The AWESOME One Thread Graduates- January 2012.

[CDsMom1031]

This thread is for members of the ONE thread from the Trying to Conceive forum. Some of you have started similar threads in the DDCs but this is an all-inclusive, cross-DDC thread. We have all made connections and friendships with ladies who got BFPs before or after us so this can be a central thread for us to catch up and for those on the other side of the One thread to keep up with us!

In bold, please tell me: Name, Due Date, how long it took you to conceive and what you went through to conceive, what "number" child this will be, and anything else you would like to add.

Members:

Due January 2012

Writinglove, conceived the old-fashioned way in one month, #1

Due February 2012

19-OdinsMommy0409 (Laura), got pregnant on the second cycle after a chemical pregnancy, planning a HBAC with boy #2!

Due March 2012

28-tantylynn (Teesha), after 20 cycles (1st cycle of Clomid), #1 

Due April 2012

13-belacmsage (Bela),  26, tried 6 months with opks, fertility monitor, preseed, vitex, soy, b-6 and male fertility drugs too! Finally, left it up to DH to decide when to DTD, did it A LOT and got her BFP!

26-vivica2, tried for 1 1/2 years, went through 1 m/c, 4 rounds of clomid, progesterone, instead cups, bbt chart, soy isoflavones, and on and on and on.... can't wait to get fat and grumpy!  #3

Due May 2012

7-BubbleMa (Sarah), TTC for about 5 cycles (seems like much longer though).  We used a calendar to track fertility and DTD accordingly.  We also used Pre-Seed, and I took Maca, and EPO.  Baby #2 for me, #3 for So, our first together!

8-RenoKirbyButtrs (Jamie), got BFP on second month trying after 11 years! on BC, #1

8- MeredithA

11-km84, this will be our first

12-janellody (Janelle), #1, got her BFP on the first month trying after several months charting

Due June 2012

2- CorgiMommy, expecting a little boy after a 2nd tri loss.

6-kylie1 (Kylie), pregnant after 11 months of straight trying, on-and-off trying for about three years or so, with acupuncture twice and lots and lots of charts!  #4 (#3 for her and #2 for him)

6-AndtheStars (Maria), expecting #2, trying for 3 months, NTNP for...shrug, who knows.

26-GradStudent13, expecting #1 after three months of trying

Due July 2012

9 - reelala (Sarah), trying for 3 months, Baby #1 for us, YAY!

12 - scowgirl (Jennifer), conceived on the 4th try using RRL tea, 100 mg B6, preseed and instead cups, #1, 

25 - Deborah Kelly, TTC #1 for 9 months, BFP on 11/18/2011, we did IVF, I have endometriosis, Hashimoto's disease (antibodies against thyroid gland that results in hypothyroid) and diminished ovarian reserve, had a very scary retrieval but managed to retrieve and transfer 2 embryos, one survived, which we found out became identical twins!!!

28- I'm Belia- #2 - we conceived on our second month with charting.

Due August 2012

20- FeralFox (Tris), due with #2 on the first try!

Due September 2012

1- MamanFrancaise- Expecting #3 after 3 months TTC

19- Mamaforever- Expecting #2, conceived two cycles after a m/c with the help of charting and B6 to lengthen LP.

19- Carlin- Expecting #2 after 5 months charting and only early loss in October.

ONE Thread Babies! 

2011:

July 14th - Kayden (LivingSky)

August 19th - Reed Adam (jillybeans)

October 4th - Jacob (ValH)

October 11th - Julia (yellowdart)

October 31st - Conner Dean (TTCChloeOrConner)

December 13th- Stephanie Margaret (Mummoth)

January 29th- Emma Faith (MommyMatsumoto)

Need an Update:

8/19-savah, conceived on 4th month (3rd temping), #2

9/11-LovingBaby (Elizabeth), took 7 months (charting, OV strips), #3

10/13-Nicolian (Nicole), charted for 2 cycles, #3 (#4 for DH)

10/23-not_telling (Jess),  took 3 cycles, #2

11/9-TalkToMeNow (Amanda), tried for 4 months, #4 (3rd pregnancy)

12/30- LadyScientist, conceived on the first "real" try, $1!

In Our Thoughts:  

Gemmine

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Edited by CDsMom1031 - 1/31/12 at 7:07pm

[CDsMom1031]

Since no one took over, I got it again. No big deal. I'm super mom, right? YEE HAWWW.

However, if it takes me the whole month to update your info, don't blame me. Blame my job. Or my school. Or my baby. Or my housework.

I hope everyone had a wonderful New Year's Eve, followed by a hangover free (DUH for 99% of you, who are pregnant, LOL) New Year's Day.

I played beer pong for the first time in over a year. Conner Dean stayed with Grandma. She loved it. Today is her birthday. She said it was the best birthday present ever. I must admit though, come 12:01, I was ready to leave and go pick him up and go home. But I didn't. I let her keep him until about 8 this morning.

I probably won't ever leave him overnight again. As nice as it was to be free of responsibility, I missed it. Mommy mode is in full effect.

[deborahbgkelly]

Hey TTC- I hate to ask you to change it again, but can you change "which we found out are going to be identical twins" to "which we found out became identical twins". Thanks!

[deborahbgkelly]

Thanks TTC! AFM- Yay- My levels look good and I will be off the Prednisone and the Crinone by 1/7!

[scowgirl]

TTC, THANK YOU for doing the thread again! I know you are incredibly busy. Thank you, thank you.

[MamanFrancaise]

Thanks for the thread! The TTC one thread was a lot of work so I feel for you!

 

[scowgirl]

OK--I have an "all about me" question--again. Thanks to all for putting up with me.

I had a bad experience last Friday. As I mentioned on a previous thread, the last 2 times I was at my midwife's office, my blood pressure was high. 130 something/90 or so the first time, and 150/90 (!!!) the most recent time on 12/9. She diagnosed me with probable chronic hypertension and sent me for a high-risk consult with an OB in her hospital's system. I went to the high-risk consult on 12/30 and took with me a bunch of blood pressure readings that I took at home. I am not sure what I did with my notes now, but there were about 8-10 readings in the 130/80 vicinity, 2 in the upper 130s/80, and 2 or 3 around 120/80 or below. They took my bp with the large cuff at this appointment and it was 136/80.

So, not great.

Anyway, the OB agreed that I have chronic hypertension. She lectured me about my diet and weight gain (now granted, I had gained 7 pounds per their scale at 12 weeks, which I know is bad--but really, it's the holidays and I'm not sure that rate of weight gain is going to hold up. Also she insisted I had gained "over 10 pounds." Not true). Then she ordered blood and urine work to look for high blood sugar and protein in the urine, and made me do that glucose challenge test with the orange drink. She also sent me for an EKG to see if the blood pressure was damaging my heart. All told we were at various doctor's offices or waiting rooms for over 6 hours that day. I was a wreck and eventually started crying. I'm sure this did not help her perception of my depression either. I have a history of depression, and when my doctors have asked about it since I've been pregnant, I tell them the truth. I am in general not the happiest camper because I loathe my job, but I am no more depressed now than I was pre-pg and it's not at a crisis point or anything. I'm not interested in antidepressants because I really don't think it's a great idea to subject my baby's developing brain to them (for me only--I don't judge anyone who chooses or needs to take them). She really wanted to send me out of there with a prescription for antidepressants, but I held the line. Long story short, she told me the midwife practice could keep me if they wanted (since they're all affiliated with the same hospital, they can keep higher-risk patients and just consult with the OBs as needed), but her strong prediction was that I would end up under her care. I'm actually glad DH was there with me to see what it was like, because in some ways he was more upset than I was with how she handled everything. She wasn't not nice or anything, it just all seemed really alarmist and her delivery was very upsetting. I mean, the only real data she has is my weight and about 15 not very high blood pressure readings, and who knows how much all of these tests cost us? At 12 weeks? Yikes.

I know there are a lot of real potentially scary health issues here that I need to worry about and try to deal with, but I guess what I am looking for now is honest opinions. How likely am I now to end up with the whole hospital birth/c-section scenario? I can just see it heading down that road. I would really like to stick with my midwife at the hospital's birth center. I am very discouraged. Although (again) I know there are real risks that you need to be concerned about, it is hard to imagine how dehumanizing it can feel to be a fat health care consumer. As I said, I'm sort of glad DH got to witness it firsthand.

The good news (which she barely mentioned in passing--she must have thought someone else already told us) is that our first trimester screening came back looking really good. Odds are 1/3000 for Down's and something like 1/10000 for trisomy-18. So we were at least happy to hear that.

[scowgirl]

Another question--can anyone see any threads in the July DDC? For me, it says "there are no discussions yet," which is weird because of course there are tons of discussions.

[janellody]

Originally Posted by scowgirl 

Another question--can anyone see any threads in the July DDC? For me, it says "there are no discussions yet," which is weird because of course there are tons of discussions.

It says the same thing when I go to May DDC....

[CDsMom1031]

Originally Posted by janellody 

Originally Posted by scowgirl 

Another question--can anyone see any threads in the July DDC? For me, it says "there are no discussions yet," which is weird because of course there are tons of discussions.

It says the same thing when I go to May DDC....

Hmmm. So does November's.

[CorgiMommy]

Hallo ladies, I would like to join - I am feeling a lot better and 'safer' with this pregnancy now and would love to know how all of you are doing.  Some of you may remember me from the TTC one forum.  SO HOW ARE ALL OF YOU!!!

I am 18 weeks, with a little boy.

[deborahbgkelly]

Scowgirl- Make sure you remember that they are in groups, not in the regular forums. Corgimommy- How exciting! I have a minimum of 5 more weeks until we find out whether we have boys or girls in here. So far we're split 75/25 DH and his cousin think girls. I think boys and so does a friend of mine. My massage therapist is with me because I knew we were having twins long before the ultrasound. I haven't had my parents and brother weigh in yet. Then again, girls are more common with identicals, so it will be very interesting.

[CDsMom1031]

Originally Posted by CorgiMommy 

Hallo ladies, I would like to join - I am feeling a lot better and 'safer' with this pregnancy now and would love to know how all of you are doing.  Some of you may remember me from the TTC one forum.  SO HOW ARE ALL OF YOU!!!

I am 18 weeks, with a little boy.

HIII!!! Remember me?!?!

May I ask what was going on that made you feel insecure about your pregnancy???

[CorgiMommy]

Yes, I remember you - how far u now?

I am also from the TTC after Miscarriage tread - had a 2nd tri loss in June 2011, 14.5 weeks

[KM84]

Good to see you Corgi!

I saw some other folks who were on the One Thread for a long time also got BFPs. Hopefully they'll stop in and say hi. :)

[CDsMom1031]

Originally Posted by CorgiMommy 

Yes, I remember you - how far u now?

I am also from the TTC after Miscarriage tread - had a 2nd tri loss in June 2011, 14.5 weeks

I had my baby on Halloween, so I'm not currently pregnant. =)

I'm sorry for your loss, but I'm happy that you were able to conceive again quickly and that it stuck around this time!

[LivingSky]

scowgirl - As you already know, I completely feel your pain. So, here's my understanding of blood pressure: one person's normal isn't the same as the next person's. "Normal" blood pressure usually ranges between about 100/60 to 130/80 (I think I have those ranges about right, but I'm going from memory). Your blood pressure is only actually high if it's above whatever your normal is. So for me, my normal is about 120/80-125/80. That was both pre pregnancy and while I was pregnant. So 130/80, for me, wouldn't actually be very high. But if my normal was 110/70, then 130/80 would be pretty alarming for me.
I guess what I'm getting at is, do you know what your average BP was before you got pregnant? Because it sure sounds like your normal is around 130/80, which is the high end of the 'normal' scale of normals. Does that make sense? If 130/80 is normal for you, then you do NOT have hypertension.
So, I think you'd be fine to stay with the midwife practice. But what I would suggest is for you to find a doula, if you don't have one already. Find an experienced doula who is NOT all wierd about your weight. They're definitely out there, and if money is a concern, they'll often work out a price that works for you, or sometimes work for free. Let your doula be your advocate. If your doula has a lot of experience, she can help you know what is normal and what you should be worried about. Of course you don't want to ignore hypertension if that's what you actually have, but you also can't spend the next 28 weeks in a panic about a condition that it really doesn't sound like you have.
/endrant

[kylie1]

I must say, it's been a long time since I've been on this site! Time just flies by, doesn't it?

Saying a very overdue hello to all the mamas who've come here since. How are you all?

[scowgirl]

Thanks, LivingSky. That is very timely advice as I was just coming to the conclusion last night that I really should hire a doula. I think that is my best shot at avoiding a million interventions (at least those that aren't necessary. Obviously I welcome the necessary ones).

I think my non-pregnant blood pressure does go up when I weigh more, which I know is bad, but I do think this is my normal for this weight. That's a good way to look at it. I will keep monitoring to see if it changes one way or the other. It's not so much that I am afraid I have high bp (if I do, I'll definitely want to know about it and treat it) as that I was taken aback by all the tests and alarm that came out of the high-risk consult. I really didn't think the data that I had necessarily warranted all that was done (EKG, glucose challenge, etc. etc. etc.) It sort of freaked me out and made me feel like they were telling me I was in some immediate health crisis, rather than dealing with a condition I would want to keep an eye on and follow up on, which is more the approach I expected.

Thanks again. I know I have been freaking out about this repeatedly. It's just been a while since my health has been scrutinized to this degree, and it's hard.

[janellody]

Hey guys!  I am 22 weeks today and SAW my baby moving in my belly yesterday, which was amazing!  I can feel he is bigger and I am excited that I am getting closer.  I still have 18 weeks which is a looooong time but I am anxious to get through it and meet my little guy!