i don't think there is any way possible for you to judge is someone else is "doing" unschooling properly. my children have essentially opposite needs. my son is 9.5. i have been learning to meet *his* needs for a lot longer than hers. there's a learning curve here. it's not either i meet her needs at home, or i send her to school. she *also* needs to learn to be part of this family. she can't have *just* her needs met all the time. it doesn't work like that in my book. we are all learning together how to be together.
if you are going to allow yourself to get offended by other people's choices and beliefs, you need to find another forum than MDC. you're not going to be able to steamroll anyone here. people will give it back to you faster than you can dish it out.