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I agree- I was kind of peeved by the comments-a guilt trip was not what I needed to hear after my 6th night of no sleep- Im lucky im not taking SPEED to get through some days!!!!!!!  One friend told me i "had to' pump and dump because of the coffee- oh, come on now!


Sorry you were guilted about this. I probably drink more coffee than I should, but whatever gets me through the day is the way. :-) I think there are much more damaging things we could be doing to our children than having coffee or a glass of evening wine. I don't drink alcohol because we are an alcohol free home for personal reasons. But I know that women with low supply are often encouraged to have a nightly glass of Guiness, so it can't be horrible!

 



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I was told it's because your intestines are falling back into place - it can be really painful and i sometimes think my pm gas wakes LO :)!



WOW! How long does this process take?



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Feeling done in.

It's dark at 4, we haven't been out of the house for fun in weeks. We're moving so we have to pack. Charlie's fussy and his drool stings my hands and it feels like he's bringing in four teeth at once. He keeps getting rashes, probably a teething thing. We have no money but have to pay out a whole lot soon so that we can move. We should get it, so that's good.

Looks like there could be amazing things coming from Dusty's work. Scary to get your hopes up and that adds to the overall stress.

 

I just feel tired. Charlie needs things and I feel like all I can offer is a tit and a body to lean on.

 

Hope this goes away soon. I think it should after the move. I just hate moving. So excited for the new house (most of the time) but I hate the change and the transition and all the freaking work. I start to pack, he needs to nurse. I don't keep track anymore of how often he's eating at night, but it's quite a bit.

 

 

Whiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiine.



When are you guys moving? We're looking to move ASAP, within a month or two. It will be hard packing things up with both little guys and DH working and going to school, but it will have to happen. I'm thankful to have decluttered so much and to still be going strong. It will make the move so much easier. I think this will  be my easiest move yet because of the decluttering. But the young ones will add an element of difficulty, I'm sure.


 

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I'm making huge changes with cleaning around the house and working hard to come up with a routine to organize/declutter.  It's amazing.  I won't bore you all with the deets but I feel like a new woman/mother/home maker.

 

DH is leaving today for his first business trip since Finn was born.  He'll be gone until Saturday, in NC.  Oh man.  I'm not nervous at all, and THAT's what scares me!  Nora has school Wed/Fri, so that should help if things get overwhelming, and my MIL isn't working this week in case I need some help.  But...I think I got this.  Is that bad?  Ha!  Maybe I'm just in denial?


 

 


Congrats on your cleaning! Sometimes I'll set the timer for 10 minutes and begin a task that I dislike, like cleaning the top of the fridge. It seems so silly to put it off, as it takes so little time when I finally do it.

 

Regarding business trips, DH is going away from this coming Wednesday morning (not tomorrow) and will be gone until late Friday night. I will be visiting family in Maine. I'm kind of dreading it, though.

 



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Carrie its so nice to read that things are going so well. May the days of being covered in puke be over. I would love to be as motivated as you on the household chores.

 

I am back to baking fresh bread and made a batch of granola this past weekend. I did also get another batch of laundry detergent made and finish unpacking while DH was off during the Holidays. Its the rest of the everyday stuff that is driving me nuts yet I remain unmotivated.

 

I have such a large to-do-list right now that I find myself hiding from all of it by coming online. I have several sewing projects currently on the go, an unfinished wool soaker in DS2's current size, which by the time I finish it will be too small and have to be put away for the next time. I have major reorganizing to do. Things were just being put where ever as we were unpacking, and now that its all done I need to go back and actually organize and put things in sensible places, not to mention I want to make room somewhere for all my fabric supplies (some of it old clothes I'm planning on recycling) that will give me easier access and let me see what I have to work with at a glance. Right now its all in a big storage tub and I always end up having to pull it all out to get what I want/need so I put off some of the sewing work as a result.

 

Right now I'm working on turning some old t-shirts into footed leggings/pants for DS1. This is kind of urgent as he has been scratching at a graze on his foot so that everytime it just about gets healed up he'll scratch it up so that it starts bleeding again. I have been keeping him in his footed sleepers 24/7 to try and give the skin a chance to heal, then just this weekend came up with the idea of making footed leggings so he can wear clothes and we can actually take him out in public. I finished the first pair this morning and he has them on now. So far its working, but I'll have to see what happens when he gets up from his nap, as its mostly when he is in his crib that he scratches himself. I've already got the second pair cut, and would like to have them ready for him to wear tomorrow. I'm planning on making about 5 pairs, hopefully by the end of the week. That however depends on how much time I get to work on them. Yesterday DS2 went on a nap strike and went into total meltdown mode. His very loud crying kept DS1 awake during his nap time, so he cried and moaned too. DS2 also decided since he wasn't sleeping that the only thing to do was cling to my boob, which was out for nearly 3 hours while he cried, sucked & cried and catnapped for a few minutes at a time. All I can say is "Thank You Lord for Hulu." or I'd have gone crazy yesterday.

 

Today is going much better. Both boys are currently sleeping for their afternoon nap. I've actually managed a shower & lunch and now I need to get back to sewing those footed leggings for DS1.

 

I will say, that while it is stressful at times, and there are moments when I long to be able to do lunch with friends (my boys sleep when everyone else does lunch!) I would not swap being a SAHM for anything.


I find myself hiding online, too. Sometimes it all feels like so much. I envy you your sons napping at the same time. That happens sometimes for me but not often enough.

 

I hope the fitted leggings work for you.

 



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Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes View Post

Lyn - I give you credit for being so crafty and getting projects done!  I'm still just working on cleaning.  Someday I'll be crafty.  Someday.  
 


Hmm, good points, both.  He really doesn't want more NOW.  He just says things like, "I can't say in 5 years I'll feel the same".  You know what I mean?

I have bad dreams sometimes that I POAS and its positive and I'm just devastated.  I don't like bad dreams.  They mean things, and I don't want them to mean what they mean.

I think too part of my problem is that I feel just wiped out by the end of the day.  He always wants action after 11 pm, after a full day when I've worn myself out and already put both kids to bed.  I could usually go for a quickie at 3 pm, but he's busy working usually.  We just need to find time when we're both interested.  

 

 

 

I just got bit by some kind of bug, I think.  10 min cleaning sessions WORK.  I set the timer and DD and I do a quick 10 min of the living room.  It's amazing.  And today I didn't feel much like doing the kitchen, but I set the 10 min timer and wouldn't you know?  I got the dishes unloaded, the sink emptied and the dishwasher reloaded, the pots washed, the counter wiped down.  It only took 10 minutes!  I couldn't believe it!  

 

I also decided to scrub the sticky spots on the floor.  I read a trick that if you scrub those spots up it gives the look of a clean floor, and you can put off mopping.  Being that I don't even own a mop, I thought it could help. shy.gif  It did.

 

Yesterday I deep cleaned the bathroom.  That took longer, maybe 30 min, but still.  I read if you wipe down the surfaces daily, your weekly deep clean will be super quick.  This link is super helpful:

 

http://www.home-ec101.com/clean-it/weekly-chore-schedule/

 

 

 



I was hoping to avoid the pill too, but I'll choose that over an IUD.  I had a bad experience with the Mirena, so it's not for me, unfortunately.  Hopefully yours is covered by insurance!  That's a lot to pay out of pocket!!

 

I'm the same way.  Sad b/c that distance is there, but happy b/c we are doing the best we can.  His way of showing me love now just has to be different.  I don't mind doing stuff for DH, and I try to keep track of the last time I did something so I can initiate and make it seem like less of a pity act (ha, which is isn't, but you know what I mean).


Great info on scrubbing the sticky spots on the floor!  It's true, too, about wiping the bathroom down daily. It will rarely need a deep cleaning if you do that.

 

 

 

Regarding birth control, we'll be doing natural family planning and/or condoms.  I can'y use anything that messes with my hormones. (I don't rememeber who originally mentioned birth control.)

 

post #42 of 95
Wishing I could respond to everyone like I want to, but it is so hard from my phone (a la PoetryLover, you sweet mama). I love reading about everyone's day to day.

Things here are hectic. There's a line in one of my favorite songs that sings, "oh single girl, oh single girl, go spend your days in town. Just wait 'til you get married, you'll work 'til the sun goes down..." And that is precisely how I feel these days, both in good and bad ways. There is just always something.

DH is going on a business trip at the beginning of February for 12 days. Ugh. I am trying to be excited for him, and not let my bubbling jealousy prevail. But he'll be staying in a nice hotel, in a warm climate, with a pretty generous dining and entertainment stipend. And he has an entire free weekend in there too where he's going to go see friends in Sedona (gorgeous), and see the Grand Canyon. And I will be here.

So how 'bout them Yankees? wink1.gif
post #43 of 95
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Originally Posted by Italiamom View Post

Wishing I could respond to everyone like I want to, but it is so hard from my phone (a la PoetryLover, you sweet mama). I love reading about everyone's day to day.
Things here are hectic. There's a line in one of my favorite songs that sings, "oh single girl, oh single girl, go spend your days in town. Just wait 'til you get married, you'll work 'til the sun goes down..." And that is precisely how I feel these days, both in good and bad ways. There is just always something.
DH is going on a business trip at the beginning of February for 12 days. Ugh. I am trying to be excited for him, and not let my bubbling jealousy prevail. But he'll be staying in a nice hotel, in a warm climate, with a pretty generous dining and entertainment stipend. And he has an entire free weekend in there too where he's going to go see friends in Sedona (gorgeous), and see the Grand Canyon. And I will be here.
So how 'bout them Yankees? wink1.gif

I've been missing you!!!! Also.. yeah. That sucks :P
 

 

 

And we're moving on the 21st. Good luck, Poetry Lover!!

post #44 of 95
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Originally Posted by Italiamom View Post

DH is going on a business trip at the beginning of February for 12 days. Ugh. I am trying to be excited for him, and not let my bubbling jealousy prevail. But he'll be staying in a nice hotel, in a warm climate, with a pretty generous dining and entertainment stipend. And he has an entire free weekend in there too where he's going to go see friends in Sedona (gorgeous), and see the Grand Canyon. And I will be here.
So how 'bout them Yankees? wink1.gif


Oh Michelle, I would be greeeeeeen with envy!! I'm personally envious of DH right now b/c he is in NC until Friday, and gets 3 glorious nights in a king size bed, no children; he gets to go for drinks with his colleagues, order off a menu, stay up late (or not!).  Sigh.  But no.  12 days away plus Sedona?  Not fair.  Ugh.

 

I must have angered the sleep gods by mentioning them.  Rough night here last night.  DD woke up for the first time in 4 nights calling for me.  Whaaa?  I have no idea.  I just put her in my bed.  And Finn wasn't comfortable arm in or out, or side lying nursing.  In case you're listening sleep gods, I was honoring you!  Please don't leave me like this!!  lol.gif

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Michelle, I would be envious too. My DH will probably have 2 business trips up north to Connecticut this year, and not only will he not be gone over the weekends, but we're hoping to all go on the first one if its before DS1's birthday, as we won't have to pay for the boys flights and we'll use our companion ticket for me. Still I have a hard time with business trips even though it good for DH's career. It is also great to see you online, even if you can't respond much.

 

Carrie, so sorry you had a bad night. I hope they become more infrequent and stop altogether soon.

 

Beckily, hope you get all the help you need with packing and moving. It will soon be over and then you can settle into your new home and all that extra space you'll have. Meanwhile you should take as many opportunities as possible to enjoy that bath you've got. What precious memories to take into the future of snuggling and soaking together with baby Charlie.

 

AFU the leggings worked great, but I didn't get the second pair finished yet, so he'll have to wear the first pair today again.

 

Sounds like DS1 has woke up so I'd better get off line for now.

post #46 of 95
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Originally Posted by Lynann View Post

 

Carrie, so sorry you had a bad night. I hope they become more infrequent and stop altogether soon.

 


How have your nights been?  Didn't you post something about them getting a little rougher?  I hope they have calmed down for you, or will soon!!

 

I think today after I drop Nora at school, I'm going to run and do some food shopping.

 

Otherwise we should be having a low key day.  Oh, my MIL said she will come by tonight and hang out with Finn so I don't have to pack him up with me to pick DD up from school.  Very helpful! It's about 15-20 min round trip.  And so much better not having to haul him in and out of the carseat and boba, and then grab DD, and then unpack him and rebuckle two kids.  Did I mention it's COLDDDD outside!?  LOL.  So, I'm happy about that.  Whew.

post #47 of 95

The rough patch isn't quite as bad. Thanks for asking Carrie.

 

Seth is waking up more frequently than he did even as a newborn, but its back to mostly just feeding then straight back to sleep. His amber teething necklace arrived Monday and it seems to have helped as he hasn't had a screaming meltdown since. I wrap it around his ankle for sleeping so he is wearing it 24/7.

 

I really wish co-sleeping worked for us. Last week we had quite a cold snap so DH, DS2 & I moved into the guest room with the king bed as its south facing and warmer than our north facing master with queen bed. Seth would start the night in the bassinet then after his first night feed I kept him in bed with us. We did this for 3 nights and on the 3rd night I finally gave up. Neither Seth nor I got much sleep. I'd nurse until he fell asleep then gently lay him down beside me. I'd lay down and be almost back to sleep when he would start to scoot closer and then hit my arm with his fist. He'd keep punching me until I made eye contact. Then he'd smile and giggle and want to play. It would take nearly an hour to get him sleepy again and by then he was ready to nurse and the cycle would start all over. DH got to sleep through it, oblivious on his own side of the bed. On the third night I finally put him back in the bassinet after the first cycle and he went straight to sleep and slept for 4 hours. When I first tried co-sleeping when he was first born it was pretty much the same, when he was beside me he only dozed. It seems my boys like to be left alone to sleep. Its a good thing they do normally sleep for longer stretches as the getting in and out of bed when they have a wakeful night means I get no sleep at all.

 

I am glad that Seth is night feeding, but I do wish I didn't have to get out of bed to do it.

post #48 of 95
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I am glad that Seth is night feeding, but I do wish I didn't have to get out of bed to do it.


Hmm, no chance of pushing the basinette close to your side of the bed?

I still sit up to nurse and it sucks.  But I only have to haul Finn up from the cosleeper.  I still have to wake up but at least not get all the way up.  Just a thought.

It sure sucks not being able to cosleep for whatever reason.  Finn sleeps better in his own space too.  Whether or not he had to b/c of his reflux or it's just who he is, it's hard that it isnt an option.  I wish sometimes I could just "give up and bring him in bed with me".  But it doesn't work.  He's like Seth, he doesn't settle or sleep as well.  So, that's why I don't bother until at least 5 or 6 am, b/c by that point any extra sleep is just bonus anyway.

 

I dropped DD at school and went food shopping with Finn.  Just a quick trip for some snacky foods and dinner.  I was in the checkout lane and the woman behind me said the nicest thing to me. She said she was watching me thru the store wearing the baby and she thought, "She's such a good mom,".  love.gif

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Carrie--I was thinking about you and not being in the loving mood and had another thought.  I personally have thought about it because with DD I had almost no interest for quite some time and with DS I definitely am interested, but not at 11pm or 10pm.  I totally hear ya about thinking mid-afternoon would be great as I often feel this way, but DP is rarely here during that time and by the time both kids are asleep that is what I usually want to do to.  Oh, rambling a bit.  What I really wanted to say is that I that childbirth shifts things around.  For example (TMI) after DD I really liked a particular position almost exclusively and now I am rather indifferent to that position and prefer others.  So, with that I thought well maybe being interested in sex and that kind of affection may have to do with our girl parts being aligned.  Before I got pregnant with DD I read about Mayan uterine massage techniques and did some self massaging.  I thought you might be interested and if anything it feels nice and might be helpful.  Here's the link: http://www.massageandbodywork.com/Articles/AugSept2002/Mayan.html   And awesome to get a comment like that.  It feels really nice :-)

 

 

Lyn:  Too bad about the cosleeping not working.  It has so far worked great for us.  Both of my babies have been cuddlers and sleep better near or touching me.  DS likes to sleep a bit away from me, but likes me to touch him in some way.  However, my sister was not at all interested in cosleeping and has her son in a crib.  It works great for them.  I hope the frequent waking decrease soon for you and you all get better sleep. 

 

 

AFM:  last night DS was complaining about his teeth.  Up till last night he generally just chewed on his finger and drooled a lot.  Maybe I will get an amber teething necklace for him.  I had my last shift on Friday and will be totally done with work soon.  I have a few things to wrap up and need to clean out my desk area and then I will be done.  Over the past couple of weeks I was much less stressed as we had a preplanned vacation and I noticed that DD has calmed down and the concerning behaviors she was starting to exhibit have decreased radically.  I am excited to start a new chapter in my life and feel much, much better all around blowkiss.gif

 


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Yay! Mayan Abdominal Massage! :D

That's what I do for a living :D

 

It's totally awesome :D

 

Also, today was funky. I had a friend/client come to my house for massage which I just don't do but some things I can't say no to and I don't have the office today. So she came by at 130, right after she left my sister and her girlfriend came - visiting from Alaska. Then mom and Marie and we had a nice dinner. Mom and Marie left... My sister's partner left... and then came back to pick up Kristin at 1030. Gah. Long day. Great visit, great to see her, but that's a very long time to be around people for us these days. She got amazing toys for Charlie. :D

So Charlie's sleep schedule got all funky and he didn't eat as much today so my boobs are Playboy ready again.

 

Sheesh. Anyone got a spare baby I could feed? Mine only drained one and went all milk-coma :P

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Yay! Mayan Abdominal Massage! :D

That's what I do for a living :D

 

It's totally awesome :D

 

Also, today was funky. I had a friend/client come to my house for massage which I just don't do but some things I can't say no to and I don't have the office today. So she came by at 130, right after she left my sister and her girlfriend came - visiting from Alaska. Then mom and Marie and we had a nice dinner. Mom and Marie left... My sister's partner left... and then came back to pick up Kristin at 1030. Gah. Long day. Great visit, great to see her, but that's a very long time to be around people for us these days. She got amazing toys for Charlie. :D

So Charlie's sleep schedule got all funky and he didn't eat as much today so my boobs are Playboy ready again.

 

Sheesh. Anyone got a spare baby I could feed? Mine only drained one and went all milk-coma :P



 

That's one of the reasons I like tandem nursing DS and DD because DD is ALWAYS willing to help me out and she's fast.

post #52 of 95
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That's one of the reasons I like tandem nursing DS and DD because DD is ALWAYS willing to help me out and she's fast.


ABSOLUTELY! Another thing I love is that if I do leave and need to pump milk, DS1 will happily drink anything that DS2 doesn't finish, so my liquid gold doesn't go to waste.

 

 

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I should've pumped. He's just been eating so much at night that I figured he'd be up within an hour to eat. But no. No he wasn't.

He slept seven hours straight instead.

 

I didn't, of course, because anytime he twitched I'd hastily try to stuff my full-to-bursting tit in his ... slack, sleeping mouth. Sigh.

 

He did get there. You know. Seven hours later. :P

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Becky--I remember nights like that with DD.  I never really learned to just pump and then would kick myself for not doing it so that I could take advantage and also get some good sleep.  

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Becky--I remember nights like that with DD.  I never really learned to just pump and then would kick myself for not doing it so that I could take advantage and also get some good sleep.  



Yes! Thank you for being silly too :D

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Edited by PoetryLover - 1/14/12 at 12:38pm
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Ahhhh!!! Successful back to front roll just now! And WITH a big cloth diaper butt. She's been working on this for a WHILE but her arm was in the way. WAY TO GO, YOU BIG GIRL!!! joy.gif (SIX months tomorrow)
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Ahhhh!!! Successful back to front roll just now! And WITH a big cloth diaper butt. She's been working on this for a WHILE but her arm was in the way. WAY TO GO, YOU BIG GIRL!!! joy.gif (SIX months tomorrow)


Awesome! I can't believe how big our babies are all getting!

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Ahhhh!!! Successful back to front roll just now! And WITH a big cloth diaper butt. She's been working on this for a WHILE but her arm was in the way. WAY TO GO, YOU BIG GIRL!!! joy.gif (SIX months tomorrow)


Way to go!!!  That's pretty amazing!

 

So crazy she's 6 months old tomorrow!  That's 26 weeks in pregnancy world -- and didn't it take FOREVER to be 26 weeks pg??  

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This weekend we are switching Finn to a convertible seat.  He has just nearly outgrown the bucket, at nearly 21 lbs and 28".  For some reason this feels so monumental to me, even though the bucket always stays in the car.  

 

I must be doing something right b/c my size 4 jeans fit today!  I don't even think they fit me when I got pg!  I also started the bridge to 10k program.  We'll see how that goes -- it's a lot of running!!

 

I feel chatty lately.  What's up with that?  I think I feel better b/c my home is becoming less cluttered and more liveable.  DH is also home today from his trip and I feel whole again.  And despite the fact that Nora cut her hair (and now closely resembles a Romulan) we are really doing well as a family and I feel happy.

 

 

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