Okay, so I have no excuse for not doing personals sooner other than being in a lazy, lurky mood. So here is my attempt to catch up!
renavoo - You are all baby, lady! And so cute! I'm still waiting to get to that obviously-pregnant point, though more and more people seem to be able to tell. I don't think a red-haired baby is a total impossibility for you (my brother has a half-Korean friend with natural red hair!), but yeah, probably less likely, unless you have some non-Asian ancestors somewhere back in your family tree. I would totally love a red-headed baby, too. My mom has red hair, and dh has a reddish beard, so I'm holding out hope! Whatever the hair color, though, our baby is almost certain to be light-eyed and pasty-skinned. Poor thing won't have a chance when it comes to sunburn! I am still very happy with my new capris - I'm wearing one pair right now. Getting some summer clothes was definitely a necessity, since the 80+-degree days started a few weeks ago. We do still get some cooler days, but warm weather is probably more or less here to stay in Texas. I'm glad your dh will be home soon! Sorry your work has picked up again. :( Is there any chance you could work from home at all after the babies come? Or do half-days? Especially since it seems like a half-day at your company is practically a full day! I am so glad you passed your GD test! I know that was a big worry for you so hooray to being past that! I am seriously considering turning down the GD screening, but I need to do more research on it.
wissa - Was your GD test with your son a fasting test? I was under the impression they don't do fasting glucose tests with pregnant ladies because it's dangerous for them to go so long without eating. I will definitely have to look in to that - no way am I going to not eat for 12 hours! Thanks for sharing your thoughts on becoming a SAHM. I am really worried about how that is going to go. Becoming a stay-at-home/traveling wife has been a difficult adjustment already, one that I'm not sure I've entirely made, honestly. I do miss the people interaction (I was also a teacher), and I miss the sense of making a difference in the world. At least in that, I'm hoping becoming a mom actually helps - still not a lot of adult-people interaction, but I definitely feel like raising a baby is more world-changing than being a housewife, though I don't discount the benefits of that, either. I am really worried about figuring out a way to balance my dh's need to unwind and my need to have help with the baby. I foresee that being a major bone of contention, but I'm not really sure of how to solve that at the moment. I think some of it will come down to factors that we just can't know until our baby is here. I don't blame you for not wanting to have an ultrasound without your dh. I've thus far had only 2 ultrasounds this pregnancy, and I was nervous (and sad) to have the first one without dh, but I was also so terribly sick and in need of reassurance that I just couldn't wait to make an appointment with the mw once we decided for sure who we were going with. No way in heck was I having my 20 week ultrasound without dh, both because I was scared of what the news would be, and because it would most likely be his only chance to see our baby before the birth. I hope you get things sorted out soon with the OB. I'm glad talking with your mom has made you feel better about whatever may happen with your birth. I'm still hoping you can have a VBAC, but most of all I hope you can have a birth you are at peace with. Oh, and I loved the story about your DS and his cars!
gozal - I think I forgot to say earlier, but thanks for sharing your thoughts on your transition to being a mom. It is funny, I have had people tell me the exact opposite about the first year of marriage (and I'm talking about married people) - that it's the most blissful time in your marriage. Uh, if that is the case, I have a long, LONG road ahead of me! Neither marriage nor pregnancy has been easy for me at all, so while I'm desperately wishing being a SAHM is going to be easy, I really doubt it. Honestly, it's probably my own personality flaws (e.g., being stubborn, and anal, and insecure) that have made settling in to marriage harder, and I'm sure the same things will come in to play with being a mom. Hopefully, I can learn something from my experiences thus far! Pregnancy has mostly just been hard because I've spent so much of it feeling like crap, to a greater or lesser extent. I'm glad you feel like your relationship with your dh is better than ever, and I hope I can say the same a year from now! We are not buying a house (far, far from it!), but we are looking into leasing a condo/townhome/duplex/etc., so we are working with a realtor. We may still end up in an apartment, but we both feel like we are finding more of what we're looking for, and more in our price range, looking at non-apartment options. More about that below! And a big UGH to your GD screening experience. For a lot of reasons, when I did a GTT (not pregnant), I hadn't eaten for about 18 hours. It was MISERY. More so because they were trying to stick (veinless) me every 30 minutes in a cold, cold room. Yuck. I will definitely have to ask my mw about what their exact testing protocol is. I'm pretty sure they don't test until 28 weeks, so I still have some time. Glad your OB appointment went well! Like wissa, I also declined the screening test, and for basically the same reasons - I wouldn't do further testing, and I would just worry more, so I'm happy with ignorance being bliss for now. Also, I really have zero risk factors, which I know isn't any sort of guarantee, but I'm going to assume all is well until proven otherwise. I hope your screen goes well, though! And yeah, I can't keep up with all our travel (especially dh's), either. I just want to be home!
Gemmine - Well, *I* think you should join, but really, do whatever you're comfortable with. Let me know when you want a blurb on the roster and what you want it to say! Also, where are all the other ladies that got pregnant around when you did? I think we should be getting some more people over here!
AFM, all sorts of things going on since I did a proper update, though very few are pregnancy-related. I did want to say that, after I had that big fight with my dh a few weeks ago, we finally had a really good talk about some of the things that had been upsetting me, and some of our communication issues, and it was really, really good. I finally had a chance to talk to him about some stuff when we weren't either already both upset, or just recovering from being upset. I am already seeing some positive differences, and I hope it continues. It was both happy and sad to hear him say that he felt like we'd fallen into a pattern of arguing over meaningless things - happy, because I hate feeling like I'm always the one with the "complaint" about our relationship, and because it meant it wasn't all just in my head, but sad that he was also experiencing the same frustration I was. Anyway, we are doing a lot better. The real test of some of the stuff we talked through will probably not be until there's another big blow up, which hopefully will not be soon, but I think just being able to talk about it, and about how our actions/words affect the other person was really healing.
Anyway, life has been awfully busy lately, with dh having to travel a bunch for work, and having travel plans changed at the last minute. Currently, we are in Corpus Christi, and will be until Friday. The up sides of this: it forced us to change my u/s to earlier, which was good because I was going bananas; my grandma's surgery has actually been postponed/possibly canceled, so not being there for her is not an issue, either with the u/s, or with us being out of town. (I found out last Tuesday dh needed to be in Corpus by Thursday morning, and at that point the surgery was still on for that Friday.) The down sides are that I have/will miss some of the youth activities I was supposed to be involved in at church, I'm missing spending more time with my grandma, and I'm *sick* of living in hotels. But I will survive. Also, we have been on the hunt for a new place to live (we need to be out of our apartment by May 22nd), and so far we have... nothing. We have some potential places, but we are both just really not sure where we want to live. Houston is a big, big place, so it is pretty daunting to try to sort through our options, and to try to find a place that is bigger than our current place, but not a lot more expensive, but also in an area where we feel safe/comfortable, but also not to far from dh's work, etc., etc. I hate being in limbo, but we're also probably still a few weeks away from being able to apply to lease something, since most people don't want to hold a place for you more than a month before your move-in date, which is understandable. Sigh.
August is also looking to be a crazy time for my family. One of my younger brothers just got engaged, and they have decided on August 3rd for the wedding. Somewhere around that same time, my brother and his wife and kids will also be moving to Michigan for graduate school. So I will probably miss the wedding (it's in Dallas), and brother and SIL will probably miss seeing our baby, at least until Christmas time. I totally get that everyone can't plan their lives around our pregnancy, and in both cases, they have very good reasons for the timing of things, but I am bummed by it. And it's still *possible* I could make the wedding, if I'm feeling up to the drive and not feeling too worried about going into labor 4 hours from my midwife, and it's possible the baby could come a little early and my brother and SIL could be there. Either way, though, I'm happy everyone's moving forward in their life, as are we, and we'll still be family, no matter what.
As far as actual pregnancy goes... not much to report. Still having a few bad days now and then, and still not feeling amazing all that often, but doing all right. It has been a week since I last threw up, but I'm not really expecting that to last. I'm really struggling with staying hydrated, as I have through the whole pregnancy, because water seems to just sit in my stomach and slosh around and give me reflux. This is really maddening, as I'm used to downing huge quantities of water daily with no consequences besides having to go to the bathroom a lot! I have switched to drinking more Gatorade now, which I'm none too fond of, but it seems to not bother my stomach as much. I have decided I probably am feeling the baby move/kick, though I still don't feel really certain about that. Unfortunately, we didn't get a lot of time to just look at/watch the baby in my ultrasound, which made me a little sad. The pics we got were not that great, either. Two pictures of his bum and genitalia, to prove his was a boy, and indistinct picture of his little foot, and a picture of his little arm obscuring his face. Alas. Anyway, something is definitely going on down there sometimes, and I figure at least some of it must be the baby! He was totally not positioned how I thought he was, based on what I was feeling. His head was down and to the left, with his feet up and to the right. I'd been feeling something down and left which I thought were kicks, but which were probably his head/hands, if anything. I have more recently started to feel things more where his feet would be, though. Assuming he hasn't completely flipped... but I think I would have felt that? Anyway, anxious to see the midwife this Friday and see what the official ultrasound report says and hear the baby again. After having Deborah lose her little ones, and having 3 losses between 18 and 20 weeks in my DDC, I'm becoming more than a little paranoid. 2nd tri losses are supposedly quite rare, but it sure isn't looking that way right now.
Anyway, hope you ladies are doing well, and hope to see lots more good news on here in the upcoming weeks. I will try to do a better job of keeping up!