Being ridiculous, but I need help - Page 2

[serenbat]

I can assure you that I am posting in good faith.

that doesn't need to be said!!!!!!!!!!! don't worry what some "think"!

And a belated  to you too! There's been some good discussion here, I hope it's been helpful. 

[Hoopin' Mama]

Originally Posted by clav 

I can assure you that I am posting in good faith.  I'm a working mom that has two small children, so I don't have a lot of time to post and read others posts.  I've struggled with this for a while now, know it is my issue and not my sons.  My son is a happy boy who loves everyone.  Like I said before I will love my son no matter what.  Would it take some adjusting absolutely but i love him no matter what.  My concern is how others would treat him.  I know some family members who think horrible things about my cousin because he is gay that they never said when they thought he is hetro.  None of them have said it in front of me or they would get a piece of my mind, but I just don't want my son to go through that.

Sorry. I've seen some ugly things on here that were posted about very sensitive topics as "jokes". Wishing you the best.

[meemee]

Originally Posted by clav 

 but I just don't want my son to go through that.

unfortunately mama that is not in your hands to control. 

i know we all want to shelter our children from pain, but sometimes that shelter itself becomes the cause of the pain. 

[clav]

Thanks everyone for your help.  I've been doing better with this but I still have my moments.  I try to focus on the fact that he is a happy boy.  I know everything else is out of my hands and that I just have to love and support him no matter what.  I know to him all of these things are just toys and he doesn't look at it as girl/boy toy.  I really wish I could think like that and not read more into it than there is. 

[catnip]

As a parent of a gay transgendered young adult, I can tell you that the experience is very different for a kid whose parents stick up for them and don't sit back and let other family members spew hateful things without defending them than it is for a child who doesn't have that kind of support.

I've got to say after seeing the deleterious effects hormone therapy had on the health of someone else I know and love, I do not like the idea of my son needing them to feel at home in his skin, but at the same time, I absolutely support his identity.  While I wish didn't he feel he has to undergo painful and possibly risky medical treatments to be accepted for who he is, I wouldn't change him for anything.