I've been put in a tough situation. DD is 4 years old. Her father has always been in-and-out of her life. He currently lives in a different state far away from us. Back in August he stopped calling (phone visitation set-up for once a week). Today, he finally called and left a message saying he's in our area and wants to see DD.
DD's father has never been consistent in her life. He's gone as long as a year without seeing her. Besides being in her life until she was 3 months old. He's only visited her a handful of times. DD know's he is her dad but often tells me she doesn't want to talk about it. I don't think it is fair to her to let EX have a visit when he has not made any contact in 4+ months. I have also found out through the grape-vine that he is expecting a baby and I fear he will bring it up and she will be confused. He also doesn't provide child support (his parents pay me some money).
I need some input on how I should handle this. I personally want to deny the visit until he has proven to make better contact. A friend has mentioned that I should deny the visit push for reunification therapy between them. But he lives in a different state so I don't know what that will do.
Any advice would be much appreciated!