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post #21 of 376

Chicky2, that's what I'm thinking. Hot shower to get as much wax out as possible. Bleh. I was so torn when I went back to my friend's this morning to have them finished. I told them about my wax dilemma & they reassured me they hadn't used near as much wax as they'd read about or seen on "how to" videos. (None of us had ever done this before!) We all agreed that I minimally wax the last few but never wax again. I washed my hair the day before starting (3 days ago) and I was hoping to wait a week but now I'm thinking I'll wash them tomorrow. They're pretty knotted up & with some good palm rolling, I have confidence they'll stick. And thanks for the link. Great tip!

post #22 of 376

P.S. I love all the photos! Keep 'em coming....

post #23 of 376
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Originally Posted by mamareba View Post

mama yogi bear~ I say if she's happy let her do it! i hope my babe wants them one day! i'd be more worried about them hurting if they started clumping together...can we see a pic? :)



i was hoping she would stick with it but after about a week my mom gave her a bath and a bottle fo conditioner:( maybe someday she will give it a try again, i know i will...

 

your locks are so long i love them!

post #24 of 376

I'm baaaaack! Super newbie, here, anticipating my first wash. As I posted earlier, I used a bit of wax after backcombing my dreads & am regretting that decision so tomorrow I'm looking forward to a hot shower to try & rid my hair of some of the wax....but I'm nervous! My dreads are less than a week old & the last thing I want is for them to fall apart. So let's talk washing.....

 

My dread kit came with a low residue shampoo that I now know has SLS which makes me shiver. I haven't used an SLS shampoo in almost 20 years! Can I just use baking soda? What do you all use to clean your scalp & hair? And afterwards, I realize they need to be fully dry but after that, is it going to take me 2 hours to palm roll all 80 of these babies again? 

 

I love my dreads so very much & I know I'll be a nervous wreck these first few months as they mature & loc up...so have patience with me. wild.gif

post #25 of 376

I have used a lot of different shampoos and /i always come back to good ole liquid dr. bronners.  sudses up better thn aything else ive tried, no residue. leaves my head feeling great, esp. when I use peppermint!!excuse the nursing typing!

post #26 of 376

Mamareba, do you dilute the Dr. Bronners? A friend of mine swears that Dr. Bronners ruined her dreads.....they coated them with a waxy build up and wouldn't allow them to get clean and dry. She never used wax so that couldn't have been the culprit & now I'm afraid of the stuff. I've read so much good about the stuff, though, so maybe she didn't dilute enough? 

 

And how about blow drying? Is that necessary? I never blow dry my hair but am nervous my dreads won't dry well & get mildewy. They're fairly thin (see photo on previous page) but I've read you need to at least blow dry the outside. 

post #27 of 376

koru... sometimes I dilute the bronners with half water, sometimes I don't.  I actually only did that to save money, not because I felt like the full strength had a negative effect on my hair.   I hadn't noticed a build up on my hair, and  I feel like my hair is able to be clean.  I just have not found anything else that suds like Bronners does.  

 

As far as blowdrying, I'd say for me it depends on the day and the climate Im in.  In New Mex it was so dry I never had to blowdry.  When I am visiting VA I do often, so muggy there! in Santa Rosa, where I live now, there are humid or wet days and really sunny dry days, so it just depends.  Mine are pretty thin too, so all it takes is being out and about in the sun and dryness and they dry in about hmmm five hours? or so. If I feel like I need to wash them on a rainy day or something, often I will blowdry around the scalp, but I don't stand there and try to get every dread dry because it would take forever! I just get the process going.  

 

interested to hear what works for you! 

 

Peace! 

post #28 of 376

PS. Just read your last blog post! Love it! I feel very much the same way about dreads.  When people ask me why I started mine, so long ago, I just reply, they were inside me, I needed to show them on the outside.  It was inside me, I wanted to show everyone! I've never looked back.  Its so much for me about being who you are, no matter the consequences, no matter what others think of the way you look or why you look that way.  They bring such a lesson.  

post #29 of 376

How'd you find her blog?  I wanna see!

 

You have EIGHTY dreads?  Wow.  That is going to take ALOT of work if you are planning to maintain them.  I have a bit over 40, last count (some have made babies).  I fought and fought w/mine for months, separating and palmrolling and mostly separating-again.  You may find that you want some of them to congo later on, or that you can't stop them.  I will love seeing your progression.  I'm interested to see how much yours shrink over the next year.  Mine shrunk ALOT. 

 

For drying, mine take almost 3 days to dry if I don't blow dry them at least some.  In the summer they'll take less time, but they'll likely be wet ALOT since we swim daily (salt water--no chlorine!).  We LIVE wet in the summer since it is so dang hot here!  It's the only way I can keep my a/c set low enough to afford it--if we stay wet alot and keep our core temps down.  I want to get one of those blow dry bags things that go on a regular blow dryer.  Anyway, I don't completely dry mine w/the blow dryer--just so they are not dripping everywhere. 

 

I wash w/plain hot water mostly.  Once a month I do a bs wash followed by acv.  We are around campfires and a smoker (meat smoker) a whole lot, and one time I could NOT get away from the smell of smoked meat, lol.  I realized it was on my head and did a deep clean in the kitchen sink.  Left yellow water, so I washed again.  Got all the smoke out!  I would like to get some essential oils but don't know which ones.  I think I'll replant rosemary this year (cat peed on my last big one and killed it) and use that and mint for a refreshing spray.  Or when our roses bloom I'll take petals off the smelliest ones and make rose water to spray on my dreads.  My dh will love that.  We have roses because he adores them. 

post #30 of 376

I may have to try the Dr. Bronner's. Maybe I'll start with the Baby Mild and go from there. :) And thanks for reading my blog post, mamareba. I'm hoping to have a complete compilation of this past "dreaded week" blogged soon.....lots of fun with friends & kids running amuck. Lol! I'm not an avid blogger but I enjoy documenting bits of my life for family & friends, every now & again. 

 

Chicky2, it takes your hair 3 days to try without sun & air? Yikes! My scalp was so itchy last night, I took the plunge & washed them for the first time (after only 3 days!) but I'm so glad I did because it feels like the wax is almost totally gone. Then, of course, I freaked out because I was going to bed with wet hair. Ha! It's amazing how much moisture came out just squeezing them in a towel, though, and then I decided to blow dry them for a few minutes which worked wonders. They were completely dry by morning but I think I'll make a habit of day washing, in the future. 


Yes, I have 80 of these lovelies! My hair is fairly thick to begin with but my dreads are on the thinner side, too. I'm sure the thinner dreads dry faster, though, right? 

 

Another question....(y'all are going to be tired of me soon)....do you put anything on your hair to tame the frizz? After washing last night, I have so much frizz. I palm rolled quite a bit before & after blow drying but they're quite wild. Seeing as my dreads are so new, I probably shouldn't put any oils on them, right? And do you palm roll dry hair, too? It doesn't seem to do much when it's dry but maybe it's more for the inside, knotting it all up. 

 

I seriously jumped into this without doing as much research as usual. Haha! I read about how to backcomb them & once they were in I started reading about maintenance. Ironically, I started this adventure seeking simplicity & freedom and I haven't spent this much time reading & tending to my hair in, well, forever. Love them, though!

post #31 of 376
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I may have to try the Dr. Bronner's. Maybe I'll start with the Baby Mild and go from there. :) And thanks for reading my blog post, mamareba. I'm hoping to have a complete compilation of this past "dreaded week" blogged soon.....lots of fun with friends & kids running amuck. Lol! I'm not an avid blogger but I enjoy documenting bits of my life for family & friends, every now & again. 

 

Chicky2, it takes your hair 3 days to try without sun & air? Yikes! My scalp was so itchy last night, I took the plunge & washed them for the first time (after only 3 days!) but I'm so glad I did because it feels like the wax is almost totally gone. Then, of course, I freaked out because I was going to bed with wet hair. Ha! It's amazing how much moisture came out just squeezing them in a towel, though, and then I decided to blow dry them for a few minutes which worked wonders. They were completely dry by morning but I think I'll make a habit of day washing, in the future. 


Yes, I have 80 of these lovelies! My hair is fairly thick to begin with but my dreads are on the thinner side, too. I'm sure the thinner dreads dry faster, though, right? 

 

Another question....(y'all are going to be tired of me soon)....do you put anything on your hair to tame the frizz? After washing last night, I have so much frizz. I palm rolled quite a bit before & after blow drying but they're quite wild. Seeing as my dreads are so new, I probably shouldn't put any oils on them, right? And do you palm roll dry hair, too? It doesn't seem to do much when it's dry but maybe it's more for the inside, knotting it all up. 

 

I seriously jumped into this without doing as much research as usual. Haha! I read about how to backcomb them & once they were in I started reading about maintenance. Ironically, I started this adventure seeking simplicity & freedom and I haven't spent this much time reading & tending to my hair in, well, forever. Love them, though!


Baking soda's prob your best bet to get all the wax out, though I like bronner's too:)

W/your thin dreads right now I wouldn't worry at all about not drying/mold issues. Mine are about 11mo and I have super thick hair (but started w/dreadies about your thinness-they've thickened dramatically) and have never had an issue w/drying (and I've never needed a blowdryer). It's more of an issue when they're thick you have to watch for mold!

For frizz I often will palm roll after shower w/shea butter or my homeade lotion whcih has shea and coconut oil in it. I wouldn't do that w/your newbies quite yet, though. You can do ACV rinse or spray with aloe. What will help the most is wrapping yyour head at bedtime. I never do that b/c I'm lazy, but mine are always frizzy after nightime!

Palm rolling - the best way to guarantee locs is to spray w/salt water (or get in salt water if you're lucky enough) and palm roll then if you don't do it in the shower. Salt water's so good at your stage in the game, it will really help keep those babies in!

 

I'm almost a year in and have been working on mine (after neglecting for months!) for 1 yr pics:) What's everyone done w/their ends? mine are still not dreaded and have crocheted some in, but it makes my hair incredibally shorter - is it worth it??

 

post #32 of 376

Excellent info, yippiehippie, thanks! I think I'll try the aloe to tame the frizz. Mine looked so pretty & sleek (because they had some wax, to start) but after washing & sleeping & living, they've become more wild & wooly. It doesn't really bother me but I'm anticipating. Ha! I guess I'm still in the infatuation stage. love.gif Looking forward to seeing you 1 year pics!

 

Is it absolutely terrible to trim the ends? My dreads are so long, an inch off the bottom won't make too much difference but I've read it can lead to unraveling in newbies. Quite a few of mine have only 3-4 hairs dangling and I have no idea how they're ever going to incorporate themselves. (Is that a dready term? "Incorporate themselves?" Lol!)

 

Here's a quick blog post I wrote up last night about the process. http://spiralsojourn.blogspot.com/

 

I hope to write something less logistical in the days to come, more focused on why I chose this path. It's amazing how often I've been asked the question, "What does this represent?" Yikes! That's quite the loaded question for a hairstyle change, don't ya think? It does have some meaning, though, and hopefully I can express it in words. 

post #33 of 376

Yep, 3 days, but that's because they are not new.  Mine were pretty thin when I started.  I'll see if I can find a pic in a bit.  They do thicken alot as they lock up and shrink.  Yes to the saltwater!  After we switched our pool from chlorine to salt water my dreads shrank about an inch in a few days.  It was amazing!  Yes to the aloe. That's what I used.  Otherwise, if the frizzies get to ya, just wet your hands and run them thru your dreads.  Then put them back and don't worry 'bout it.  You are going to find that there is alot of letting go in your journey.  It was very eye-opening for me to realize just how much self awareness is involved in this journey, or was for me anyway. 086.JPGThis is what they looked like at just a few weeks.  My sections were about the size of yours, you just have more hair.  They shrunk ALOT.  My hair was also not all one length, but the overall length was almost as long as yours.


Edited by Chicky2 - 1/31/12 at 12:26pm
post #34 of 376

Subbing to this thread. I posted almost a year ago in the old 2010 thread and still don't have my dreads!! A lot of stuff happened last year, some good but a lot of bad...so I just didn't get it done. I really think I do want to try dreads for a year or two though...but I'll have to wait till March at least cause my sis would KILL me if I showed up with brand-new dreads to be a bridesmaid in her wedding at a super conservative church!!

 

My hair is curly and about two inches past my shoulders, but I did get a haircut in early November and cut bangs for the first time in 15 years. They were longer bangs and have grown enough now to tuck behind my ears. My question is this...should I keep my bangs separate (trimming them again) or try to incorporate the shorter bits into dreads? I kind of liked the bangs, but not too sure if I would love them come summertime in Texas!! 

 

Also, I'm starting to get some grey hair. So far it's just a random hair here and there, not too noticeable. Will it be more obvious or less obvious when my hair is dreaded?

 

One more question...What about dyeing with wilder colors..either the ends or random dreads? Good idea or bad or would just wrapping a few random dreads be better?

 

I think my MIL and my parents (and probably some extended family) will think I really have lost it...since this year I plan on dreading my hair, piercing my nose, and getting a tattoo (though the tattoo will not be in a super visible location or very big)...especially since I am turning 36 this year!! I just spent so many of my younger years feeling repressed from my natural tendencies and now I want to break free (plus the tattoo is in memory of my babies). After the rotten stuff from last year I want to break out and do some of the things I've always wanted to do!!

post #35 of 376

Salt water & aloe. Check & check. And I'm anxious to see how much they shrink. I'm tempted to measure them just to compare in the coming months. Chicky2, I'd love to see a recent photo!

 

Rainey, I truly hope you have the courage & support to follow through. I know you won't regret it. Maybe wait until after your sister's wedding, though. :) Just today I told a friend that it's a good thing I'm 40 & not 20 because I'd have too many tattoos & piercings & crazy dreads. I do have my nose pierced & one large tattoo but there's something about that feeling of freedom that longs for more. I grew up in a pretty conservative environment (who am I kidding....VERY conservative) and I've slowly found my way to myself. Life is good, isn't it? I have no advice on the bangs, sorry. But I do know that my gray hairs don't want to stay put in my dreads. Lol! Maybe that will change as they mature. Me & my dreads & my gray hairs will mature together. grouphug.gif

post #36 of 376

This thread is great, I stumbled across it while *trying* to find somewhere or someone to help me get my hair dreaded.  Lovely locks, ladies. :) 

 

I have been wearing wool dreads on an off since last August -- mainly to ease my husband and his family into the idea.  I grew up in the northwest and dreads were much more normal and accepted.  Now, I live in PA and dreads are rare around here.  My hubby's family is so main stream I didn't want to shock them all so, this has worked so far. :)

 

I really want to dread my hair but don't know where to begin.   My biggest problem is that I really dont feel like neglect is an option for me and I dont have anyone to help me with it. I have read a lot and tried to locate people in my area with no real luck.  My goal is dreads by my 30th birthday so I have a year and a half... 

post #37 of 376

Monster Mama, if you're ever in Chicago, let me know & I'll help you out! joy.gif I may even be able to convince my dread wives to jump in, too. Ha! I looked into going to a salon but AY AY AY is that expensive! Around here, most places charge $75 to $100/hr!? Friends are definitely the way to go. It's seriously not that hard but it takes time & attention to detail. I have such awesome friends, I'm convinced that my dreads have a better start than if I'd had them professionally done. All the love that went into these babies is amazing!

 

Natural knotting wouldn't have worked for me either. As an active member in my church & community and attending births as a doula, it seemed a bit much. So no judgment here if decide to have them actively dreaded! 

post #38 of 376
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This thread is great, I stumbled across it while *trying* to find somewhere or someone to help me get my hair dreaded.  Lovely locks, ladies. :) 

 

I have been wearing wool dreads on an off since last August -- mainly to ease my husband and his family into the idea.  I grew up in the northwest and dreads were much more normal and accepted.  Now, I live in PA and dreads are rare around here.  My hubby's family is so main stream I didn't want to shock them all so, this has worked so far. :)

 

I really want to dread my hair but don't know where to begin.   My biggest problem is that I really dont feel like neglect is an option for me and I dont have anyone to help me with it. I have read a lot and tried to locate people in my area with no real luck.  My goal is dreads by my 30th birthday so I have a year and a half... 



Dreads are supposed to be natural anyway, I think it's crazy when ppl go to salons for them, but that's just my humble opinion;)

I did them myself and I have THICK hair...DH helped a bit, but for the most part it was me and the mirror! Plan it when you have no where to go for a couple days so you don't have to do it all at once, but it's really not hard;)

post #39 of 376

I did mine too.  My oldest dd did a few, but I just didn't see the need to go to a professional.  Sort of defeated the purpose of this natural hairstyle, if you ask me, which no one did, lol.

 

003.JPGStephanie, I just walked out back and took this, so not the best, lol.  But they have grown since they shrunk all the way up.  'xcuse my jammies.  I've been sick today.

post #40 of 376
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Subbing to this thread. I posted almost a year ago in the old 2010 thread and still don't have my dreads!! A lot of stuff happened last year, some good but a lot of bad...so I just didn't get it done. I really think I do want to try dreads for a year or two though...but I'll have to wait till March at least cause my sis would KILL me if I showed up with brand-new dreads to be a bridesmaid in her wedding at a super conservative church!!

 

My hair is curly and about two inches past my shoulders, but I did get a haircut in early November and cut bangs for the first time in 15 years. They were longer bangs and have grown enough now to tuck behind my ears. My question is this...should I keep my bangs separate (trimming them again) or try to incorporate the shorter bits into dreads? I kind of liked the bangs, but not too sure if I would love them come summertime in Texas!! 

 

Also, I'm starting to get some grey hair. So far it's just a random hair here and there, not too noticeable. Will it be more obvious or less obvious when my hair is dreaded?

 

One more question...What about dyeing with wilder colors..either the ends or random dreads? Good idea or bad or would just wrapping a few random dreads be better?

 

I think my MIL and my parents (and probably some extended family) will think I really have lost it...since this year I plan on dreading my hair, piercing my nose, and getting a tattoo (though the tattoo will not be in a super visible location or very big)...especially since I am turning 36 this year!! I just spent so many of my younger years feeling repressed from my natural tendencies and now I want to break free (plus the tattoo is in memory of my babies). After the rotten stuff from last year I want to break out and do some of the things I've always wanted to do!!




I'd still be happy to help you!  I kept my bangs because I've never not had them.  My mom convinced me when I was little that I need them, lol.  They were not hard to keep separated from the dreads. 

 

Gray hair...I have a ton.  I'll post a pic of the front if I can get a good one (not good light right now).  Ok got one.  I am still undecided whether or not I even wish to worry about dyeing them anymore, but I'm sure I'll change my mind 178 times first.  And about dyeing wilder colors, a friend of mine dyes wool yarn for a living.  She wants to do some of her colorways on my head.  I think I'll let her go for it soon.006.JPGWow.  I DO have alot, lol.  Oh well, I am almost 40 and have 3 Aspies in the house.  I *should* have gray hair!

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