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Hi Mamas,

Playing a little catch, right now, but wanting to thank you all for the kind words and prayers a few weeks ago as I was dealing with the death of my great aunt. I didn't have time for much of anything besides spending time with family a few weeks ago, and then I felt like I spent all of last week catching up around the house and trying to get back into our routine, so I haven't really had time to even turn on the computer.

I didn't even really introduce myself to you before jumping right in and asking for prayers, so I will try to do that one night this week if I stay up late enough after my little ones are down. In the meantime, thanks again for the thoughts and prayers, it was nice to know that I could put that out there to a group of strangers and feel like I was supported.

 

Briefly . . . Nazsmum - good luck on the car! I was glad to hear your husband was okay after the car wreck.

John16n33 - I hope you are settling in well. I will keep you in my prayers as you find a church home and a bible study group, I know how hard it can be to not have those local connections.

MrsK - I feel like we will have lots to bond over! I am pregnant as well (due in early December), I love making jams and canning . . . and thinking about deep things that can't be explained!

Canadianhippie - I am curious about these movies y'all have mentioned. I don't have much time for television, but this sounds like it is worth watching.

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Thanks DeeGee we are praying that the Lord will work this car thing out.

You said that we are "a group of strangers" but we are not. If we are believers we are all of One Spirit and are One in Messiah. So not matter where we are we are one because Jesus makes us one. Jesus said people will know we are His because we are One with each other!!

(John 17)

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Well said Naz!

 

I am so tired lately, I just have so many things juggling through my mind.  I am trying to make this house a home, but we really have nothing by way of furniture or anything-even after our home goods get here. But we are also kind of broke lol, so I am making a list of things to build.  I am hoping to find some good second-hand tools at a swap meet in a couple weeks.  The first thing on my list though is raised garden beds!  Speaking of broke, I am also trying to find something I can do from home to bring in some income.  Usually I would sell my knit hats (but we live in Hawaii so that's out) or I would do home daycare (but I am doing my student teaching next spring so it wouldn't be fair to the families I watched), I am just praying about it and hopefully the Lord will guide me.

 

Kind of on the same note but what is everyone's thoughts on the Proverbs 31 woman?  I have honestly never given much thought to it, but I have noticed that there are a ton of blogs out there were that is their focus and someone brought it up on another forum I am on.  I am just curious and thought it might spark some discussion :)

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Can you sell the hats on the internet?? Could you find a child to watch until the spring? OH I remember student teaching...I had the WORST student in the school!!!

The Proverbs 31 woman? Well I don't think that I will ever live up to her. I just try to do my best and keep my eyes on Jesus.

 

nak

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MrsKohen- I asked my friend to explain about the DNA question. Now I understand it. I would think that God gave DNA to Adam and Eve. It was just perfect...no problems at all. So I would think that YES they did have DNA. Because the Lord told them to multiply before the fall. So they would have DNA to make new children. RIGHT?

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Does your husband teach?

Nope. He works at a potato plant. I wish he came home smelling like a teacher! :) I homeschool my SILs. I was homeschooled but got an ed. degree in college so I figure I got the best of both worlds. :)

We start back a week from Monday. Am I ready? Nope, but I should be by then. Like everything else, slowly but surely. Been focused more on washing baby clothes this week just to give my mind a rest. :)

 

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MrsK - I feel like we will have lots to bond over! I am pregnant as well (due in early December), I love making jams and canning . . . and thinking about deep things that can't be explained!

Yeah! I'm not as different as I could be. :) Looking forward to knowing you better!

 

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Well said Naz!

 

I am just praying about it and hopefully the Lord will guide me.

 

Kind of on the same note but what is everyone's thoughts on the Proverbs 31 woman?  I have honestly never given much thought to it, but I have noticed that there are a ton of blogs out there were that is their focus and someone brought it up on another forum I am on.  I am just curious and thought it might spark some discussion :)

Is there anything you could build to sell? My husband has considered selling some handmade picture frames and had the lady not come down with throat cancer, would have sold a set recently. I have a tentative sale of some crochet finger puppets. Ppl I've asked like them and I'm thinking about taking some of their suggestions and making some to go along with old classic children's stories.

 

Thoughts on the Proverbs 31 woman? Well, there's a LOT to look up to in her. Something my college pastor's wife brought up in Christian Womanhood class is in vs 11, "The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil."  (My thought to start) in the patriarchal culture of the Bible, a man trusting a woman like this was not "the norm". In Christianity and Judaism, I don't see women being stomped on, but they were not in the position women are in today. (Teacher's thoughts). Her husband's heart trusted in her. He needed nothing more than HER. He didn't need to conquer the land, he didn't need to work himself to death for material things. He didn't have to worry about the things going on at home because he knew she was capable, level headed, worked hard, and frankly not a ditz. She was so valuable to him!

 

Reminds me of Prov 12:4 "A virtuous woman [is] a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed [is] as rottenness in his bones." A crown makes royalty who they are. A good wife is as a crown to her husband. She completes him and he cherishes her. I see that in my marriage. The first year was rough but after that, we've had a great marriage. I put him first (most of the time....redface.gif) and he treats me like his treasure. Then I want to treat him better, and he treats me better....

 

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MrsKohen- I asked my friend to explain about the DNA question. Now I understand it. I would think that God gave DNA to Adam and Eve. It was just perfect...no problems at all. So I would think that YES they did have DNA. Because the Lord told them to multiply before the fall. So they would have DNA to make new children. RIGHT?

I assume maybe they did. BUT it's not necessarily a requirement so long as they had the capability of it forming in the children. We're all a copy of a copy of a copy of a copy..... No wonder we're so broken in body. This world's about to hit the expiration date, IMHO. If they did have perfect DNA, I wonder what that looked like compared to ours today.

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MrsK- My cousin is a Prof. of potatoes @ MSU. eat.gif  I was asking if your husband is a teacher of the Word? I don't think that you NEED a degree for that.

 

We are home...no 8:30 service. They just canceled it.

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MrsK- That's a really good perspective!

 

AFM- I guess I could sell hats online, it's just something that is sold a lot online (you know?).  I might ask my Aunt in Texas if she wants to sell them in her store down there, I could sell them to her for wholesale price and she could put them in the store for retail.  It's something to ponder at least.

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MrsK- My cousin is a Prof. of potatoes @ MSU. eat.gif  I was asking if your husband is a teacher of the Word? I don't think that you NEED a degree for that.

 

We are home...no 8:30 service. They just canceled it.

Oh okay, sorry, missed that. Well I guess it depends. He wouldn't say he was, but he really has unique perspectives, and it's things he's searched out for himself. Not all just parroting what he's heard and been taught. This family LOVES to debate. Politics, religion, science, farming, whatever else they come up with. The most frequent is theological topics though. Overall, the family is Independent Baptist. That's what I was raised from age 14 up. BUT there are a lot of differences within each family on this and that. Nothing that will affect your salvation, but things they discuss just the same. Hubby really loves to share his insights, which really can be quite brilliant (IMHO) but he gets SO FRUSTRATED when ppl won't take the time to think and analyze and research what he's said. He would be a great teacher and I can't wait to have him teaching our kids. Do I always agree 100%? No, but he always keeps at it till I at least see his point and he sees mine. :)

 

 

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MrsK- That's a really good perspective!

 

AFM- I guess I could sell hats online, it's just something that is sold a lot online (you know?).  I might ask my Aunt in Texas if she wants to sell them in her store down there, I could sell them to her for wholesale price and she could put them in the store for retail.  It's something to ponder at least.

Thanks, anyone else have thoughts? What are yours, John16n33?

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MrsK- I'm honestly not sure what my perspective is, I think it is a really good role model to look up to and I try to fit as many of the categories as possible.  But at the same time I don't want that to be my only goal in life to the point where I obsess over it.  I think if we lean on Christ and follow him, he will guide us to be the kind of mother and wife he wants us to be.

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MrsK- Your husband sounds a lot like me. My family debates everything. I get very frustrated with people...mostly with "Christians/church" Also I would love to do a bible study...Which I was talking to my mom about. I might just start one and see what happens.

 

John16n33- Hey is there a need in TX for the hats? If so then I say go for it. I will pray that the Lord opens up something for you.

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Naz-  In the winter time yes, because I am from NE Texas so we do actually have winter there lol.  I'm going to call my Aunt and see what she thinks about it.

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Reminds me of Prov 12:4 "A virtuous woman [is] a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed [is] as rottenness in his bones." A crown makes royalty who they are. A good wife is as a crown to her husband. She completes him and he cherishes her. I see that in my marriage. The first year was rough but after that, we've had a great marriage. I put him first (most of the time....redface.gif) and he treats me like his treasure. Then I want to treat him better, and he treats me better....

 

 

 

Absolutely! Were over the year point now, for us it was all about understanding how we each like to be cared for, how to approach and how to talk so the other will not feel upset or attacked. We had this natural attraction to work together well with household tasks, like fixing things up or dishes, laundry, etc. and especially with parenting. 

 

We went into the relationship seeking long-term commitment to marriage, and we feel blessed we found it, no matter what, we decided we would work through it all, and have utmost respect, even if we are so mad, we always refrained from "not caring" what we said to each other, no swearing, yelling, name-calling, disrespectful accusations, etc. 

 

I adore him for the man he is, and he does the same for me. They dont make em like my sweetheart often!

 

I feel my biggest push towards seeking to apply biblical principles in my life is to be the best wife to him and create the family I've dreamed of.

 

Since Ive been gaining inspiration from these ways, I cant tell you how much happier I have been. I see changes even how other view me in public, they are so polite and friendly, more than usual. I see all these subtle "signs" that I thought were coincidences before, but now that Ive been reaching out and praying to the Lord, they match perfectly to what I am seeking with him, its truly amazing. 

 

Even with my partner, who is working out of province. He was even praying for the same things as me, and saying he feels blessed for what I do, saying God Love Him to our son when he is doing something precious on Skype. and he was where I was prior to a few weeks ago, not seeking biblical principles, and we havent even discussed it much, and look at the signs! 

 

I thought it would be harder to give up traits I thought were mine, but it was just an excuse to stay how I was, its so much easier that I thought it would be. I constantly have to stop myself from reacting poorly, its like breaking bad habits, but it is paying off!

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Canadianhippie- Jesus said "come to me, all of you who are struggling and burdended, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, because I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light."

 

As you follow Jesus you can find rest. Real rest that can only come from His peace. As you grow in the Lord burdens are changed. You will see the wold as the Lord sees it.

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Very well said Naz!

 

Canadianhippie- Your post made me smile, it really is inspiring.  I love that your husband is praying for you in that area as well, I am still praying that my Dh comes around and finds Christ but in the meantime I am praying and trusting in God.  And I agree it is hard to make the right choices, but the great thing is that you notice and see the changes that need to be made.  I think that is often the most difficult step, to see what we are doing wrong and accept it enough to want to change it.

 

AFM- I have been thinking and praying a lot about the fact that my Dh isn't a believer lately.  A friend of mine from high school's grandfather just passed away this past weekend. He had been in the hospital for a week or so and a few days before he passed away he finally accepted the Lord into his heart.  His wife had been praying for him for their entire marriage.  Sometimes it's disheartening to think my Dh might go his entire life without knowing Christ, and only get to meet him in the end.  But a few months ago my BIL reminded me that as long as he accepts him before his time comes that's good enough for Christ, and all we can do is pray about it continuously and hope that his heart is softened towards God.

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John16n33- A friend's father is dying. He is dying without Jesus and it is killing me. My friend doesn't know Him either. I feel so bad for the father and the whole family really!!! It is so hard to see people that you love and know dying w/o being saved.

 

The thing is I have tried to be her friend but something is missing...We just can't connect on some level. That makes me sad as well. My father is not saved and that "kills" me. Sharing Jesus is something we are to do every day...but it can be so hard.

 

I know I rambling sorry. It's just something that is so much on my mind. WHAT DO YOU SAY TO A PERSON WHOM IS NOT SAVED AND GOING THRU SUCH A HARD TIME???

 

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REALLY WHAT CAN YOU SAY?

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MrsK- I'm honestly not sure what my perspective is, I think it is a really good role model to look up to and I try to fit as many of the categories as possible.  But at the same time I don't want that to be my only goal in life to the point where I obsess over it.  I think if we lean on Christ and follow him, he will guide us to be the kind of mother and wife he wants us to be.

I think obsessing over nearly anything can get too much. God gives each woman gifts and talents unique to her situation. I don't intentionally try to pattern my life after the Prov 31 woman, but as a wife, my husband is my ministry, my calling. I want to be the BEST I can be for him and be the most godly woman I can be. I try to always grow in that way as much as possible.

 

 

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MrsK- Your husband sounds a lot like me. My family debates everything. I get very frustrated with people...mostly with "Christians/church" Also I would love to do a bible study...Which I was talking to my mom about. I might just start one and see what happens.

 

John16n33- Hey is there a need in TX for the hats? If so then I say go for it. I will pray that the Lord opens up something for you.

Yes, that's why we don't go to church. He gets so upset with the legalism and things stuck in as if they're in the Bible when they're not. He doesn't get anything positive from it and goes home grouching about it all for a week. Lol So we don't go. One day, maybe there will be one we'll be able to go to, but for now, nope.

 

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Absolutely! Were over the year point now, for us it was all about understanding how we each like to be cared for, how to approach and how to talk so the other will not feel upset or attacked. We had this natural attraction to work together well with household tasks, like fixing things up or dishes, laundry, etc. and especially with parenting. 

 

We went into the relationship seeking long-term commitment to marriage, and we feel blessed we found it, no matter what, we decided we would work through it all, and have utmost respect, even if we are so mad, we always refrained from "not caring" what we said to each other, no swearing, yelling, name-calling, disrespectful accusations, etc. 

 

I adore him for the man he is, and he does the same for me. They don't make em like my sweetheart often!

 

I feel my biggest push towards seeking to apply biblical principles in my life is to be the best wife to him and create the family I've dreamed of.

 

Since Ive been gaining inspiration from these ways, I cant tell you how much happier I have been. I see changes even how other view me in public, they are so polite and friendly, more than usual. I see all these subtle "signs" that I thought were coincidences before, but now that Ive been reaching out and praying to the Lord, they match perfectly to what I am seeking with him, its truly amazing. 

 

Even with my partner, who is working out of province. He was even praying for the same things as me, and saying he feels blessed for what I do, saying God Love Him to our son when he is doing something precious on Skype. and he was where I was prior to a few weeks ago, not seeking biblical principles, and we havent even discussed it much, and look at the signs! 

 

I thought it would be harder to give up traits I thought were mine, but it was just an excuse to stay how I was, its so much easier that I thought it would be. I constantly have to stop myself from reacting poorly, its like breaking bad habits, but it is paying off!

So true and well put! I've always been argumentative to the point of rude, stubborn, and just selfish and prideful. Once we got married and I REALIZED that, wow. It really changed me a lot.

 

Here's an example of a turning point. We'd been married a bit more than a year. I was really sick on Christmas and didn't feel up to going over to his cousin's house after we got back from his parent's house. He decided to go without me. I sat there feeling so sorry for myself. I was sick (not just a cold, health problems), it was Christmas and I was 2000 miles away from my family, I was not that long married and he left me ON CHRISTMAS, he forgot to get me a gift bc he procrastinates and I'd gone out of my way to make his day special, woe is me, woe is me.


Then it hit me. How much of my complaint was about me? All of it. Was this thinking about him and letting him visit his family on Christmas the way he's always done? No. Was it selfish? YES. And prideful. Oh man, that really stung. I repented of it and when he came home, I told him about it and asked him to forgive me. He didn't even think about it hurting me AT ALL. That was a turning point in my attitude and really in our relationship. We ended up having a great rest of the evening back at his parents for just a little while and he's a lot more sensitive to how I feel and what he wants to do.

 

Anyone else had an Aaaaaa moment in their Christian life? How did it change you?

 

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AFM- I have been thinking and praying a lot about the fact that my Dh isn't a believer lately.  A friend of mine from high school's grandfather just passed away this past weekend. He had been in the hospital for a week or so and a few days before he passed away he finally accepted the Lord into his heart.  His wife had been praying for him for their entire marriage.  Sometimes it's disheartening to think my Dh might go his entire life without knowing Christ, and only get to meet him in the end.  But a few months ago my BIL reminded me that as long as he accepts him before his time comes that's good enough for Christ, and all we can do is pray about it continuously and hope that his heart is softened towards God.

I Cor 7:14,16 "For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.... For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save [thy] husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save [thy] wife?"

 

Don't lose heart! My Mom was saved a long time before my Dad. One day, when I was 7, God finally broke his heart for Him. He's never been the same. : )

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Originally Posted by Nazsmum View Post WHAT DO YOU SAY TO A PERSON WHOM IS NOT SAVED AND GOING THRU SUCH A HARD TIME???

 

CAP LOCK STUCK...SORRY AGAIN whistling.gif

 

REALLY WHAT CAN YOU SAY?

Man it's hard. What do you say to someone who is an agnostic, whose agnostic father just passed? I had that last year. I just told her "I'm praying for you!" She isn't offended by that and took comfort in it. My Uncle isn't saved, and he's been dying of cancer a LONG time. He's really being given extra time FOR SURE. He's an atheist and so many ppl have talked to him. I just keep praying. He's 2000 miles away, so I can't say much. But we just keep praying and say things as kindly as we can when we can.

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My aaaaaa moment was with people that I was listening to on the radio. I was listen to BAD teachers....so I stopped and now I'm the better for it.

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Praise the Lord!!!

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