We have 3 girls and are pregnant with #4, don't know the sex. We have found out with the other 3, so we never made it far down the circ road discussion. We live in a decently small Kansas town, so our circ rate here, last I dug, was still 85%-ish. DH is circ-ed. In the back of my head, without any real research, I always kind of thought I wouldn't if I had a boy. This was based on no other knowledge that cutting or sticking needles or anything on my new baby is not something I can comprehend. I also figured I would have a battle with my quite conservative DH. So we decided to wait with this one. I have done some research and after not really finding a reason to circ, was pretty well set that I would take a stand. Tonight I brought it up with DH, who said he does not feel strongly either way, but also cannot really imagine anyone taking a knife to his son's penis without a damn good reason and agrees with me that the "reasons" out there are are not worthwhile. So I was pleasantly surprised that he was on board and actually agreed. Yea DH!
So now I am thinking through it. Our area circ, for the most part. So obviously I need to make sure our wishes are known at the hospital. But what do I need to make sure our Ped knows? I have read a lot on here about Peds not really knowing what to do with an uncirced penis, and want to make sure I have a good set of knowledge. Should I preemptively dump that on her, or wait until something arises that makes me concerned she will try to prematurely retract? Our Ped is pretty mainstream, BUT has been a friend of ours for 20 yrs and is Very respectful of our decisions. Our youngest two have health conditions that are autoimmune related. I told her we were thinking of delaying/selectively vaxing this next one and she gave me all of the reasons she thinks vaxing would be good and why we should, but finished with..."all that said, you are the mom and you are researching and have good judgment, so if your mom gut tells you to wait or not to vax in order to sleep at night, I will totally respect and support you". So that is the type of Dr she is. I just want to make sure she knows what not to do. Do most peds know how to manage a non circed penis now, or is it still not general info?
Does anyone know what the current circ rates are per region? I am just curious how our area is coming along. I feel oddly nervous not circing, but confident it is the right thing. I have never dealt with an infant penis before since we have girls. I never knew I had a paranoia of doing it "right" I have this odd fear of my insane conservative inlaws trying to retract when babysitting for no reason than they will think we are nuts for not circing.
All this said, it may be a girl, lol. If nothing else, I have a new respect for DH as a dad. :)