Originally Posted by John16n33
MrsK- I'm honestly not sure what my perspective is, I think it is a really good role model to look up to and I try to fit as many of the categories as possible. But at the same time I don't want that to be my only goal in life to the point where I obsess over it. I think if we lean on Christ and follow him, he will guide us to be the kind of mother and wife he wants us to be.
I think obsessing over nearly anything can get too much. God gives each woman gifts and talents unique to her situation. I don't intentionally try to pattern my life after the Prov 31 woman, but as a wife, my husband is my ministry, my calling. I want to be the BEST I can be for him and be the most godly woman I can be. I try to always grow in that way as much as possible.
Originally Posted by Nazsmum
MrsK- Your husband sounds a lot like me. My family debates everything. I get very frustrated with people...mostly with "Christians/church" Also I would love to do a bible study...Which I was talking to my mom about. I might just start one and see what happens.
John16n33- Hey is there a need in TX for the hats? If so then I say go for it. I will pray that the Lord opens up something for you.
Yes, that's why we don't go to church. He gets so upset with the legalism and things stuck in as if they're in the Bible when they're not. He doesn't get anything positive from it and goes home grouching about it all for a week. Lol So we don't go. One day, maybe there will be one we'll be able to go to, but for now, nope.
Originally Posted by canadianhippie
Absolutely! Were over the year point now, for us it was all about understanding how we each like to be cared for, how to approach and how to talk so the other will not feel upset or attacked. We had this natural attraction to work together well with household tasks, like fixing things up or dishes, laundry, etc. and especially with parenting.
We went into the relationship seeking long-term commitment to marriage, and we feel blessed we found it, no matter what, we decided we would work through it all, and have utmost respect, even if we are so mad, we always refrained from "not caring" what we said to each other, no swearing, yelling, name-calling, disrespectful accusations, etc.
I adore him for the man he is, and he does the same for me. They don't make em like my sweetheart often!
I feel my biggest push towards seeking to apply biblical principles in my life is to be the best wife to him and create the family I've dreamed of.
Since Ive been gaining inspiration from these ways, I cant tell you how much happier I have been. I see changes even how other view me in public, they are so polite and friendly, more than usual. I see all these subtle "signs" that I thought were coincidences before, but now that Ive been reaching out and praying to the Lord, they match perfectly to what I am seeking with him, its truly amazing.
Even with my partner, who is working out of province. He was even praying for the same things as me, and saying he feels blessed for what I do, saying God Love Him to our son when he is doing something precious on Skype. and he was where I was prior to a few weeks ago, not seeking biblical principles, and we havent even discussed it much, and look at the signs!
I thought it would be harder to give up traits I thought were mine, but it was just an excuse to stay how I was, its so much easier that I thought it would be. I constantly have to stop myself from reacting poorly, its like breaking bad habits, but it is paying off!
So true and well put! I've always been argumentative to the point of rude, stubborn, and just selfish and prideful. Once we got married and I REALIZED that, wow. It really changed me a lot.
Here's an example of a turning point. We'd been married a bit more than a year. I was really sick on Christmas and didn't feel up to going over to his cousin's house after we got back from his parent's house. He decided to go without me. I sat there feeling so sorry for myself. I was sick (not just a cold, health problems), it was Christmas and I was 2000 miles away from my family, I was not that long married and he left me ON CHRISTMAS, he forgot to get me a gift bc he procrastinates and I'd gone out of my way to make his day special, woe is me, woe is me.
Then it hit me. How much of my complaint was about me? All of it. Was this thinking about him and letting him visit his family on Christmas the way he's always done? No. Was it selfish? YES. And prideful. Oh man, that really stung. I repented of it and when he came home, I told him about it and asked him to forgive me. He didn't even think about it hurting me AT ALL. That was a turning point in my attitude and really in our relationship. We ended up having a great rest of the evening back at his parents for just a little while and he's a lot more sensitive to how I feel and what he wants to do.
Anyone else had an Aaaaaa moment in their Christian life? How did it change you?
Originally Posted by John16n33
AFM- I have been thinking and praying a lot about the fact that my Dh isn't a believer lately. A friend of mine from high school's grandfather just passed away this past weekend. He had been in the hospital for a week or so and a few days before he passed away he finally accepted the Lord into his heart. His wife had been praying for him for their entire marriage. Sometimes it's disheartening to think my Dh might go his entire life without knowing Christ, and only get to meet him in the end. But a few months ago my BIL reminded me that as long as he accepts him before his time comes that's good enough for Christ, and all we can do is pray about it continuously and hope that his heart is softened towards God.
I Cor 7:14,16 "For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.... For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save [thy] husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save [thy] wife?"
Don't lose heart! My Mom was saved a long time before my Dad. One day, when I was 7, God finally broke his heart for Him. He's never been the same. : )
Originally Posted by Nazsmum
WHAT DO YOU SAY TO A PERSON WHOM IS NOT SAVED AND GOING THRU SUCH A HARD TIME???
CAP LOCK STUCK...SORRY AGAIN
REALLY WHAT CAN YOU SAY?
Man it's hard. What do you say to someone who is an agnostic, whose agnostic father just passed? I had that last year. I just told her "I'm praying for you!" She isn't offended by that and took comfort in it. My Uncle isn't saved, and he's been dying of cancer a LONG time. He's really being given extra time FOR SURE. He's an atheist and so many ppl have talked to him. I just keep praying. He's 2000 miles away, so I can't say much. But we just keep praying and say things as kindly as we can when we can.