ms. shell said - you have had it rough!  I hope things start to go better for you soon.  Enjoy your son's bday!

post #52 of 103
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rivkajean - So you were charting - everything? CP, CM and BMT? I am still actively nursing my 12 month old, but he was 9 months old when I got pregnant. I used the website Fertility Friend and they did accurately guess my ovulation date (with the current dating I have). I'd love to look at your chart if you want to share - otherwise, maybe input that stuff in to FF and see what they say! That's a huge range!


I was charting on FF too.... CM and BMT partly. (CP i can't tell a difference EVER) See this is where it gets tricky. I was still nursing frequently and my very first period since postpartum was completely normal... temps and CM perfectly point to O - Sept 17th. We "avoided" 3 days before and 3 days after. 3 days after, had sex that night, next day I'm spotting, very light, very brown FOR 13 DAYS until Oct 4th! Now is that implantation bleeding? not really. Is that a screwed up period? Is that just "out of whack hormonal" bleeding? I have no idea. So I'm still doing temps. They're weirdish so I don't even drop them into FF only on paper - no sign of O shift... Meanwhile 20 month old gets his 2 yr molars and is nursing pretty much around the clock. I still try for temps but none of them were accurate... then I lost the paper when cleaning. Major FAIL. I didn't get 4-5 hours in a row for weeks. They were crazy temps though. Then I start getting "normal" temps again, expected period is a no show, i assume that my period is gone again from all the nursing. He starts nursing less, still no period shows up. I realize, oops :)
So I'm fairily certain I conceived while he was getting his molars. Only problem is I was so tired, I don't even remember having sex LOL. I certainly didn't mark it on the calendar. Husband says yea we did. I say when? He says, I have no idea. Helpful right? lol
So I don't think I could be 19 weeks -- from Sept 17th O. I'm only measuring near 14 cm. So that's out.
If I do pretend math and assume that my next period was supposed to show up on Oct 2nd, O would've been near Oct 16, if it had been predictable, which is not at all guaranteed since nursing. And I KNOW there was no clear temp recorded from teething, so who knows. But IF pretend math works, I'd be 15 weeks right now. If O had been delayed, maybe as low as 13 weeks since that would match my morning sickness starting up from Nov 2 - Nov 24 (around 4-6 wks) when I finally admitted it was not just tired and hungry and carsick, but definitely morning sickness.
Due dates between 7/8 and 7/19 maybe?

38 wks from 7/8 is 6/24

42 wks from 7/19 is 8/2
So all I know, at this point, is that I can expect a July baby :) Both my babies so far have been 39wk1day, so I'm betting July 2nd-13th. But then betting means he/she will show up Aug 10th or some crazy date :)
At least writing this all down here makes me less confused :)

 



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You have sure had it rough, MaerynPearl.  I really hope you feel much better really soon.

 

I am so worried, ya'll.  I have been very diligent about trying to shield my belly from my exuberant ds.  But last night I was lying down in my room with my eyes closed and he JUMPED hard, knees first, right onto my belly.  Like I said, my eyes were closed, so I am not exactly sure how it happened, but it felt like he jumped off the headboard (he's never climbed up there before) onto me.  He is 2.5 (well, 2.75, really), and he weighs nearly 40 lbs.  He really slammed his knee down, right where I usually feel baby kick.  It REALLY hurt.  I thought about going to the ER, but then decided they wouldn't be able to do anything, so didn't.  Immediately after it happened, I felt A LOT of spastic seeming movements, definitely more than I have felt with this baby before.  At the time, I figured that what happened was that baby was sleeping and was rudely awakened .  But I haven't felt baby move today, despite lying down, nudging on my belly, really trying to get it to move.  I think my placenta is in the front, though, so the movements I have felt (before this) haven't been very strong or often.  But now, tonight, I am having what seems like a lot of cramping, especially on that side.  I keep thinking I am about to start bleeding, but I haven't.  I am really worried, especially since all this cramping started right where his knee landed.  I don't know if I should go to the doctor or hospital tomorrow, because like I said, I am sure there wouldn't be anything they could do...


This is one of my fears too! They really can't do anything either except check. I just keep telling myself that the muscles are super thick and super strong and to quit worrying everytime I'm jumped on... but none of the times so far have been as hard as yours!!

 

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rivka - It definitely seems like you're totally "on" with all of your assumptions. How funny that you don't remember DTD, and DH says you did, but doesn't know when! Hah - they're always so helpful! I also spotted around the time AF was due, and I thought I was starting my period. When I spoke to my midwife about it, she mentioned that typically nursing mamas have low progesterone (which can cause the spotting). So maybe those days of bleeding were just when AF was expected and you could look at that as your 4 week mark?! (just another thought to throw into your easy equation of due dates - lol)

 

ms.shell - I'm so sorry! The OB I've seen with my complications did say the only reason to come in and see her was if DS kicked my stomach in a manner that was from the top of my stomach down. Otherwise, she said that no trauma to any other part of the stomach at this point could cause harm. I'm sure baby is ok, but if you're worried an ultrasound can only make you feel better (or at least doppler). I'm so anxious about DS kicking me too - I sleep with king size pillow between my knees, pulled up past my stomach to help shield the blows.

 

Maeryn - I agree with everyone - you've had a rough pregnancy with your sickness so far! I hope you're feeling better soon.

 

AFM - I'm frustrated. I'm going to go on a mini-rant session here, so if you want to respond with any helpful advice or suggestions - I'm fair game. Or, if you just want to listen (read), I totally appreciate that too, as having a group like this to rant TO helps so much! Plus, I know I have an awesome life and a little baby that is hanging in there - so I know I have very much to be thankful for.

 

So, I'm seeing my homebirth midwife on Sunday and I wanted to get some specifics of the subchorionic hemorrhage that I was dianosed with over a week ago (at 13 weeks). The DO that I've seen in the practice has been terrific, but we live in a small town and I've never heard great things about the quality of care here. Plus, because I only bled red once, (I've had sporadic, tiny amount of brown blood) I was dianosed with the SCH after the SECOND ultrasound that I had (first ultrasound at 11 weeks after the bleed), and when the DO called me with the diagnosis (she just had the preliminary ultrasound report) she was really calm about it... I believed that the SCH was small and probably had reabsorbed, as I haven't had blood for almost a week now. So, I call, ask to talk to the nurse, they call me back 4 hours later and the tech says "It says on the report that your SCH is 8cmx8cmx2cm." I just about lost my breath. This is a HUGE SCH - it's the size of the entire baby. greensad.gif I ask her location and she says "The report doesn't say that, I can't tell you" Duh - you need to look at the picture to see location. Anyway, I'm frustrated because:

1) If this SCH is so large, why wasn't it picked up on at 11 weeks when I was having active bleeding?! I highly doubt it's grown 800x in size within 2 weeks. Now, we don't have a baseline for if it's growing or shrinking and I'll need to get even more ultrasounds now (and I don't like getting ANY ultrasounds at all).

2) The final ultrasound report sat on the DO's desk for over a week while she was on vacation. Maybe I'm partially frustrated because of that - because what would they have told me do to for the last week - bed rest? That my risk of miscarriage is 50/50 now? It wouldn't have made a difference, but the fact that it was just forgotten about bothers me.

3) If this thing is that huge, and not bleeding... now what? I'm just hoping that it's on the other side of the baby (non-placenta side) and that it's reabsorbing because of the lack of bleeding. I just started taking arnica and I'm going to up my progesterone cream and add wild yam supplements... and trying to take it easy.

 

My midwife is really calm about it, and just supports the fact that I need to get more ultrasounds. I'm still praying for a homebirth. I've been having these nightmares (every night) that I'm having a hospital birth and the nurses and doctors aren't listening to me - that they force me to lay on my back to birth, they cut the cord immediately, and then basically wrestle the baby away from me to do the "necessary" checks and shots and circ immediately - and won't let me nurse. I know, basically won't happen, but I have heard these horror stories about not listening about the cord clamping, not respecting the no-circ, just giving the eye drops and Vit K shot, and just not letting me BE with my baby. This is why it's been a nightmare.

 

Secondly, when Maeryn said something about the "have a baby, lose a tooth" - I thought it was odd. I've never heard of that saying before! Well, last night, I decided (after a month of not having it), that I wanted icecream with Trader Joes dark chocolate covered pretzels on top. Mmmm... I took one bite and thought, "Wow, that pretzel was hard." Oh no... not a pretzel - I just swallowed the back half of one of my teeth. lurk.gifLuckily, it doesn't hurt. But, I called my midwife and she suggested that I get it pulled without ANY medication and definitely no x-rays. (because of the pregnancy and nursing) She said she has a great dentist that stops when it starts to hurt. I'm laughing out loud while I write this... I'm sure I'll be fine - I mean, I had childbirth without any pain meds and I didn't think it was that bad - but still... most people don't look forward to having a tooth pulled without meds. Plus, we don't have dental insurance and I don't think we have $2-3k to get a crown put in. So, does that mean I'll feel even more beautifu while pregnant while missing a tooth!? Ahhhhhh... It will all work out.

 

I just keep praying for this babe. If we get a healthy baby at the end of the day, all of this will just be a distant memory someday!

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WendyJo: When your midwife says no medication, what about the topical anesthetic? I definitely know women who have required dental work during pregnancy and I'm sure they did not forego all medication. I've had significant dental work (due to congenital issues) and unmedicated childbirth and I'd choose childbirth anyday. Good luck.

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You have sure had it rough, MaerynPearl.  I really hope you feel much better really soon.

 

I am so worried, ya'll.  I have been very diligent about trying to shield my belly from my exuberant ds.  But last night I was lying down in my room with my eyes closed and he JUMPED hard, knees first, right onto my belly.  Like I said, my eyes were closed, so I am not exactly sure how it happened, but it felt like he jumped off the headboard (he's never climbed up there before) onto me.  He is 2.5 (well, 2.75, really), and he weighs nearly 40 lbs.  He really slammed his knee down, right where I usually feel baby kick.  It REALLY hurt.  I thought about going to the ER, but then decided they wouldn't be able to do anything, so didn't.  Immediately after it happened, I felt A LOT of spastic seeming movements, definitely more than I have felt with this baby before.  At the time, I figured that what happened was that baby was sleeping and was rudely awakened .  But I haven't felt baby move today, despite lying down, nudging on my belly, really trying to get it to move.  I think my placenta is in the front, though, so the movements I have felt (before this) haven't been very strong or often.  But now, tonight, I am having what seems like a lot of cramping, especially on that side.  I keep thinking I am about to start bleeding, but I haven't.  I am really worried, especially since all this cramping started right where his knee landed.  I don't know if I should go to the doctor or hospital tomorrow, because like I said, I am sure there wouldn't be anything they could do...



The only thing I'm worried about is the cramping. The "i feel like I'm going to start bleeding" is you worrying, most likely. The movements and now lack of? Very common this early.

Please, if the cramping gets worse, go in. Even if he didn't do something to the baby he could have done something to you. Since everything's getting bunched together with baby starting to grow up out of the pelvis, things that aren't usually at risk could be now.

 

I had a placental abruption (after the jolt of stopping to not hit a deer in a 45mph zone!) with my son and the ONLY sign was the cramping... but it was bad and it was enough to go to the ER (it didn't start bad but by the time we went to the ER we thought it was appendicitis). Trust your intuition on that. If it gets bad enough, go to the ER or doctor... if there's something going on in there, you need to know so you know to take it easy.

 

 

 

 

myself... eh. I threw up supper last night. Then cried about it. it was delicious, originally. I made everything perfectly (not usual, I almost always screw up the gravy) but I think I just ate too much too fast

 

today, hubby let me sleep in because he had the day off (MLK jr bday but because he HAS to work monday, due to his training he's leaving for, they let him have today off) then we went out to eat. I felt a little sick while eating but I did fine and kept it down, managed to go shopping at 4 different stores without upsetting my stomach, as well as a lot of driving in traffic (which I hate, due to the previously mentioned placental abruption, I'm terrified of traffic suddenly stopping even though I know I'm not at such a high risk of it anymore) 

 

So it's been a good day. And I bought baby stuff! a 4 pack of onesies and a warm winter outfit, both gender neutral (heck, both white! LOL) because I know no matter the gender, I'd have bought them anyway.

 

Plus, hubby bought me one of those cushions so I can sit up in bed and read, so I'm going to go read because I'm already done with the first book of the three he got me from the library a couple days ago and they have plenty more in the series I haven't read.

 

Here's hoping tomorrow is as good of a day as today!

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 Last night I had my first dream that actually starred the baby.  I dreamed that this doctor told me that most ppl don't know it, but you can actually get the baby out as long as you put it back within 30 minutes.  So I got it out and it was so cute, but so little ( smaller than it really is now) that I was cupping it in my hand and holding it against my neck for warmth.  But then I LOST it!  DH was helping me look and we found it in the couch, we thought it was smothered (a friend had told me a story about a baby smothered in the couch just yesterday).  But it was alive and I made my husband go out of the room while I put it back in!  Weirdness!  lol


lol!  I had a dream very similar to this during my last pregnancy- wherein I discovered that I could get the baby out, but thought I would get in trouble with DH and my midwife if they found out.  So there I was, getting the baby out of my belly (who, by the way, was wrapped in a green blanket??) and admiring him (or her! was not evident in the dream) but could hear people starting to come into the room, so I was all rushed trying to get the baby back in, panicking, and thinking WHY didn't I pay attention to how this fit in here? What am I going to do? How will I ever get it out again if I put it back wrong?!!!

 

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LOL!!! Love the dreams! I've had those too!

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I had a similar dream earlier in this pregnancy - maybe at 6 or 8 weeks.  I pulled the whole package out, placenta and all, and was looking at the baby/embryo in the amniotic sac.  It had huge, blue painted-on doll's eyes.  Then I stuck it back in and reattached everything.  shrug.gif

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weird, that must be some sort of archetypal dream if 4 of us here have experienced it.

 

i thought i should tell ya'll baby started to move like normal later that night, and I felt it again in the night last night.  That cramping I had was never real bad, MaerynPearl, probably normal growing pains or something.  I was just worried and noticed that it was on the same side and near where his knee hit.  Now I am thinking everything's fine.

WendyJo, 

 

 

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I've been having these nightmares (every night) that I'm having a hospital birth and the nurses and doctors aren't listening to me - that they force me to lay on my back to birth, they cut the cord immediately, and then basically wrestle the baby away from me to do the "necessary" checks and shots and circ immediately - and won't let me nurse. I know, basically won't happen, but I have heard these horror stories about not listening about the cord clamping, not respecting the no-circ, just giving the eye drops and Vit K shot, and just not letting me BE with my baby. This is why it's been a nightmare.

 

I hear your fears and can relate.  That kind of stuff can happen, but in my experience I think it's to those who aren't informed and prepared.  I had two totally different hospital births, and the difference was, as I said being more informed and prepared.  First time, I was young, had not near as much knowledge myself, just because I assumed that was what the doctor was for, and I just let him lead the way and run the show, iykwim, and it was a mismanaged nightmare (with my son taken from me right after birth to be thrown on a table in the delivery room, alone, and then the next day kept from me for over 24 hours, him having a day of nothing per mouth and having to suck on a red bottle nipple?? and a long time where I couldn't hold him!  And him being subjected to chest xrays that weren't even looked at, lost, then repeated)!  AND There was NOTHING WRONG with him!  Terrible.  I didn't know any better.  Well, next time I did and when we presented at the hospital with a printed short birth plan it was quite apparent that they needed to follow our direction.  iykwim  The main thing was just that:  Baby will be with mother or father at all times.  Everything that was on our plan was well respected and followed, including more than one thing that they originally said they could not do.  If I remember correctly, they insisted on the eye drops, but I am certain they waited to do that until after we had bonded for hours and he had looked around a good bit; I am actually thinking maybe it was the next day, even?  DH went to the nursery to bathe him soon after birth as we didn't think about a diaper!  and he pooped on us!  That's probably too much of my story, but my point to you is, go in there with a plan, and assume they want to please you and will follow this plan to the best of their ability.  Be friendly and assume they are; hopefully there will be no need to have stress or fight for your rights.  Just know them, and put your preferences in writing (have copies and give them to the hospital, the nurse desk, your nurse, the doctor, etc) and stand strong as parents.  And don't worry about it in the meantime!  IME, that never does any good!    

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Oldest is 9 today. I feel old. 10 years ago I was pregnant (and sadly, unaware I was about to lose my pregnancy) homeless and fresh out of an abusive relationship. 

Now, I'm pregnant for the 5th time, 4th baby, married to an awesome man and live quite comfortably. 

 

The crap I went through the past 10 years to get to where I am now was totally worth it though... I have such a great marriage and amazing kids... I never would have dreamed I'd be here now, back then.

 

I'm making my little man lego birthday cakes... he's huuuuge into building with legos and wants to be an engineer when he grows up so he practices designing stuff now using his legos.

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