DD is 3.5 yrs old and an only child. Ever since she's been about 2ish, her desire to "win" at everything has shown itself to be very strong. I don't know where it came from exactly (daycare maybe?), but it's rather, er, annoying. She wants to be the first at everything: first to wake up in the morning, first to go downstairs, first to run upstairs, first to finish her meal, first to press that door opening button, first to...you get my drift. And of course, because she's 3 and so emotionally all over the place, when she doesn't "win", it causes a meltdown. I've repeated to her over and over that winning isn't always important, especially when it puts you in danger (like trying to rush down the stairs), but obviously, the message isn't getting through.
I'm trying to find constructive ways to defuse a lot of her tantrums, but on this front, I'm stumped. DD is a VERY pigheaded, willful child who does everything in her own time (hence she's not fully potty trained because she "Just doesn't wanna"), so I'm at a loss here.