My employer is expecting me to return back to work in two weeks, but I do not see it happening. It is not a breastfeeding friendly workplace. No breaks to pump (except 30 min lunch), so I used to have to pump-n-drive on the way to and from work when my daughter was a baby. My breasts would be so engorged from not being emptied for 4 hours, plus it made it very difficult to keep a good milk supply. I did this for a year, but back then, I only had 2 kids. Now with 3 kids, washing pump parts would be another thing piled on the every day never ending to do list. Plus, my baby has not even tried a bottle and I do not really want him to. Both of my kids over time developed a preference for bottles over boobies. Not fun!
Also, my husband and I are planning to move out of state within the next 2 months. So, I feel like what is the point of going back to work for a month or two (except for the money). We have not told anyone that we are moving this soon except for his family in Minnesota, were we will be moving. My family and friends have known for years that my husband wants to go back home and that eventually (they think years from now) we will be moving there. My family gets upset every time we bring up the conversation about moving. So they are not aware that it is about to become reality. I feel terrible, but it is hard to break the news knowing that they are not supportive.
How do I break the news to my family without making them cry?
Also, what is the best way to tell the employer? Should I tell them now or wait for them to call me?
any comments/advice appreciated