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post #101 of 510

oh, and I'd love ideas for playing. She... doesn't. She'll smile at us for a couple minutes, but how else do you fill the awake time? I know she won't play with toys per se, but if she's supposed to be up for several hours a day, what do you do with the time?

post #102 of 510
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again, JJ, ad nauseum smile.gif, in a sling you could maybe flip that laundry without having to leave her crying. of course, i know if you need to get away from the crying for just a few minutes when you are on your own.

the only baby books i can strongly recommend are dr. sears the baby book and LLL's womanly art of breastfeeding. it sounds like it's all about breastfeeding but it encompasses a lot of baby care. oh, if you do make it to a LLL meeting, they usually have a library of books you can check. you can be very assured that they will be BF friendly and pretty assured they will be AP friendly.
post #103 of 510

Yeah I put the laundry in while she was in the wrap, but I needed the couple minutes to regroup myself and smile again. 

 

I had TWAOB right ebfore she was born, but don't remember the baby part of it. Ill have to check it out again.

post #104 of 510
Oh good. Ok, I'm glad at least you're well aware. The best anyone can do is read a bunch and decide what will work for them and their baby.

Hmm, what to do with baby. Finn spends time in his chair or jumper watching me do things. Clean, do dishes, vacuum. He loves the vacuum. Otherwise, on his play mat, we do toys, peekaboo, take pictures. Sometimes I'll read to both kids and hold him on my lap.

I'm starting to feel like a lousy home maker. I realized lately that I clean all the time but everything is still a mess. I have no organizational skills. I used to be an admin assistant, but I wasn't even a very good one. :-( Does anyone have ideas or tips on better home management? I feel like I've been a sahm for a while now, but I'm acting like it's just an excuse not to work and hang out with my kids. I want to approach my home like a job, one with wonderful vent benefits, my children. But where do I begin?

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post #105 of 510
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JJ ~ I checked my Dr. Sears AP book but there wasn't anything in there about playing. I think at 5+ weeks babies don't do much. They like to look at faces. Maybe a mirror or books with pictures of baby faces would interest her. Dylan likes those.

Carrie ~ I told Sean when he joined the Marines I would quit working and become the happy home maker. That didn't last long. Taking care of kids take so much time there isn't much left to take care of the home. I had to reassess things with Sean. My primary job is taking care of the kids. Taking care of the home is our job together. I do more because I'm home more but it isn't much, maybe an extra load of laundry and sweeping a floor. Ethan has wanted to have friends over and I keep telling him that once we have the house presentable, he can. We clean one more but they destroy another. I have yet to figure out how to get that under control. I don't have anything to help you except to say that your job is not home maker. It is child care worker. The home making has to fall on both you and your husband.
post #106 of 510

I've heard very good things about flylady for organization/cleaning, but I can't really vouch. I never make it past day 2. lol. I'm the queen of lists though. I keep a whiteboard and keep track of every little thing I need to do. Of course none of that is happening right now... but eventually I'll get back to it! lol

 

Hmmm, yeah for play it's hard because she won't settle in her chair, or on the couch or anything. We can get a few minutes out of her of just making faces back and forth, but most of the time, even that won't please her. She likes watching hockey! lol that's about the only thing that holds her attention. She likes the movement and the colors on the big tv. lol. But there's only so much hockey I can let her watch. We've tried dangling toys etc for the same effect and nada. She takes after her daddy. lol. 

post #107 of 510
Baby_Cakes I was going to suggest trying to get him to sleep on his side too. That's how DD sleeps if I am not holding her. No help with breaking the swaddle addiction. Ava gave hers up around 14 weeks. Play ideas: MW for our age babies, there'snot much to keep their attention for longer than 10 mins or so. DD will play on her mat while I pump but then she is bored. She likes to sit in her rocker while I load the dishwasher or wash bottles. She really only stays awake for about an hourbat a time so by the time ww rotate through a couple of things, change diaper/go potty,she is ready to eat again and go back to sleep. JJ, when DD was that age, I would sing a couple of preschool songs to her or she liked looking at black and white patterns. She mostly just liked to sit and look at me.
post #108 of 510
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Dylan stays up for a couple of hours at a time now. That's a lot of time to fill trying to entertain him. He's really good first thing in the morning. He'll lay on his mat for quite a while and be perfectly happy and entertained. But as the day progresses, he gets less and less happy with everything. And, of course, I get more and more tired as the day progresses so things are pretty crazy by dinner time.

i did flylady for about a year when i was pg with kellen and a little after. i think it's good if you need help doing daily cleaning. it's not so good for initially getting things organized. she tells you what to clean and when to clean it but not really much on where to put it or how to store things.

i need help organizing all the toys in our house. after 3 kids, we have accumulated a lot. Every once in a great while I"ll get things somewhat organized. Most of the toys are together in the correct places. But it's impossible to keep things that way. In just a few minutes, the boys can go through and completely destroy a room.

The boys will go through their things when I ask and fill a box or bag with toys to throw out. It doesn't seem to make a dent.
post #109 of 510
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Dylan peed in the sink today! for once, i actually got to lay down and nap with him. when he woke up it occurred to me to check his diaper and he was dry. i rushed him to the sink and after only a few seconds he peed. of course, i have to do that regularly for it to matter.
post #110 of 510

My MIL is OCD about cleaning so the house is clean always. She sucks at organizing. I like to organize, but sine it's not really MY house, it feels weird to do it. I think my biggest tip is just do it. So easy to put off. Go through your Keep pile at least twice. Beyond that, you will find different tips and tricks, you just have to find what works for you.

 

Norah mostly sleep on her side. She likes it and it just makes the most sense. 

 

Play: she loves the mirror! Gabe didn't, but she does. In another month or so, I will bring down the exersaucer. But as long as she's happy, I really don't know how much she*needs* to play. Right now she's really thrilled with exploring her hands. 

 

Bysy week ahead, trying to juggle all the things I *want* to do with work. 

post #111 of 510
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Carrie ~ I told Sean when he joined the Marines I would quit working and become the happy home maker. That didn't last long. Taking care of kids take so much time there isn't much left to take care of the home. I had to reassess things with Sean. My primary job is taking care of the kids. Taking care of the home is our job together. I do more because I'm home more but it isn't much, maybe an extra load of laundry and sweeping a floor. Ethan has wanted to have friends over and I keep telling him that once we have the house presentable, he can. We clean one more but they destroy another. I have yet to figure out how to get that under control. I don't have anything to help you except to say that your job is not home maker. It is child care worker. The home making has to fall on both you and your husband.


ITA it's our job together, but I think it should be my role to pave the way and come up with some sort of routine so we aren't constantly drowning.  DH is a pack rat and he's very emotionally attached to things.  If I could parse through things, and get him to do the same, and then have a method so it doesn't happen again, maybe we could do this.  You know?  And I would still expect him to do the garbage/recycling, but on the same token he expects me to do the dishes and the bathroom.  Usually he even cooks, so that's not an issue.

 

My status on FB has been so helpful.  So many links and friends seem to have similar issues, which makes me feel like less of a hot mess.  I just really dislike never being able to have company over, or feeling embarrassed by the situation.  When my friend came over after Finn was born, she offered to do something -- she was like, can I clean your kitchen, throw in some wash?  I almost began crying b/c I didn't even want her to SEE my laundry area or kitchen.  I'm so ashamed of it all!!  In the end I allowed her to tidy Nora's room.  It was so nice not to have to do that.

 

 



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Baby_Cakes I was going to suggest trying to get him to sleep on his side too. That's how DD sleeps if I am not holding her. No help with breaking the swaddle addiction. Ava gave hers up around 14 weeks. 


 

He actually does usually roll to his side.  He likes to lay with his face up against the side rail (against the bed).  His cosleeper is still on an incline, so he's basically resting his cheek on the top.  (It's so cute.)

 

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Dylan stays up for a couple of hours at a time now. That's a lot of time to fill trying to entertain him. He's really good first thing in the morning. He'll lay on his mat for quite a while and be perfectly happy and entertained. But as the day progresses, he gets less and less happy with everything. And, of course, I get more and more tired as the day progresses so things are pretty crazy by dinner time.


Yup, that's how it is here too.  Finn has just about had it with all his stuff by midday!  Ha!  We have to get creative and my juices aren't flowing as fast!!

 

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My MIL is OCD about cleaning so the house is clean always. She sucks at organizing. I like to organize, but sine it's not really MY house, it feels weird to do it. I think my biggest tip is just do it. So easy to put off. Go through your Keep pile at least twice. Beyond that, you will find different tips and tricks, you just have to find what works for you.



Just doing it is really key!  I just have trouble finding where to start.

 

I found quite a few checklists on line of things to do daily and things to do weekly.  That's exactly what I need.  I feel like so many organization blogs and things are focused on making cute boxes or labels for boxes, or look at this wonderful scarf organizer I made!  When I don't need that.  I need to know what I'm doing wrong that I'm always cleaning and cleaning and it's getting worse and worse!  But simple lists, like wipe your sink down, do the dishes, vaccum daily. "Do laundry daily but make Monday laundry day for sheets and blankets" -- that's what I need!  Something to help me get the bigger things DONE b/c I never get to them.  I don't even OWN a mop.  I've never mopped -- ok maybe ONCE in the 8 years I've lived in my house.  Ugh, did I just admit that? lol.gif  I have Swiffered, though, lol.  And Swiffer wet!  That gets the kitchen floor pretty clean, right??

 

LOL.  I'm just feeling overwhelmed.  I'll get there.  Thanks for the sounding board!  Keep any and all ideas  coming.

post #112 of 510
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carrie ~ can you share the lists?

Almost daily I: do at least one load of laundry but I can't ever seem to do more than 2 in a day, sweep the kitchen and family room floors and wash dishes. I spot mop these days rather than trying to sweep and mop an entire floor. My downstairs is all wood so there's just no way I can do it all at once. I try to tackle one other room a day but it ends being more like only once or twice a week.

My main embarrassments are the bathrooms that get nasty with 3+ guys using them and all the junk piled on every available surface. I have run out of bookshelf space. I always have a pile of papers on the kitchen counter that just gets moved around because I don't know what to do with the papers. I used to be really good about filing stuff away but not anymore. There's a box of papers that my mom filled up while she was here when I had Dylan that is still sitting on the dining room floor. I don't even know what's in it. Hm...probably because my filing cabinet is upstairs. I wonder if I'd be better at it if I brought it downstairs where I spend 99% of my time. Sean likes to keep papers and it drives me nuts.

There is always stuff just strewn all over my house. Jackets flung on the back of chairs or threaded through the spindles of the stair rail because I come in with my hands full and can't immediately take off my jacket and hang it up. I dreamt last night about getting a coat and shoe rack to put by the front door. lol.gif

I'm really hoping that when Sean gets home we can spend some time each weekend going through stuff and throwing it out. We went through a lot of stuff before he left and filled a huge box with things to donate but Sean didn't take it anywhere so it sits in the closet. I can't move it. That's one problem with having Sean organize. He gets huge bins and boxes and fills them until they are so heavy that he's the only one who can move them and then he leaves. I have decided I need to get another plastic bin for my yarn. My overflow is still in the mailing bags thrown in a closet and I worry constantly about the cats getting into it because the boys leave the closet door open.

We bought a coffee table that opens on each side from the top and has large storage spaces in it. Problem is I have to clear everything off the table in order to open it so nothing gets put away in there anymore and anything in there doesn't get used.

I need someone to tell me I need to get these bins or shelves or cabinets and put them in this spot and store these things in them. I read that stuff in mags and blogs sometimes but I don't know exactly what to get or where to start. I wish I could afford to have a professional organizer come to my home and set everything up for me.
post #113 of 510

Here is the most helpful list I've found so far:

 

http://www.home-ec101.com/clean-it/weekly-chore-schedule/

 

MW - sooo much to comment on what you said but no time!  When I come back tonight I will!!

 

Oh and I forgot to mention I tried the one-arm-out of the swaddle last night and he slept pretty well.  He slept from about 830 til I fed him at 11 or so (he didn't wake up, it was a dream feed), and then again til 2 ish and then again til 4 ish.  I finally put both his arms back in after 4 am (he wasn't settling) and he slept til about 645!!  Not bad.  Especially for trying something new.  That would be a good night regardless!  I have his arm out for his nap today.  He woke right at 45 min but I was able to shhh and put his paci in, and rub the spot b/w his eyes and he went back to sleep.  Whew!

post #114 of 510

Carrie, glad it seems to be working! (the swaddlling thing). Is it just me, or was our generation never really taught things like - you should wash your windows this often, or pull out your fridge/oven and clean under it this often? It's the big things that *should* be done, but when?

 

I like to mop floors. It's weird, but whatever. I might do it once a year. Maybe twice if the floors gotten really sticky. Oh, and Swiffer wet TOTALLY counts as mopping :;):

 

There are things I really don't believe in organizing. Toys. (except those with small parts, which Gabe isn't old enough for anyway) - what's the point? I also don't believe in matching and folding socks. probablly b/c I really hate doing it. Also really don't like wearing socks, which works when I can wear sandals 10/12 months anyway.  We don't make the bed. No one sees it.

 

If/when we have our own place agan, I am going to make a point of having people over once a week. it's great motivation to get the house tidy and keep it that way. Otherwise, it's super easy to let it slide. (p.s. you don't want to see the inside of my car. it's awful and I refuse to give people rides)

 

As to where to start organizing. I tend to start in closets and work my way out. But that's because the closet usually is 95% of the battle, the rest of the space is mostly decorative and furniture placement, etc.

 

LOVE DH's that cook! though I do like to cook, but live in a house with  2 men that like to also, and a baby and toddler that demand my attention, so I don't get the opportunity often. *sigh*

post #115 of 510
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I was never shown stuff like that, Kat. But then, I wasn't made to do chores at all when I was a kid. If I had the time, I'd clean out the fridge, inside and under the stove and dishwasher once a month. I think you could always fit those things into the spring and fall cleaning categories. Do them at least twice a year. Windows would be once a month, too. I've tried to enlist the boys to clean the windows and dust but they don't last very long and, if I don't watch them the whole time, they'll end up making more mess than cleaning. So, that doesn't help me much and I don't bother any more. I do expect them to help me pick up their toys and sometimes they like to help clean the floors, the bathrooms and the dishes.

I must not be understanding what you all mean by mopping. If I don't mop at least 3 times a week, my kitchen, living room and bathroom floors get disgusting. There's no way I could mop only once or twice a year.

I never bothered trying to organize toys until Ethan started accumulating sets, like Legos and Star Wars and Beyblades. You kind of need all the parts in order to play with them properly. My mom has bought them two microscopes sets that come with the microscope, some preset slides and blank slides so you can make your own, plus things like a dropper and a knife. They have lost almost all the parts for both of them, even some that are supposed to be attached to the microscopes. Random, individual toys just get thrown in a drawer or bin. I had originally tried to keep certain toys upstairs and other ones downstairs but that's so mixed up now that I don't even know what was supposed to be where.

Closets aren't an issue for me because nothing ever gets put in them. lol.gif I hate putting things in closets and cabinets because I'm so short that I almost always have to get a stool. Regular homes are definitely not made for short people. Like I said before, my main problem is all the little junk on the tables and counter tops that I just don't know with what to do.

Dylan had a really good night last night. We all went to sleep at about 9:30 but he wouldn't settle at first. Finally, at about 11:30, after trying for 2 hours to get him to settle (he wasn't fussing or crying, he just wouldn't lay still) I got up to go to the bathroom. When I came back he was out on his back. I left him like that and he slept until almost 4 am. He nursed then went back to sleep until about 6, repeat and we got up around 8:30 or so. Unfortunately, I didn't get that much sleep. My body must have gotten so used to only around 4 hours total of sleep every night that it has decided that's all I need. I could not get back to sleep after that 4 am waking. I really don't think I slept at until between then and when I finally got out of bed. greensad.gif
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BLARG! Synagis and DD do not mix! She has been a mess this weekend and I thought it was teething but it seems to be a reaction to the Synagis medication. I had to take her in for an unscheduled clinic visit today because her oxygen levels are low. When we had her last clinic visit on Friday, her doctor said at that point that we should try to get to March before the repair surgery. But after this weekend and her oxygen still being low, today he said that if she doesn't bounce back in a few days then we need to schedule surgery for in a couple of weeks. bawling.gif I want to say no more Synagis and if DD was an only child and I was a SAHM, I would totally say no more. But since she has big brothers and sisters and they are in school and she goes to the babysitter 4 days a week, I feel like the benefit of protecting her from RSV outweighs the side effects from the medicine. In anyone over 2 years old, RSV just looks like a cold. So I wouldn't be able to tell if someone has RSV to keep them away.

 

I'm still going to get an amber necklace though to see if that helps with her gums because they do seem to be bothering her too. I did tell her Synagis nurse that I am not letting her get any more vaccines until we are past this Synagis stuff because I can't put her little body through all of this at the same time. She agreed. Her last dose is March.

 

I try to stay up on cleaning but right now if I can keep the dishes clean, DD's dipes clean and some clothes for us clean, then I consider it good. I do try to clean the bathrooms once a week and vacuum the floor. It's tough to keep things decluttered because we are seven people in 1100 sq ft and DH is a pack rat. Ugh. I throw things away when he isn't home. bag.gif Otherwise he goes behind me and checks the trash bags to make sure I'm not throwing away anything "important". After we've lived together so long, I pretty much know what is important and throwing away odd receipts and junk mail is not "important"!

post #117 of 510
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hug.gif Annie.

All this talk of cleaning and organizing got me motivated. I did a lot more today than I usually do. You probably wouldn't be able to tell but at least I know I did it.
post #118 of 510
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Carrie, glad it seems to be working! (the swaddlling thing). Is it just me, or was our generation never really taught things like - you should wash your windows this often, or pull out your fridge/oven and clean under it this often? It's the big things that *should* be done, but when?

 

I like to mop floors. It's weird, but whatever. I might do it once a year. Maybe twice if the floors gotten really sticky. Oh, and Swiffer wet TOTALLY counts as mopping :;):

 

There are things I really don't believe in organizing. Toys. (except those with small parts, which Gabe isn't old enough for anyway) - what's the point? I also don't believe in matching and folding socks. probablly b/c I really hate doing it. Also really don't like wearing socks, which works when I can wear sandals 10/12 months anyway.  We don't make the bed. No one sees it.

 

If/when we have our own place agan, I am going to make a point of having people over once a week. it's great motivation to get the house tidy and keep it that way. Otherwise, it's super easy to let it slide. (p.s. you don't want to see the inside of my car. it's awful and I refuse to give people rides)


I was never taught any sort of house management stuff!  It's crazy.  I totally agree with you!!  

One thing I'm going to work hard to do is wipe down the bathroom every day.  Just wipe it down.  That way the once a week cleaning won't be much more than that plus the floor/toilet and washing the curtain.

Before we sell, we have to install a bathroom fan, chip away all the peeling pain, mud, and repaint.  DH is talking about doing one of those bathfitter deals as well, b/c our shower is in pretty gross shape.  There's also a window in the shower that makes no sense.  We want to fill it in and do a few glass blocks along the top for light/aesthetics.

 

I do try to match socks but I have a drawerfull of singles that I periodically go through to match up.  It's a never ending battle!

 

I do make beds daily.  It helps the room look pulled together.  Even if there are piles of clothes and papers, a made bed makes a room look good!

 

Toys.  Ugh.  I've done 2 big purges in Nora's room, and in the living room we have all the baby's toys.  So.  Right now that's ok with me b/c that's our life.  We don't have a playroom or separate space for toys.  As long as things get put away before a new toy comes out, I'm good.

 

 

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Dylan had a really good night last night. We all went to sleep at about 9:30 but he wouldn't settle at first. Finally, at about 11:30, after trying for 2 hours to get him to settle (he wasn't fussing or crying, he just wouldn't lay still) I got up to go to the bathroom. When I came back he was out on his back. I left him like that and he slept until almost 4 am. He nursed then went back to sleep until about 6, repeat and we got up around 8:30 or so. Unfortunately, I didn't get that much sleep. My body must have gotten so used to only around 4 hours total of sleep every night that it has decided that's all I need. I could not get back to sleep after that 4 am waking. I really don't think I slept at until between then and when I finally got out of bed. greensad.gif


Wow - 11-4!  Great stretch!!  Too bad you couldn't take advantage!  Ugh, I hate when that happens.  So not fair.

 

 

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BLARG! Synagis and DD do not mix! She has been a mess this weekend and I thought it was teething but it seems to be a reaction to the Synagis medication. I had to take her in for an unscheduled clinic visit today because her oxygen levels are low. When we had her last clinic visit on Friday, her doctor said at that point that we should try to get to March before the repair surgery. But after this weekend and her oxygen still being low, today he said that if she doesn't bounce back in a few days then we need to schedule surgery for in a couple of weeks. bawling.gif I want to say no more Synagis and if DD was an only child and I was a SAHM, I would totally say no more. But since she has big brothers and sisters and they are in school and she goes to the babysitter 4 days a week, I feel like the benefit of protecting her from RSV outweighs the side effects from the medicine. In anyone over 2 years old, RSV just looks like a cold. So I wouldn't be able to tell if someone has RSV to keep them away.

 

I'm still going to get an amber necklace though to see if that helps with her gums because they do seem to be bothering her too. I did tell her Synagis nurse that I am not letting her get any more vaccines until we are past this Synagis stuff because I can't put her little body through all of this at the same time. She agreed. Her last dose is March.

 

I try to stay up on cleaning but right now if I can keep the dishes clean, DD's dipes clean and some clothes for us clean, then I consider it good. I do try to clean the bathrooms once a week and vacuum the floor. It's tough to keep things decluttered because we are seven people in 1100 sq ft and DH is a pack rat. Ugh. I throw things away when he isn't home. bag.gif Otherwise he goes behind me and checks the trash bags to make sure I'm not throwing away anything "important". After we've lived together so long, I pretty much know what is important and throwing away odd receipts and junk mail is not "important"!


hug2.gif about the RSV stuff.  I can't imagine how stressful that is.  I would probably do the same, hold off on all other ones until this season is over.

DH is the same with garbage!  His dad is the same way too.  Funny story - we got a huge gift basket for Christmas, full of Harry and David coffees and chocolate and things.  I unloaded the whole thing and put all the items away.  All that was left was a nice looking metal pail with some snowmen on it -- pretty, but we don't need it.  I asked him to please get rid of it and he hesitated.  I said, hon, we don't need a large metal bucket for anything, please just toss it.  He agreed.  Yesterday I go out to the breezeway to put out some recycles -- and what is sitting on the chair all cleaned out and shiny?  That bucket!!  WTH!?  He can't seem to part with anything that *could be* useful someday.  Ugh.  I'm getting rid of it. It's CLUTTER.

 

 

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hug.gif Annie.
All this talk of cleaning and organizing got me motivated. I did a lot more today than I usually do. You probably wouldn't be able to tell but at least I know I did it.

 

Hooray!  Ha!

 

 

AFUs - The sleep gods have been so kind to us that I'm nervous to even talk about it!  I've been working on getting Finnley out of the swaddle and so far it's going well.  I leave his one arm out and he's quick to settle (at least, quick by my standards).  Last night was probably the best night of sleep ever.  He slept in the swing from about 9-12 when I decided to dream feed him and go to bed.  He didn't wake up at all when I put him in his cosleeper and slept til 330.  So 9-330???  I'll take it.  I think at that time I even just gave him his paci b/c he wasn't crying, just moving around, and he slept til 430 when (cue angels singing) I brought him in bed to side lie nurse and we both nursed/slept until 715!!  NO puke!  

 

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I have to say...I feel like I'm finally getting to experience what I thought I would from the beginning.  Snuggles with him in bed.  Waking up to his gorgeous little face.  Now when he wakes up he sees me first thing and he's cradled in my arm, and I can smother him in kisses and whisper good morning to him.  It is just wonderful.  Amazing.  Plus he's finally at the age where he smiles back and coos and giggles at me.  

 

I'm making huge changes with cleaning around the house and working hard to come up with a routine to organize/declutter.  It's amazing.  I won't bore you all with the deets but I feel like a new woman/mother/home maker.

 

Yesterday alone I managed:

 

 

  • 10 min clean up session for the living room (DD helped and it was actually quite fun!)
  • vacuumed the living area
  • dropped DD at school
  • deep cleaned the bathroom - cleaned out the tub drain, the sink drain (oh thank you postpartum hair loss for clogging both); unscrewed and cleaned the light fixtures, and cleaned the toilet in addition to all the obvious wipe down stuff.
  • folded and put away 2 loads of wash
  • made beds

 

I didn't get to the kitchen but I ran out to Target after picking up Nora, and when I came home DH had done the dishes!!  And he made dinner.  Love that man.

 

DH is leaving today for his first business trip since Finn was born.  He'll be gone until Saturday, in NC.  Oh man.  I'm not nervous at all, and THAT's what scares me!  Nora has school Wed/Fri, so that should help if things get overwhelming, and my MIL isn't working this week in case I need some help.  But...I think I got this.  Is that bad?  Ha!  Maybe I'm just in denial?


 

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Carrie ~ Feeling confident is a good thing. It means things are really settling down for you and you are getting in a groove. I think it's really cool how parallel our lives are right now. The first 3 months with baby are crazy. You feel like you don't even know what's going on. By the 4th month things start to get easier but are still crazy more often than not, it seems. Then the 5th month comes along and suddenly there's sleep and there's quiet playtime and there's time to do a load of laundry while the baby is awake.

Most of the housework I got done yesterday, I did while Dylan was awake. He was happy to sit with the boys in the living room. If he started to fuss, one of them would try to entertain them. I loved it! So much better than dreading doing housework because it will take up time that I might have had to relax, sit quietly, read a book, knit or, heaven forbid, eat!

How do you clean out the sink drain? I did one once but never could get the stopper thingie back on so I'm afraid to try the one in this house. I've been asking my dh to do it since we moved in and he still hasn't.

1ht now

D had another good night of sleep. i think he slept even longer last night, maybe 6 hours straight! and, i was able to go back to sleep after he nursed, too.

so, funny about the dhes keeping things. mine does that, too. mostly, it's papers. he thinks he needs to keep everything for his records. totally unnecessary in this digital age so i toss it when he's not looking. the worst thing is that he comes home from every deployment with a new foot locker full of junk. he never even bothers to open them once he's home. he just stacks them in the garage. i think i've finally convinced him that, if it's been years and he doesn't know what's in them, he can get rid of them. oh, we got the first CC bill from his trip to CA but no reimbursement yet. eyesroll.gif luckily, it wasn't the entire bill so i was able to pay the total amount due.

ethan's b-day is friday (he's going to be 8 jaw2.gif) and i've done nothing. we have a bowling party planned for the 22nd but i still want to have a cake and some presents to celebrate his actual day. i want a good cake, though, not one of those sugary things from the food lion. i haven't made it to the fancy bakery to order one. i'm going to try to do that today.

weighed myself this morning and i am below my pre-pg weight. just barely but i'll take it. the scale also says i'm within a healthy body fat %, too. again, i think that's just barely (it said 33.4%) but i'll take it. now just another 17 lbs. to lose to get to my ideal weight.
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Yay! on PP weight.

 

My weight is starting to creep back up, I think I need to keep a food diary so I can figure out if it's because I'm eating too much, or eating too little. When nursing DS, I noticed I would start gaining again when I cut back what I was eating. It would stabilize or drop when I ate more/better.

 

Carrie: love the confidence! it's fantastic!

 

My only real chore (bc MIL is OCD and does stuff before I even think about it) is laundry, and really only diaper laundry. BC I am just way picky about how it's done. Dishes get done between her and DH. I hate dishes. When we are on our own again, I am going to have a rude awakening! LOL but I enjoy it for now.

 

Men do hoard stuff don't they! you should see DH's desk. it's why we can't share.

 

I wanted to go to a CD meet up today, but work took over. ugh. meeting with the gyne today to discuss bc options. Condoms are ok for now, but we don't want to do them indefinitely.

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