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1-2-2012 Weekly Chat Thread - Happy New Year!!

post #1 of 40
Thread Starter 

Appointments:

 

andaluza, ultrasound 1/5

LilyTiger, ultrasound 1/5
eleuthia, birth center visit 1/10

cillian, appointment 1/10

dovemama, ultrasound 1/12

tylersmomma, appointment and ultrasound 1/12

Veritas Vitae, ultrasound 1/13

ainh, nuchal scan and dermoid cyst follow up ultrasound 1/17

rebecca10, appointment 1/18

Mama Chickadee, appointment 1/18

midstreammama, appointment 1/19

Cecilia's Mama, appointment 1/19

Lisanne, orientation/appointment 1/23

tylersmomma, appointment and ultrasound 1/26

Sallyrae17, appointment 1/30

 

Hope I got everyone!

 

How was everyone's New Year's Eve/Day? We generally go to my parents' house for food and games for NYE, and this year was no exception. What we did do differently was have a sleepover party this year! My sister, her husband and two kids, and my brother's two kids (he and his wife didn't stay), as well as me, my husband and Cecilia, all slept over in various rooms and on various floors. We had a great time! We played lots of Rockband and Just Dance and Tri-Bond before midnight, and then all crashed by about 1 am. Then we took it easy the next day and didn't end up leaving my parents' house until almost 2 pm! Totally awesome time, and Cecilia absolutely loved being with her cousins for such an extended stay.

 

Cecilia getting into Rockband. She was screaming, "DUMS! DUMS!" the entire time.

 

Cecilia getting into Rockband. She was screaming, "DUMS! DUMS!" the entire time.

 

 


Edited by Knitting Mama - 1/4/12 at 6:01pm
post #2 of 40

We did a whole lot of nothing on New Years Eve/Day... that's how we usually do it though. I don't think I've ever been out for NYE, lol. Usually we have a party with the kids with little snackies and movies and games but my big boys are kinda getting bored with that and we didn't plan well in the food dept. So it was a really relaxed evening with the bigs playing their video games, the girls crashed out early and hubby and I went from kid to kid to each other. I do hope 2012 is a MUCH better year than the past couple have been...

post #3 of 40

Cecilia is too cute! And I bet she could beat me at Rockband drums. 

 

We told our families yesterday. I talked to my parents for a few hours (my partner talked to his for less then 10 minutes, haha) and then sent a facebook message to my siblings, which lead to an hours-long facebook chat with my sisters, SIL and mom. They are so excited & supportive.  Everyone was pretty shocked, since we never told anyone we were trying. Thankfully, they didn't say anything about us not being married. My nephew (6 months old) will outgrow a lot of his baby gear by the time this baby arrives, so my sis is going to send things to me, which will be really helpful, and the same sister works at Gymboree so she'll be on the lookout for cheap baby clothes. And another sister or two are going to come visit & hopefully be around for the birth. Oh, and yet another sister practically begged to help me decorate the nursery (she's totally into my grey/yellow/aqua color scheme). I am really so thankful to have such a big, close immediate family (it makes me kind of sad my kid may likely be an only child - but at least they will have lots of aunts/uncles/cousins). 

post #4 of 40

Happy New Year everyone!  Eleuthia, I'm so happy telling everyone went well. 

 

We just got back from a week vacation in Florida, visiting my in laws.  It was a long trip home last night, but luckily my daughter slept most of the way.  My daughter had a great trip, and her grandparents and great grandmother were thrilled to see her, but unfortunately I was stuck in front of the computer working almost the entire time (I only took off Christmas day and Saturday) and also caught a cold, so it was not much of a vacation for me.   Work is not going to let up at all for at least two more weeks, so I'm feeling pretty nervous managing everything. But, we'll get through it. 

 

We told my in-laws on Christmas day, even though it was super early--my mother-in-law was in tears she was so excited.  I haven't told my parents yet, which feels weird since I always tell my mom everything, but I wanted to wait and do it in person, so we'll tell them sometime this week I think. 

 

I have my first appointment with my OB on January 18th, when I'll be about 7 1/2 weeks I think.  I'm looking forward to it, as I think it will make this pregancy seem more real. 

post #5 of 40
HI! I am pg with hopefully my third.. Prob eight weeks right now... We found out a bit late around seven weeks and i am hoping everything is okay wasn't taking prenatals and did have a drink or two several times before we found out.. Have an appt next week on the tenth..due august 12 according to my dates...
post #6 of 40

appt on the 12th with a ultrasound and a appt on the 26th with a ultrasound

post #7 of 40
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Originally Posted by cillian View Post

HI! I am pg with hopefully my third.. Prob eight weeks right now... We found out a bit late around seven weeks and i am hoping everything is okay wasn't taking prenatals and did have a drink or two several times before we found out.. Have an appt next week on the tenth..due august 12 according to my dates...


I'm sure everything is fine. Many women don't find out their pregnant until 6 or so weeks when symptoms start to appear. And not everyone takes prenatal vitamins prior to pregnancy or even during the first part. I've been hit or miss with mine b/c of the nausea.

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I have my nuchal scan and dermoid cyst follow up ultrasound on January 17th.  I'm nervous about both parts.  I'm "advanced maternal age" (barely) and this bizarre cyst thing is really stressing me out.  I had a bad dream the other night about the baby having serious problems.   I guess I'm glad I'm going for these checks since I'm worried about both issues.  I'm due sometime in the first week of August -- varies b/t their dating ultrasound and my dates.

post #9 of 40

I've never been so great about taking prenatals until I was pregnant and early on that was hit or miss because I'm either nauseous or forgetful, lol.

 

I'm kind of upset with my BIL and SIL. We went there on Christmas Eve to celebrate the holidays. We were there for a couple of hours when my SIL said something about my youngest niece taking a nap, that she was very sick (fever, cold/flu symptoms, etc) and she was so happy she was sleeping away from her for a bit (little one is 3ish). I was kind of upset because we weren't told before we came that she was that sick (or that she was sick at all!) A couple hours later she got up from her nap and my ILs let her run around with all of the healthy kids. I've got 5 children... if I have the choice I'd rather NOT get sick. Well, sure enough a week after, my youngest comes down with a runny nose... she's teething so I thought it might be that but it's thicker than her 'usual' teething symptoms. My 4 year old is also sniffly and slightly congested and my husband tells me he 'feels' something in his throat/chest. Yesterday I start to feel something in my throat.... this morning I woke up coughing a thick cough. I can't believe they would let us all come over with the little one sick like that... this isn't the first time this has happened either. I thought it was common courtesy to inform people that are supposed to come over that you have a sick child. I always do and if any of mine were that sick (high fever especially) I would not want anybody over. Sorry to rant but it really irks me! I told hubby we'll be calling and asking if everyone is well next year before we make the trip...

post #10 of 40
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Originally Posted by cillian View Post

HI! I am pg with hopefully my third.. Prob eight weeks right now... We found out a bit late around seven weeks and i am hoping everything is okay wasn't taking prenatals and did have a drink or two several times before we found out.. Have an appt next week on the tenth..due august 12 according to my dates...


Totally fine... your blood supply doesn't effect baby much just yet. Baby is pretty self sustained right now and will be until closer to 12ish weeks when the placenta starts to kick in and function. That happened with my third as well and that's what my OB told me :)

post #11 of 40
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Originally Posted by ainh View Post

I have my nuchal scan and dermoid cyst follow up ultrasound on January 17th.  I'm nervous about both parts.  I'm "advanced maternal age" (barely) and this bizarre cyst thing is really stressing me out.  I had a bad dream the other night about the baby having serious problems.   I guess I'm glad I'm going for these checks since I'm worried about both issues.  I'm due sometime in the first week of August -- varies b/t their dating ultrasound and my dates.



I will be thinking of you. Please let us know how it goes.

post #12 of 40
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by ainh View Post

I have my nuchal scan and dermoid cyst follow up ultrasound on January 17th.  I'm nervous about both parts.  I'm "advanced maternal age" (barely) and this bizarre cyst thing is really stressing me out.  I had a bad dream the other night about the baby having serious problems.   I guess I'm glad I'm going for these checks since I'm worried about both issues.  I'm due sometime in the first week of August -- varies b/t their dating ultrasound and my dates.

 

I added your appointment. You will be in my thoughts, too!

 

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Originally Posted by ~Demeter~ View Post

I've never been so great about taking prenatals until I was pregnant and early on that was hit or miss because I'm either nauseous or forgetful, lol.

 

I'm kind of upset with my BIL and SIL. We went there on Christmas Eve to celebrate the holidays. We were there for a couple of hours when my SIL said something about my youngest niece taking a nap, that she was very sick (fever, cold/flu symptoms, etc) and she was so happy she was sleeping away from her for a bit (little one is 3ish). I was kind of upset because we weren't told before we came that she was that sick (or that she was sick at all!) A couple hours later she got up from her nap and my ILs let her run around with all of the healthy kids. I've got 5 children... if I have the choice I'd rather NOT get sick. Well, sure enough a week after, my youngest comes down with a runny nose... she's teething so I thought it might be that but it's thicker than her 'usual' teething symptoms. My 4 year old is also sniffly and slightly congested and my husband tells me he 'feels' something in his throat/chest. Yesterday I start to feel something in my throat.... this morning I woke up coughing a thick cough. I can't believe they would let us all come over with the little one sick like that... this isn't the first time this has happened either. I thought it was common courtesy to inform people that are supposed to come over that you have a sick child. I always do and if any of mine were that sick (high fever especially) I would not want anybody over. Sorry to rant but it really irks me! I told hubby we'll be calling and asking if everyone is well next year before we make the trip...


That would make me pretty mad too!

post #13 of 40
Thanks for all the advice.. I feel better! Hopefully everything will be fine! I am feeling super sick so that's a good sign.
post #14 of 40

Okay, I've been deeply neglecting the chat threads because I've just felt like crap so much, but I did want to update about my birth center tours while not currently feeling like crap!

 

The first birth center we visited was much like the one I'd been to before - it's a little house that's not very big with a couple of nice, sunny, homey birthing rooms and a couple of exam rooms. I like that only one of the exam rooms is set up with a regular doctor's table. The other just has a nice twin bed and chairs. We spent quite awhile visiting with one of the midwives. It was extra good because, from the website, this was the midwife I'd been most concerned about liking, and I liked her just fine! We also met one of the other midwives in passing and she seemed very nice. On the down side, I felt nauseated practically the whole time, but they were very nice and brought me some water and I nibbled on some crackers I had, so I survived. I also found out the dh didn't have any idea you couldn't have an epidural at a birth center, nor did he know I was adamantly opposed to having one! I thought we had discussed this, but I guess not. He also had no idea that birth centers were so small - I think he was really envisioning something like a small hospital, but just for having babies. So he was kind of in shock. He did agree that it seemed like a nicer, more comfy place to have a baby than a hospital. (He hates hospitals and doctors, but never knew babies were born anywhere else till he met me!) All the midwives at this birth center are originally homebirth midwives, and, in fact, also do homebirths as well as birth center births. Two are CNMs and two are CPMs, and there are always two midwives there while you're in labor. Those were all things I liked. What I didn't like was that both the back up hospitals they use are not the greatest, and both their back up OBs are men. Also, they don't have hospital privileges, so if I have to go to the hospital, they can't continue to manage my case. It's also a little far from where we currently live, and not particularly close to anywhere we'd like to live, but I think there is an area we can move to that isn't far from our current location that will put us closer to dh's family and the birth center, about the same distance to dh's work, and not much further from my family - but we'll be able to take freeways instead of surface roads.

 

The second birth center was a completely different feel. It's actually located in a medical office complex, which I feel like would be strange if I'm laboring during a week day. I think the birthing rooms don't share any walls with other offices, but it still seems a little strange to me. It's very nicely decorated, very up-scale and professional feeling. dh was definitely more comfortable there, and said it was a little more like what he was expecting. It definitely had more of a doctor's office feel to it. The midwives there were both L&D nurses together for a long time before going to midwifery school together, and they both practiced with OB/hospital-based practices before opening the birthing center. Because of that, they do have privileges at the local hospital, and their back-up OBs are actually doctors one of them used to work with. So if we had to transfer, the midwife would go with us, and as long as it wasn't a c-section, would still be the one to attend the birth. That was probably the biggest point they had in their favor in my book, along with nicer hospitals and lower prices. dh definitely liked this place a lot better. Oh, and they had bigger tubs that used air jets instead of water jets, which is easier to sanitize. They are much closer to our current apartment, too.

 

So logistically, the second birth center was the better choice, and definitely dh's preference. Philosophically, the first birth center was really what I was looking for, and my partial preference. If a hospital transfer is necessary, I definitely think the second birth center is better, but I feel like I'm less likely to need a transfer if I use the first birth center. I really wish this weren't my first baby, because I'd like to have some idea of how my body and mind might act in labor, and the fact of the matter is I have no clue. I may completely lose it after 3 contractions and start crying for an epidural. Obviously, I plan on taking birthing classes and discussing my concerns with my midwife and preparing alternative pain relief methods, but I just really don't know what will happen. But I finally called and made a prenatal appointment with the first birth center today. I hope I don't regret it, but so far I feel good about the decision. I just feel like I'm more on the same page with the midwives there, and I think that is important. So first appointment is this Thursday!!

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Monkey- the first birth center sounds very nice! You have to go where you guys will be most comfortable though. You'll figure it out I know.

Demeter-I would be sooo upset about that. Especially with so many children around. I know kids in general pick up germs, kwim..my goodness. I generally try to stay home as much as possible in the winter..now I say that with a grain of salt..i work full time, my three girls go to school, one in soccer, one in dance, and one in gymnastics. We would never miss family Christmas dinner unless someone was sick..don't you wish other people thought that way? But..I dont really do anything extra with the kids..stores, birthday parties, etc..we are pretty busy anyway. I would love for things to be about half as slow as they are now. That would be awesome.

Cilian- welcome! Glad your here!

Afm- I have fleeting moments of feeling good. Most of the time im nauseous. I feel like sleeping all the time..which makes work difficult to get through. I'm a Montessori preschool teacher so it's not like I can just take a nap, kwim?
I am really indifferent about calling the birth center I would go to..it's interesting..I ijust don't feel the need. I don't really know if it's because Im scared they will tell me I've risked out or because I genuinely have a gut feeling that I don't need them, a la uc. I don't know. I need to sexplore that a little more I think. I just wish I wasn't so foggy and feeling like crap. I never felt like this with either of my other three pregnancies. They were always like, yay two limes! No sickness or anything...except for a ridiculously itchy rash from month eight with my youngest.

I don't know. Feeling icky stinks.
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"yay, two limes" lol..stupid autocorrect! And "sexplore" was pretty funny too.
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"yay, two limes" lol..stupid autocorrect! And "sexplore" was pretty funny too.


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post #18 of 40

You can change my important appointment to 1/30. I have my first OB visit then. I also have a nurse/blood draw appointment on the 23rd, but that isn't *as* important. 

post #19 of 40
I have my first midwife appointment on January 19. So excited! Although not so excited at the prospect of getting my first pap in 4 years..alas I know it needs to be done.
post #20 of 40

I started back at work again after being off for 2.5 weeks and it was pretty tough.  I've been so worried about what I'm going to do with the internal job I applied for to begin July 1, which requires 40-60% travel, that I went in and told the HR director I'm pregnant.  She is actually the first person to find out outside of DP and I, but I wanted to make sure that things were going to work out since I should be getting my offer any day and had no idea what I should say.  She was super helpful (and excited, DP and I work together, so she has been 'tracking' us since we had to disclose our relationship). It turns out my company (which is very large) has recently been trying to make the work environment more conducive to mothers so that they stay with the firm.  The firm generally loses a lot of really talented women when they start families, because the time and travel requirements in Big 4 public accounting are so stenuous.  So she said it wouldn't at all be a problem, to just wait for the official offer and then to let them know I had some news for them.... we'll see how it works out.  But honestly, she also offered me a position working for my same department doing operational projects and sort of whatever else needs to be done that could be done remotely, since DP and I are moving out of state (he just sent in his official acceptance letter today!), and I'm tempted to take it.  It would get to work from home for a year (or however long I decided to do it), but it isn't a resume builder at all.  Basically it is a place holder, where I still get paid, keep my insurance, and vesting benefits, and do easy, but uber-boring work.  Really, I'm so, so lucky they are willing to do something like this.  I'm thinking I'm going to do it, because I won't have family close in NC, and then I won't have to put this little blueberry (apparently its size this week) in daycare.

 

Also, I just got back from telling my twin sister I was preggers.  She is currently pregnant and due April 3.  She has wanted nothing more than for us to have kids at the same time, and she is on her last kid, so was pretty disappointed that we hadn't timed it better from the start.  I was going to wait until the end of this month for our birthday, but I felt guilty about telling the HR director and not her, so I made a card that said "TOP SECRET" on the front, has some miscellaneous warnings and threats should she not keep it to herself on the inside, and then my 5 weeks picture with "You're going to be an Aunt!" next to it.  She started SCREAMING like she was being stabbed to the extent that her husband ran in to make sure everything was okay. She had a HUGE smile on her face and was next to tears, then told me it was the best gift I could've given her.  Now we'll have little cousins that are 5 months apart!

 

Ok, sorry this is so long, I haven't checked in for a while since I've been feeling so crappy and have been back at work and I had a lot of news.

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