I just got a BFP after 2 months of low milk supply issues. I have my dating ultrasound on Monday, but I imagine I'm somewhere around 12 weeks along, plus or minus 2 weeks. My DS is just over 8 months old. I'm having a hard time finding specific resources/experiences regarding weaning an infant this young. Either they are talking about an older nursling (>1yr) or they are encouraging to nurse through pregnancy and then tandem nurse. Even if I wanted to do that, I couldn't - my milk supply is absolutely shot, to the point that DS has been losing weight. I can't imagine trying to dry nurse him for the next 7 months.
(1) I'm pumping at work still. I'm down to 4 oz a day. (DS needs 10-14 oz/day and I used to pump 20oz a day. *sigh*) Pumping has started to become really uncomfortable on the border of painful and I would like to stop. What do I need to do to stop? Should I drop to pumping twice a day for a week, then once a day for a week, then stop? or can I just quit cold turkey?
(2) On weaning DS in general, it breaks my heart to see our breastfeeding relationship end this soon. But like I said, I have no milk. How can I wean him gently and with respect but firmly? I've been nursing him first and then offering a bottle of expressed breastmilk (from the freezer stash) that may or may not be mixed with formula. But he just still wants to nurse. Will he eventually get the idea that there's no food there if I keep doing this, or should I be cutting him off more? How long should it take to ease him out of this? Should I attempt to stop cold turkey?
(3) Related to 2, DS is a big time comfort nurser. We nurse to sleep. And when he wakes at night (which is frequently, especially since he's been trying to deal with my low milk supply), he nurses back down most of the time. The past few nights I have tried to offer the paci or the bottle instead of nursing, and he just gets REALLY MAD at me. I don't know how to change my strategy for either putting down to sleep or handling nightwakings. I was happy to use nursing, because I figured we were going to do it for a super long time. I'm opposed to using a CIO method at this age, but I'm open to a middle-of-the-road method like the Baby Whisperer's "pick up put down." How gradually should I change his sleep habits/associations? Is it harsh to try to switch cold turkey or after one awful long weekend, is it possible that I could fix it? Any suggestions about how to do this -- I'm really overwhelmed, especially after the last few nights of upset baby.
(4) Related to 3, we've been co-sleeping to make nighttime nursing easier. Should I continue co-sleeping to provide him with non-nursing comfort at night? or will the proximity of the boobs torture him?
Please help. I'm having a lot of trouble dealing with this. I'm excited (if surprised) about the pregnancy, but I'm very emotional about weaning my DS who I had hoped to breastfeed to 2.