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Too Fast!

post #1 of 11
Thread Starter 

I am really struggling with this deep sadness over how fast this is all going. DD turned five in November and just realizing she's so close to transitioning from little kid to grade schooler, and Malcolm is already 4 months old! At Christmas everyone kept talking about how he would be running around next year and it makes me feel weepy just thinking about it. And then I feel guilty for being sad over it, because it takes away from the time I do have with them. But I mean, it's more than just a fleeting thought, it's this deep sadness and anxiety over my babies growing up. We plan on having more, but not for 3 or 4 years (my choice). Anyone else feel this way? Or have advice?

post #2 of 11

I hear ya- my DD turns 5 at the end of this month.  i often miss her 2 and 3 yr old self.  Watching DS grow is amazing and i try to cherish every stage since he's my last.  My mom says she believes that after you die you get to be with your children at every stage of their lives again- im almost 40 and she says she still mourns my baby and child selves.  Weird, but i get it!!!!

post #3 of 11

I feel bittersweet, but also excitement.  I feel both highs and lows.  I'm so sad for my babies to grow, but I'm looking forward to learning who they will become. 

 

I often joke with Finn that he needs to stay my baby forever and never grow up.  I think I secretly mean it!

 

I had a sunrise/sunset moment when DD started preschool.  I still have trouble letting her go (and she's been having trouble transitioning as well, sigh) and realizing she is a whole different person, learning and doing things on her own that I'm not a part of.  It's so hard.  SO hard.  I've been spending a lot of time looking at her baby pictures wondering where the time has gone.

 

Advice?  Well, I don't really have any.  Just try to enjoy the days.  Enjoy who they are and dream about who they will be?

post #4 of 11
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Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes View Post

I feel bittersweet, but also excitement.  I feel both highs and lows.  I'm so sad for my babies to grow, but I'm looking forward to learning who they will become. 

 

I often joke with Finn that he needs to stay my baby forever and never grow up.  I think I secretly mean it!

 

I had a sunrise/sunset moment when DD started preschool.  I still have trouble letting her go (and she's been having trouble transitioning as well, sigh) and realizing she is a whole different person, learning and doing things on her own that I'm not a part of.  It's so hard.  SO hard.  I've been spending a lot of time looking at her baby pictures wondering where the time has gone.

 

Advice?  Well, I don't really have any.  Just try to enjoy the days.  Enjoy who they are and dream about who they will be?

I sobbed the first time i dropped DD at preschool- it's amazing watching them grow but so sad at times as well. I definetly enjoy the baby stages more this time aroound since I now have the perspective of how fast it really does go - people would tell me that all the time with DD and id think'yeah, right- this one day alone has been the LONGEST of my life!"  Now i get it
 

 

post #5 of 11

My oldest is 9 now, DD2 is 5, my toddler turning 3 in a couple months. It goes by way too fast. The days are long, the years are short. Having older kids is fun, I actually enjoy it more then with the littles. They are able to do more things, you don't need to plan around bedtime, naps, etc... DD2 is learning how to ski this winter. I keep thinking that in another 6 years or so, all my kids will be old enough to take longer hikes, go skiing for the day, we can take off for a weekend vacation without all the crap we need now. That will be nice! But on the other hand, every year that goes by, I realize that about half of DD1's life with us is already over. Before I know it she will be on her own. Sniff. It is all bittersweet. 

post #6 of 11
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Originally Posted by Peony View Post

My oldest is 9 now, DD2 is 5, my toddler turning 3 in a couple months. It goes by way too fast. The days are long, the years are short. Having older kids is fun, I actually enjoy it more then with the littles. They are able to do more things, you don't need to plan around bedtime, naps, etc... DD2 is learning how to ski this winter. I keep thinking that in another 6 years or so, all my kids will be old enough to take longer hikes, go skiing for the day, we can take off for a weekend vacation without all the crap we need now. That will be nice! But on the other hand, every year that goes by, I realize that about half of DD1's life with us is already over. Before I know it she will be on her own. Sniff. It is all bittersweet. 



I enjoy the older stages so far more as well but am happy to be enjoying baby stage more, knowing hoe fast it goes.  

post #7 of 11

I agree.  I know that the sleepless nights do end, and that soon he won't stay where I put him.  Soon enough, boob wont solve all the problems.  It's crazy how fast this all goes.  Enjoying it while I can.

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post #9 of 11

I got choked up towards the end. What a wonderful tribute. Reading it, as well as your posts, has made savor Sam's babyness even more. I look forward to when he can talk and walk and some of the freedoms that will come with that, but I know I will miss this stage very much. Feeling sad here, bittersweet...

post #10 of 11

I started back to work last week, and have barely even been doing my usual lurking, but I had to make time to comment here.  I think about how fast this is all going all the time.  It's got me pretty convinced I'm not done having babies.  I want my life to be filled with this stuff, I don't want to be "done" with this stage in the next couple of years.  This time is so rich, I want more.

post #11 of 11
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Originally Posted by copper.kettle View Post

I started back to work last week, and have barely even been doing my usual lurking, but I had to make time to comment here.  I think about how fast this is all going all the time.  It's got me pretty convinced I'm not done having babies.  I want my life to be filled with this stuff, I don't want to be "done" with this stage in the next couple of years.  This time is so rich, I want more.



And that is exactly why I had 4 kids! After I had my two girls, I couldn't imagine just being done, not nursing a newborn again, not having tiny little feet pitter pattering about. After two more babies, now I'm good not having little kids anymore but I guess I needed to have the number that I did in order to feel this way. 

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