I guess he is pretty advanced, his EI eval (for social/emotional issues) at 2yo put him at about a 4yo level (the highest they test for, he outdid most of their tests, so maybe beyond that) -- His biggest strengths are language & fine motor skills, plus just cognitive skills in general.
He gets bored very easily... he isn't interested in repetition. So if I come up with a fun game -- say an action song, or a word game, or a sorting activity, or a physical challenge, or whatever -- he will do it once and then he's done. This is the same whether we are home or out & in a group of kids. It's almost like he does something once & masters it, so just has no interest in continuing it. He also "plays dumb" (for lack of a better term) pretty much constantly. He won't do a puzzle by himself, for example... and when we do one with him, he keeps saying, "I need help!!" or "Where does this go?" etc. even though it is very obvious (both to me and to others) that he knows exactly where it goes. He has virtually all of his books memorized, but he won't 'read' to himself because, he claims, "I don't remember the words." Or if you ask him "What is Jane's favorite color?" (or some other question he definitely knows the answer to), he'll respond, "I don't know, what is her favorite color?" This is all day long ("Why did that book fall?" "I don't know, why did it fall?") He just seems to like pretending he doesn't know things.
It's frustrating because I don't know how to engage him... and not engaging him isn't an option because he doesn't really entertain himself (except in destructive ways) and has limited play skills. Most of his play is imitative. In fact, a lot of everything he does is imitative... these are not things that are apparent to others. The other day, he was pretending to talk on the phone and recited DH's phone number twice. But if you ask him directly what DH's phone number is, he can't tell you. I share this just to explain the discrepancy sometimes between what he appears to know & what he actually knows -- but most of the time when he's 'playing dumb' it's totally different than this & he DOES know whatever he's pretending not to. He has a crazy-good memory... he remembers things from 2 years ago, he remembers things he only saw or heard once (youtube is our best friend & worst enemy, he requests songs he heard just once 6 months prior and then we have to find them based on the lyrics he remembers, and they have to be sung by the same person, same background instrumentals, etc... these things are totally beyond me, I can't recognize the sounds of instruments well and voices aren't my strong point either).
I guess I'd just like to be able to engage him on a deeper level (or at least for more than 2 minutes!!) I often think he needs a bigger challenge, but everything I try either ends up being too overwhelming for him to even try, or too simple. There's no middle ground... as I'm writing this, it occurs to me that he probably likes to watch & observe until he knows he can do something right the first time... he doesn't like to practice, maybe, and doesn't like to fail??
IDK, am I even making sense here? Can anyone relate??