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Chica, I've definitely had to get new clothing. I think i needed new pants by the time I got the week 12. I was still able to wear my normal pants by then but they would bit into my stomach making it really uncomfortable. I tried the little trick where I tied a rubber band to keep the pants closed but the problem was that when I sat down, that part still rubbed against my stomach. I don't know if my skin was just ultra sensitive or what! If you're smaller than you probably can hold off on buying maternity clothes, at least the shirts. Up until about 3 weeks ago, I was able to wear my normal shirts, as long as they were long. My biggest thing is that the big belly makes things rise up so if the shirts were stretchy and long, I had no issue with wearing them. Sadly, most of my shirts weren't long enough and some weren't stretchy enough! so I bought new clothing anyway. I bought a lot of cardigans and such in hopes that I will be able to wear them after I give birth anyway.

 

YAH to a great deal with your midwife! That is fantastic! And it sounds like something wonderful to keep you busy with. That really stinks that you have to move at 6 months but at least you'll be completely mobile and therefore, the move and set up will be fine. Why are you moving there? As for progesterone, I'm so with you about staying away from drugs that you may not need. Unless there is a real reason you need it, why supplement with something that may make you feel tired? Did you get your progesterone level tested? And clap.gifto hiding the thermometer!

 

Monkey, YAH to finding an apartment! I can't wait to celebrate when you have everything all signed! And double yah to reaching viability! I remember how excited i was to reach this milestone! it's an amazing feeling! Enjoy it! I love the little stories we assign to our little ones in the womb as we wonder what the heck they are doing in there. It's really amusing because in all probability, they have no idea what the heck is happening and in fact, they may be sleeping much of the time! But I always tell my DH that the little ones are playing with me and that I'm going to play with them back. i've always been rather introverted and i don't like talking unless I absolutely need to (I end up living a lot in my head) so I also attribute their punching hard to them wanting me to talk to them. haha or at least, it reminds me that i should be talking out loud to them instead of talking in my mind! Ugh to stomach issues. Seriously, between the reflux and heartburn, constipation and gas and I'm sure some other gastrointestinal issues in the future, pregnancy is definitely NOT NOT NOT elegant! haha not to mention the constant need to pee. Huh, I'm going to explore elimination communication. By the way, yah to grandma doing well!

 

Wissa, Gozal, K, hope all is going well!!

 

 

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Monkey/renavoo, I am SUPER interested in the elimination communication method! DH's best friend and his wife did it and loved it--they said there were a few times that it got messy (haha), but no more so than anything normally would. They mostly just do it at home, and their daughter potty trained a ton earlier. Sounds good tome!

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Chica where in the UK are you moving again? I follow this midwife on facebook and absolutely love her. She's in the London area I believe. Not sure if that is helpful at all...

 

HELLO TO ALL YOU PREGNANT LADIES! Hoping to join you all on the other side sooner than later...

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RE Maternity clothes - I could wear my old jeans (they were lee platinum with the elastic waistband) until around 13 weeks.  Sometimes I had to undo the top button though.  Since then I have bought a belly band to wear with my regular pants and I really like it.  It's quiet the versatile piece!  They sell them at Target http://www.target.com/s/be+maternity .  Target also had maternity leggings and tanks/camis.  I love the leggings they are super comfortable.  I absolutely hate maternity pants, so I plan on mostly wearing sundresses during the summer.  Thus far all my dresses still fit.  However, I bought them with getting pregnant in mind so most of them had a little room around the belly.  I love the cami because they don't have a built in bra...I prefer my own (thank you very much).  Plus, the built ins just make me have one monobby. 

 

RE EC training - I wish you guys luck, but I'm sticking with diapers and I feel no shame in saying most of them with disposable.   I'm not saying it's not possible, but having already had a child...it's just seems like extra work.

 

Renavoo - I hope you have been able to slow down at work a little.  You are getting so close to seeing your babies and I know getting the nanny situation lined up will really put your mind at ease.

I can't believe you believe the GI issues that go with pregnancy aren't elegant!!  They certainly make me feel attractive...well, ok not really, but at least they remind that I am pregnant.

 

Monkey - Yeah to finding a new apartment with more room.  I'm sure those extra aquare feet will be filled with baby stuff soon.  We have a huge tub in our bath (literally I think DS could swim in it).  When I look at it...it does make me think of women in birthing pools lol.  Of course, no way would I actually VBAC at home.  Plus, after all those fertility treatments and surgery to just get pregnant, if I do VBAC I'll have no issues getting pain meds this time.  I think I've earned them...

 

I agree with you I do get tired of the books on parenting with the holy than thou take on things.  What works for one parent/family may not be what best for another.  As for attachment parenting...It does make some valid points...as long as I held DS all day 24/7 even when I went to pee he wouldn't cry. Of course, it did little for my sanity.   I never could understand mom's who wouldn't give a bottle because it wasn't exactly 4 hours or whatever (this is a random thought).  Meeting your baby's needs are important.  

 

However,  I have a psych background and I have had experience with children with actual attachment disorders "In extreme and rare conditions the child may not form an attachment at all and may suffer from reactive attachment disorder as defined in DSM-IV and ICD-10."  So, the whole attachment parenting thing kind of irks me.  True attachment problems are caused by abuse and neglect, not a parent not meeting every little whim a child has.   (Well, maybe that made some kind of sense). 

 

Chica - I think letting the temping go was a good choice!  I don't think they really know why women with PCOS have a higher miscarriage rate.  It could be because of low progesterone, or our eggs may just not be mature enough.  I've also read that it could be cause by sugar spikes, which is why women on metformin tend have a reduced chance of miscarriage.  I stayed on metformin (just 2 pills daily) until 11 weeks.  I probably could have gone off of it at 8 weeks.    I have PCOS and (knock on wood) haven't had any miscarriages.  No problems with my first pregnancy that I got pregnant naturally own and so far nothing this time around. 

 

Kpaker - Welcome.  You may not have been in the infertility thread for a long time, but I do know you were over in the BSL thread.  In any case, we are all experiencing pregnancy after infertlity!! Hope things are going well with you!

 

Me- I'm 15 weeks.  Earlier this week I was very uncomfortable.  I felt constant pressure to pee and just trying to pick toys was painful and I couldn't sleep.  I was to the point of going in for a UTI test, but then suddenly everything just feels normal again.  So, I'm not sure what that was all about.  I felt more like I was 39 weeks pregnant than 15.   Not much else going on for me. 

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renavoo - We're moving to Wales, just a bit north of Cardiff. We'll be starting a small, community-focused church there (on a council estate, which is the "rough" area of the city), and have no idea how long we'll be in the UK. It could be for the rest of our lives...or just for a few years! It's something that's been in the work for the past two years and we're very excited about it. We love the people there and are really looking forward to sharing our lives with them. How are you feeling this week? I love your thoughts about the little ones playing with you. :)

 

Sila, thanks for the link to that midwife! We'll be about two hours from London, but I sent her a message to see if there was anyone she could recommend.

 

I think that we'll both be under NHS, which might mean a midwife who is "free", or we can opt for an independent midwife (who will cost around $4000). If we go independent, we'll be able to choose, and it might also make it easier to ensure we can have a homebirth. Wales is extremely supportive of homebirths (http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-wales-10951966), but the midwives still get a bit edgy when you go past your due date.

 

Wissa - thanks for the PCOS encouragement! I feel like I've been doing really well. No spotting, no severe cramping, so I've told myself I have no cause to worry and to keep enjoying every day as it comes. I've also been trying to keep an eye on my sugar, but a co-worker brought in homemade chocolate chip cookies today and there was no way I could pass one up. I'm glad you're feeling more comfortable, and that you didn't have a UTI! Also--while I am very interested in EC training, I definitely know it will depend on the child. We plan to cloth diaper and then we'll see how things go with EC. If it works, it works, but if not--I don't think I'll have the energy to keep pushing it, lol!

 

AFM, tomorrow is 6 weeks, AND my first midwife appointment! I'm counting down the hours. :) I'm not sure if there will be any physical examination, which might be a little strange at first since my midwife is a close friend. I just have to remind myself that she's seem a bazillion lady parts and mine are surely no different, lol! I've started feeling more exhausted towards the end (and beginning) of the day. No real nausea yet, which I guess is a good thing (although a few symptoms would be reassuring). My right boob is now slightly larger than the left! So funny. Also, I talked with DH yesterday and I think we are going to tell his family (as well as mine) on Mother's Day. I'm still a little nervous that they'll be able to keep it a secret, but it means a lot to him and it will be a nice day to share it with them.

 

 

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Chica - How was the appointment?  I'm thinking you probably didn't get an exam unless you needed a pap.  I don't think most providers (midwifes or Ob's) do internal exams until the very end.  

 

You sound excited about your move!!  I hope everything goes smoothly with it.  Sometimes moving just down the street can be stressful!

 

I didn't get any nausea until later around 8 weeks or so...so don't be surprised if it shows up.  Don't feel bad about a couple of cookies.  I think most women actually have low blood sugar in the first trimester.  I think when they talk about blood sugar spikes it's more than just a couple of cookies.  ;)

 

Mother's day sounds like the perfect time to tell the grandparents.  We told our close relatives fairly soon because if anything went wrong I would have needed them for support anyway.  My father-in-law was the grumpy gus because he didn't think we should have told him if we weren't going to let him tell anyone else.

 

I'm 16 weeks and have an appointment on Thurs.  I'm excited and nervous about it at the same time.

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chica - I don't remember exactly when I got maternity clothes, but I remember thinking I wish I had done it a little sooner! I think it was around 9-10 weeks, maybe? For me, it wasn't so much that I *couldn't* fit into clothes, but that they were uncomfortable because my stomach was uber-sensitive to being touched. I've actually kept wearing some non-maternity shirts until the past 2 or 3 weeks - pants were really the main thing for me. I've found full-panel pants to be so much more comfortable to wear, plus they help cover a little if you're wearing a non-maternity shirt that's a little shorter due to a bit of a belly. It's nice to hear another EC success story. I keep meaning to see if there are any EC support groups/playgroups in my area, because I'd really like to meet up with some real-life ECers for tips and reassurance. I'm way on board with having to change as few diapers as possible! Especially since the trend now seems to be not potty training till kids are three or four, and changing a diaper on a kid that big just seems nasty. I know I was potty-trained at 19 months, and I suspect my brothers were all potty-trained by 2 or 2.5, because we all went to preschool at three, and none of us were in diapers then.

I hope your MW appointment went well! Can't wait to hear about it. And how exciting about moving to Wales, too. I'm not jealous of the timing, for sure, but I've always thought it would be cool to live in the UK. Starting a church definitely sounds like an interesting endeavor - are you guys working with/for a particular organization or denomination? Or is this all the two of you? Either way, I'd definitely love to hear more about it! I hope the nausea stays away, though I know it definitely can set in later than 6 weeks. I actually seem to be in an unfortunate minority in having mine set in before I was even quite 5 weeks. I think Mother's Day is a great time to share. I had hoped to be able to share that kind of news last Mother's Day, but I got to wake up to a BFN instead. greensad.gif Definitely looking forward to being pregnant this Mother's Day!

renavoo - So did you survive your baby shower? I am happy for every day that I am still pregnant. I really wish I could just relax and feel like, duh, of course you're still pregnant, baby is not even close to cooked! And I really think I will go to term. But still, I'm happy for every day he keeps growing on the inside of me. Since he's started to wiggle and poke at me, I've talked to him a lot more. I almost never talked to him before that, because, well, it just wasn't that real. And seemed a little dumb. But most of what I say to him now is, "What are you doing in there?!?" and "Please stop, that feels weird" and "Can Mommy please go to sleep now?" innocent.gif So not exactly lots of lovey-dovey things. Oh, and the occasional reminders that, though he may be viable now, he is to stay in his womb! And yeah, pregnancy is not any more elegant now than it was to begin with. But I just bought some new antacids that are way tastier than the ones I had before (not to mention much less expired!). I wish I had done that earlier, because I think they could have helped earlier on, but choking them down was more than I could stand a lot of the time. Can't believe your little ones are so close to arrival!

wissa - I feel you on not really getting some of the extremes of parenting. I definitely don't see myself as a militant AP type, nor do I think non-AP-practicing parents are raising children doomed to be emotionally/psychologically messed up. For me, a lot of AP stuff just makes sense and fits with my instincts. I find crying babies absolutely heartwrenching, and can't imagine purposely leaving my baby to cry if I thought there was anything I could do to help. I also don't think that babies, however smart, are trying to "manipulate" me. Sure, they may be crying so I will pick them up, but, um, I don't see anything wrong with that. Three-year-olds, however, are a different story... pinktongue.gif I'm still waiting to see how my own individual baby turns out, as I'm sure he has some surprises in store for me! Anything big happening for your 16-week appointment? Will you be having/scheduling an anatomy scan? Are you going to try to find out gender? It's kind of crazy to think how far along you are now!

Sila - wave.gif Hope to see you over here permanently soon! So excited for this cycle for you!

AFM, not a lot going on. 25 weeks today, and still pregnant! Definitely, definitely have a baby bump now. Still have the occasional bad day, but mostly feeling pretty darn good, outside of some allergies. I'm still working on psyching myself up to do some actual exercise, because I'm still pretty weak from the first half of the pregnancy. I'm slowly getting some organizing/decluttering done, but not nearly enough considering we (start to) move in 2 weeks! So excited about that. dh is home now, so I'm off!
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Chica...Gozal ????

 

Renavoo - I've been following you on the IVF grad Thread.  Sorry hear the 3rd trimester is hitting you somewhat hard.  But I'm excited for you to be close to holding your twins!! I hope you get a break/rest soon from work!! 

 

Monkey - I agree with you about the parenting stuff.  So much of being a parent is actually instinct.  I think if you get yourself too locked into any one way/style/philosophy of parenting you might actually risk not meeting the needs of your child.  A friend of mine's first baby was very touchy feely, ya know the kind of baby that would stay in a sling all day right next to Mommy's chest.  However, her second child really just didn't like to be messed with...So,if she had tired carrying that one around all the time it would have been one unhappy baby.  In the end both kids are smart and well adjusted, which I think is because she listened to what the babies wanted.  

 

Now I don't think infants manipulate or cry for things other than holding, feeding and changing.  However, I think you will find older babies are far smarter than you think!!  Trust me they will surprise you.  My son before he was a year old would call for my husband using his first name not Dada!  He would do this from his crib and it would work every time just because we found it so funny!!  My pediatrician always says it's ok to let them cry when your heart tells you it is ok.  There were some times when I let DS cry it out, but I could never let him cry if I thought he was hungry, scared, etc.  But sometimes it was purely because he wasn't getting what he wanted, which was pretty much my complete and total attention 24/7.  For some women that works, but I needed space and time when I wasn't holding a baby. 

 

And I guess I should say at 4 he really clever at trying to get what he wants.  I give in a lot to his tactics partly because I don't want to discourage his creativeness.  Plus, isn't that what adults do?  Figure out how to get what they want?

 

Me - 16 weeks appointment went good.  I've gained 5 1/2 lbs!!  (That's good.)  20 week scan scheduled in 4 weeks.  I can't believe how close I am to the half-way point. 

 

Gozal - Have you thought about taking your DS to any of your ultrasounds?  I would like to take my DS to my 20 week, but my DH is totally against it. 

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Wissa, I can't believe you're 16 weeks already! my gosh, time really does fly! It's so exciting. I'm glad you gained weight. Did you get to see the little one? If so, how did everything look? Your philosophy with the babies makes sense. i believe in catering to their individuality too. At least I do know. haha we'll see how that goes when they are here and I just want to nibble on their stomachs.  ;o)  Why does DH not want you to take DS to your ultrasounds? It sounds like an amazing experience to share with your DS? I would think that it would be a good idea? Perhaps DH just wants to savor in your little bundle of joy? 

 

Monkey, bigeyes.gif 25 weeks! i mean seriously, time is just shooting by! That is so fantastic and i'm happy your having more good days than bad. As for talking to the babies, haha I do that a lot and just "check" in with them. My biggest issue is that I tend to be really introverted so I live in my head a lot and think about the babies constantly but forget to talk to them. But it's easier when they kick around in there. LOVE IT! I'm also playing music for them more because I hear it calms them down a bit now and into the future so when I remember, I'll definitely play something for them. How is packing going? Excited for your move!

 

Chica, how are you feeling? i think it's a great idea to tell your families on mother's day! They will be so excited! 

 

Sila, looking forward to you joining us here too!!

 

AFM, sorry, I keep forgetting where i post things and I didn't realize it had been so long since i've posted on this thread! Things are good here. work has been a little crazy but I expected this last week to be insane with 14 hour days so I was pleasantly surprised that I only had to work about 11 hours a day. I guess the secret is to make sure that you manage expectations. haha. But otherwise, just had a scan and the babies are measuring around 4 pounds and both are heads down. Otherwise, suffering from lots of swelling in my hands and legs but loving the feeling of the babies in my body (although sometimes they do kick less than happy places. Actually, I think they are punching those places, since they are heads down!) I can't believe that I will be 32 weeks tomorrow. DH has been preparing the room a little which I feel a little guilty about because i haven't been able to help as much. But he's really getting into it and the sweetest thing is to see how amazed he is when the babies kick while he's feeling my stomach. i am not a fan of pregnancy overall, but those times I get to share with DH make all the discomfort worth it!

 

Big hugs everyone! I have an all day child birthing class today and next saturday too! I hope it's worth it. Otherwise, I'll be practicing sleeping with my eyes open. haha

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Hey guys! Sorry, it's kindof been a crazy week at work, which has kept me from posting. The first appointment was great! No internal exams or anything, but I did the pee test and that was all normal. It was really nice to just chat, she stayed for almost two hours and went through lots of different things, answered all of my questions, etc. So far I've avoided the nausea except for little blips of it here and there, but nothing too intense. I did get this weird sore throat/cold thing last week, which has made it really hard to sleep. Plus, I got super sunburnt on Saturday, so the past two nights I feel like I've had zero sleep. :-P But I'm really excited that we'll get to tell our families in less than a week--and that tomorrow I will be 7 weeks! :)

 

Monkey, we aren't going through a particular denomination, but there's an organization called Acts 29 Western Europe that we'll be partnering with. It will be very community/city focused and we're really excited to get to know the people and be there to help them in any way we can. We've been planning this for the past two years and while it's a little scary at times, it's also really exciting. It is strange to think that our child may have a totally different childhood (culture-wise) than we did, but hopefully we can make it a good thing. Plus, I'm excited about the things they'll get to experience while we're over there (and who knows how long that will be for). 

 

Renavoo, what kind of birthing class will you be doing? I'm such a nerd about those things, they always just seem like so much fun. So glad you're enjoying feeling the babies. :)

 

Wissa, yay on the weight gain! Glad to hear your appointment went well. :) I feel like the half-way point is so huge, can't believe you're almost there! 

 

Has anyone read "Bringing up Bebe"? I started reading it last night at the bookstore. It's been an interesting read--not sure I how I feel about her overall philosophy, but I've enjoyed reading about how the french raise their babies and the cultural differences. I have so many pregnancy/baby books on my "to read" list! I may have to take a break soon and just read something really trivial.

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Gozal: I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your grandfather. I am so excited about your twins though! LOL at the introvert twin babies.

 

renavoo: You're so close!! How was your shower?

 

Hi monkey! I think I'm over my shyness now :-) Very good news about your grandmother! When is your lease up? Ours is up in January so we'll be doing a search with a newborn in tow! What hospital are you going with for delivery? I'll be at the new Women's Pavilion at TCH. What area of town are you living in? I'm technically between a freeway and railroad track too! I am also considering a mix of CDs and EC (maybe some newborn disposables since sometimes they're too small for cloth in the beginning). I have a friend who is doing this with her almost 1-year old with good results.

 

chica: So, so happy to see your "face" over here! Bringing Up Bebe is definitely on my to-read list.

 

wissa: I just bought a bunch of leggings/camis/tunics. I do need some longer tank tops to wear over the leggings and I'll be set. I was thinking of getting some skinny maternity jeans but I don't know. The BeBand has been a lifesaver. I've been using that since 6 weeks! Well not anymore since it's warm and I've been trying to wear dresses.

 

AFM: I'm finally ready to join! I was so sick during the first tri that I wouldn't have been able to keep up with anything. I'm feeling a lot better now! I know I mentioned the umbilical cord cyst on the non-grad thread and I am happy to report it has resolved! I lost a ton of weight my 1st tri but OB says it's fine. I'm switching over to the midwives from this point on; just waiting to hear from them for an appointment.

 

I guess my blurb could say (under due in November): 27, DH 28, expecting #1 after 1.5 years of trying and 1 loss. EDD: November 4th.

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Gemmine - I am so flippin' excited that you're finally here!! So, so great about the cyst resolving on its own. Sorry to hear you had a rough first tri - I know how that goes. But yay for second tri energy!

 

Chica - so exciting about your UK placement. It sounds like the adventure of a lifetime. I am totally in awe of your zen attitude - I don't know if I could do something like that without a potential time frame in mind! So, your babe is going to be a Third Culture Kid, like me (and DS to an extent). I read an excerpt of Bringing up Bebe and it was definitely interesting, but I couldn't get over how it presented America as kid-centered - to me the States are still very kid-unfriendly (if less so than when I was a kid) so it was just weird to be reading about how the French are even less so. I am just starting How Do Eskimos Keep Their Babies Warm?, which is about parenting practices around the world. I really like it.

 

Renavoo, 32 weeks?! No way. That is just way too exciting. I can't believe what a trooper you are at work. I seriously don't know how you do it! How wonderful that they are both vertex. I hope your childbirth class was interesting - I am a big nerd, well, about everything ("professional nerd" I like to say as an academic) and that includes all things l&d, but my childbirth class was kind of a let-down. I knew everything from reading and googling already!

 

Wissa, I could not agree more about being too rigid with a given philosophy/style/appraoch and missing some of your child's needs - YES. Regardless of the philosophy. I'm so glad your weight gain is going well and you don't need to worry! As for bringing DS to the ultrasounds, I think he would really enjoy it but I actually haven't wanted to bring him. For one, I am always fearful that there will be a problem and I think that would be really difficult for me to deal with in front of DS. And also, selfishly maybe, I love to just lie quietly and watch my babies. If I took him, I would need to focus on explaining and keeping him from climbing on all the equipment. ;)  I believe my OB doesn't allow children younger than 5 in any case, so I haven't thought of it too much.

 

Monkey, wonderful news about the apartment but sorry to hear you'll have to switch congregations - I can imagine that being hard, especially since you are so involved in your current community. In many ways our current congregation is not that great a fit for us (for one thing, there aren't that many active families with young children) and sometimes I think about switching, but then I don't because it's so close to our house, and we do have good friends there, everyone knows me, all that. I love how excited you are about EC! It is something I did consider for second time around for about 5 minutes, but I don't think it's for us and especially not with twins. I also researched the opposite perspective (because I was starting to feel guilty about not ECing DS, silly I know) and I do think there is something to be said for uninhibited voiding. I think the book you are using as your guide sounds really balanced and wise. I will say, I had all sorts of ideas about toilet learning until I actually had to teach a toddler to use the bathroom...it is more a spectrum/ongoing process in my experience than an absolute switch. BTW, to me it's totally normal for little kids to go by a tree if they need to and I do that all the time with DS (in different parts of the US too) and have literally never had anyone notice or care, so I wouldn't worry about that aspect of EC at all!

 

kparker, what's new with you? 

 

AFM, ack things have been so busy. Lots of family visiting/visiting family, which is very important to me, but it has been a little overwhelming. DH's family is very active and always on the go. I have learned that I simply cannot do that. I definitely have some second tri energy - my house is CLEAN, people! Wahoo! Home cooked meals, yeah!  But it really is different than my second tri with DS. Already I can't eat much at a time and have to eat every 2-3 hours, and I have to rest with my feet up periodically throughout the day. I really learned this the hard way, because if I don't do it I get very faint and sick. So I am adjusting my expectations.

 

I had an u/s last week at 16w and got to see the babies - their sacs are now near to one another's and they were sort of snuggled in there in the same direction. We just watched the National Geogrpahic "Mutliples in the Womb" DVD and I got so happy thinking of them starting to feel each other - that's what the program said about ~16w or so. Baby B is a little smaller than Baby A but not in a discordant way, just in a normal, genetic destiny sort of way. Tech thought she spotted a boy part on Baby B but I kind of wish she hadn't told me anything because I'd rather just know or not know. I don't like maybes apparently! I have my anatomy u/s scheduled for the end of the month and cannot believe it will be the halfway mark. That is just nuts! We were supposed to do more family stuff/travel this weekend and I just told DH I couldn't do it. I feel badly but I also need to have quiet weekends so I can start the week not exhausted. I feel like I have not quite been able to just relax and enjoy my pregnancy yet, since I've either been sick/exhausted or on the go. I just started my pregnancy journal so that is helping. I am using the same one I used when I was pg with DS which is really nice.

 

Question for you guys about the GD test - has anyone found an alternative to the glucose challenge? I feel like I am struggling to keep my blood sugar and blood pressure up and I know this test will make me incredibly sick. But I am also hesitant to forego it AMA. I am going to ask if I can get a script for a blood sugar monitor to use for a week - don't know if my doctor will go for that though.

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I've just been chillin' and lurkin'.  I'm good at that. My genetics screening last week came out low risk (well, the NT scan, haven't gotten the bloodwork back yet but I assume it's also good). The kid was stretching and sucking its thumb in there, and was being a little jerkface to the technician and not letting us see its neck. I had to get up and bounce around because it fell asleep on us. It was kind of exciting :) Now to wait for the anatomy scan in a few weeks.

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(crossposted to BSL grads)

Is anyone else doing the Arm's Reach cosleeper contest? If you have the time I'd love some votes to help me out :) None of my friends are being able to vote with newly registered accounts so bleh! Here's the start of my 5 photos: http://www.mothering.com/community/t/1351988/faces-of-mothering-contest/320#post_16974146

If you're participating, let me know I'll vote for you as well.

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Hi ladies!! Hope all is going well! I'm so excited because my presentation was yesterday and now that it's over, I'm hoping that I can say goodbye to my late nights :o) We'll see! It was really embarrassing though...i had a difficult time breathing during my presentation not because I was nervous but I assume because of the pregnancy. I felt like a rookie! My teammates found it quite amusing, saying that they thought i was going to give birth right there. sigh. Ah, pregnancy...

 

Chica, I hope you're starting to recover from your sunburn! Those are the worst. Ugh. But I admit, I always liked peeling away the dead skin. sigh, that was probably tmi, huh? haha Yah for 7 weeks! And as for Bringing up Bebe, no I haven't read it but I'm interested in how other cultures bring up their babies too. I remember the controversy that stemmed from this book which made me want to read it even more. But right now, I'm trying to read books about how to sleep train the babies. haha that would be my priority once the little ones are here.

 

Baby shower was nice. It was great to see family and friends and it was the first time my family met my DH's family! We eloped so they never really had an occasion to meet :o) Things went well. However, I have to say that I really don't see a point to a baby shower and I was really really stressed about it and ended up having a melt down the morning of the shower. I don't think DH realized the extent to which I hate parties where i'm the center of attention. haha I also have been buying stuff for the babies, things that I feel like we still need and that's a lot of fun!

 

Class was quite dull by the way. I feel like you can find all the stuff you need online (like you said, Gozal). I still have the second half this weekend and it'll be better because we get to tour the ob unit but generally, the information wasn't very helpful. I think the one part that DH and i found most interesting was how to distract me from the pain. Laughter and hot and cold tools. DH is so cute. He's been researching how to get me to the hospital if labor hits at 3am and we can't find a cab. I keep telling him that the hospital is 10 blocks away and I'm sure that I'll be able to walk it between contractions (worst case scenario!) but he still keeps researching. it's cute that he is so worried. 

 

Gozal, yah for seeing the babies! As for feeling bad, DON'T FEEL BAD if you don't want to do something. of course you want some time to relax! This has been a tough pregnancy so it's natural to want to just stay home and destress. I hope you're feeling better with your decision and not still feeling guilty! i just bought the dvd for multiples in the womb because of your suggestion! i can't wait to watch it! As for the GD test, I don't know :o( Do you think you'll still feel so sick you won't be able to do it later in the pregnancy? If so, and if you feel like you're healthy, I think you can just refuse the test, can't you? I mean, if an alternative can't be found. Are you going to find out the sex? My tech told us at 12 weeks what she thought the babies would be and she was right! But it's not right that the tech didn't ask you first if you wanted to know!

 

K, yah for a low risk result in the screening. Is your next scan at 20 weeks? Are you going to find out the sex? I don't know how to vote for you! I went on the link and I saw your photos (gorgeous!) but I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do to vote. Just hit like?

 

Hope everyone is doing well!!

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wissa - I definitely agree that you have to respect your baby's personality. I don't know if listening to my heart will help me with the crying, though - it ALWAYS tears me up inside to hear a baby crying. And I include my 18-month-old niece in the "baby" category. Even though I know that she has pretty much refused to be rocked/comforted to sleep since she was a year or so old, and that if you put her down, 90% of the time she cries for less than 5 minutes and is out cold. Maybe it will be different with my own baby - I know SIL seems to have a sense of when her cries are just tired cries, and when she actually seems truly upset/scared. Anyway, I'm definitely anxious about being put in charge of another human being! And while I'm definitely an advocate for parents' rights to make their own parenting decisions, it is a pretty awesome responsibility! Glad things are going well for you so far, and yay for gaining weight! I still feel like I'm gaining a little too fast, but my mw is okay with it, so I'm just going to keep keepin' on. It is crazy that you're almost halfway there! Are you guys going to try to find out the sex at your scan? Do you have it scheduled yet? Have you felt your LO wiggle yet?

renavoo - Thanks for checking in over here - luckily, I stalk the IVF grads thread, too, or I would have been worried! That is kind of funny about your presentation, but I'm sure it was frustrating/embarrassing at the time. Everyone in my family makes fun of me when I can barely talk after climbing a flight of stairs. I can only imagine how it will be when I'm further along! Sorry birthing classes were boring. My mom would definitely concur on the laughter thing, though. She said that with every baby, my dad would buy an issue of Reader's Digest and read her all the funny parts, and it distracted her from the pain. And other than her first baby, her births were all fairly quick, epidural-free deliveries. I'm hoping since I didn't inherit her lack of morning sickness, I can at least inherit her easy labors!

chica - Yay for a good appointment and for making it to seven weeks! Do you know when you'll see the mw again? Hopefully by next time you will be able to hear the heartbeat. That's still the most reassuring part of every visit for me, even though I can now feel this little squirmer wiggle every day. Ugh to the sunburn. Hate, hate, hate being sunburned. Though, like renavoo, I do so love to peel off dead skin. bag.gif I have found the liberally application of icy washcloths to be quite helpful, when possible. Thanks for sharing a little more about your church adventure! Is your husband currently a pastor or minister of some sort? I hope I'm not being too nosy, I'm just very fascinated by religion. I always like seeing how other people's beliefs and practices are similar to and/or different from my own. Especially in missionary-type endeavors, since I was a missionary in Romania for a year and a half.

Gemmine - You are now officially on the roster! Our desktop is currently totally out of commission, so hopefully everything looks all right. I still cannot figure out why, even though it's the same browser, my laptop will not support the rich text editor. Sigh. Our lease is up in two weeks! So next week is pretty much all moving. We currently live in Humble and are moving to Kingwood (about 7 miles between the two apartments), so we're going to try to do a gradual move, since our leases overlap by a week. Since we weren't able to find an affordable two-bedroom to our liking, I'm assuming we'll be moving again in a year. orngtongue.gif I haven't lived anywhere longer than 14 months since I graduated high school 10 years ago. My driver's license has just had my parents' address on it for the past 8 years, since that's been more stable! (Okay, technically, it had my parents' address on there for all the years before that, too, but I was actually more or less living with them!) We are going to be birthing at the Bay Area Birthing Center in Pasadena. Ironically, where we are moving is just 2 or 3 minutes from a different birthing center (Reunion), but we didn't know we'd be living there when we picked Bay Area. I liked the midwives at Bay Area better, anyway, but if I'd known just how close I would be to Reunion, it might have tipped the odds more in their favor. We're about 45 minutes to an hour from the birth center at our new place, but it's almost all freeway driving, and on roads that rarely have bad traffic. The surface road part is honestly probably the worst for traffic.

Have you toured your hospital yet? I'm curious what it's like, after watching it being built for so long. (I worked in the Med Center and was a TCH volunteer for about a year.) The children's hospital itself is pretty dang awesome, as hospitals go, so hopefully the maternity section is just as good. On the off chance that you need a NICU, I have to say TCH's is the nicest, most comfortable, private, roomy NICU I've ever seen. But hopefully you don't ever need to go there! What part of town do you live in? Do you know (or does your friend know) if there are any EC groups in Houston? I've looked on DiaperFreeBaby, but I don't see any listed for the Houston area at all, which seems strange to me. I did recently join the Houston Babywearers group, so maybe I will find some people there. So glad to hear that that cyst has resolved itself! I've never heard of such a thing, but it sounded scary. So you are going to be delivering with midwives, then, hopefully? Are they part of the same practice as the OB you've been seeing? And yay for feeling better!

gozal - Hmm... I haven't heard of either of those books before. They sound interesting, but I already have a stack of books I'm trying to get through, so maybe I shouldn't try picking them up any time soon! I'm curious about the kid-centered thing, too. I guess I could see calling the US, to some extent, kid-centered, but not necessarily kid-friendly, if that makes any sense? Darn it, now I want to get the book and see what it says! And I do know you like your internet privacy, but I have to admit to being very curious about where you are from and where you are living now! Switching congregations is not the most exciting thing for me, either, but it's not something I'm unfamiliar with. In my church, congregations are strictly geographically based (with some special congregations for other languages, and for young single adults), so I have been in 9 in the last 10 years - not counting congregations I was a part of as a missionary. The good thing is, I already know some ladies in my soon-to-be-new congregation, so I won't be starting completely from scratch socially. And since my church is very centralized, issues of theology/doctrine/etc. don't really play in to things for me. I am excited to be much closer to church, too. Especially since we'll be switching from an 11 AM start time to a 9 AM start time!

I really hope we can make EC work for us, and I do think that I need to keep in mind that "accidents" are a normal part of the process, and that this baby is still going to need help with pottying for quite some time. (A lot of five-year-olds at summer camp still can't manage their own snaps!) It's also funny to me, because I hadn't actually heard people were opposed to potty training younger kids until I read the EC books! Both of them mention how "everyone" has heard that trying to potty train younger than age two or so is psychologically damaging, and why that isn't so, and where that myth comes from - but I had never heard of that till I read those books! Since I potty trained before 2, I never thought there was anything weird about it. It is sort of funny to me how all the classic "baby" symbols - diapers, bottles, strollers, pacifiers, plastic rattles - are all things I'm not really planning on for my newborn. (I'm sure strollers will come in to play at some point, as may some of the other things - but none of that is on my baby registry!) I feel sort of icon-less for this journey. I guess a stork is still just as relevant to my pregnancy as to any other mother's pregnancy, though. wink1.gif

Glad your energy levels are up and you're getting things done! It's so nice to be able to accomplish things. But it does seem like that magical time of energy is all too brief before it starts getting interrupted by new and different bodily needs. I'm glad your LOs are healthy and growing. Maybe they will be "playing" with each other at your next u/s. I know my brother and SIL got to see all sorts of funny things their boys were doing to each other in utero - like one appearing to kick the other in the groin, while getting punched in the head in return. Boys! eyesroll.gif And I wouldn't feel at all bad about telling your dh you need some down time. Growing babies is exhausting, and you will probably have a much tougher time getting down time once they're here, so take advantage while you can! Our schedule lately has been crammed, and I know I could really use some more time to just "be". I don't know what else you can do for the glucose test. I was really planning to refuse it initially, but I honestly can't remember where/what I read about it being not necessary/useful. So I just caved and scheduled mine for two weeks from now. But I found out at my last appointment that they just skip straight to the 3-hour test at my birth center, which I'm very not happy about. I wish I had had the backbone to decline, or request a one-hour test, but I was taken by surprise, so I didn't. I guess part of it is that they do so few tests, anyway, I kind of feel like I should go along with what they do ask. But I feel like someone, somewhere, talked about there being a non-fasting glucose challenge test. Not sure, but I would definitely bring up your concerns with your doctor and ask what the alternatives are. I do remember reading in Having Twins and More that elevated blood sugar is actual pretty normal in a multiple pregnancy, because you have to make sure to keep enough glucose circulating for you AND multiple babies. Anyway, hope you figure out an alternative!

kparker - You and hubby are so cute! Love the picture! Who are the kids in the other pictures? If liking a picture = voting for it, I did that. smile.gif I was tempted when I saw the contest, but I don't have any great pics, and I have an aversion to putting pictures with my face in them online for all to see. Yay for low risk results! Maybe your chill fetus will turn into a nice calm, chill baby?

AFM, well, there's plenty of AFM in all of the above, but here's a bit more. My grandma goes home today, so that is exciting. She is doing better all the time, though she still walks much more slowly than she used to. I think she will do even better being back in her own house, with a car to drive and people to see and things to do. (She could have driven one of my parent's cars, but she's terrified of Houston traffic!) She'll be back for followup right around when the baby's due, so hopefully she'll get to see him. I'm getting a little more energy, too, and getting more things done, though there's still plenty to do. I've thrown out a ton of stuff, organized a ton of stuff to give away (especially teacher stuff), and gotten dh to do a bunch of sorting and organizing, too. It still seems like there is so much to go through, though! And I'm getting a little demotivated to do it. But I do like looking around and seeing how far I've come, so maybe that will help. I've also just been busy spending time with my grandma, shopping for dh's birthday and Mother's Day, doing stuff for church, and just trying to keep on top of daily household tasks. There is always more to do than hours in the day, it seems. But it feels so good to be back to doing things, even if it is overwhelming sometimes. We did manage to squeeze in a picnic/walk in the park on Saturday, which was nice. Pretty hot, but nice. I'm so not ready for summer to be here, but at this point, I sort of have to accept that the 80s are here to stay.

Speaking of summer, would anyone be willing to start a summer thread? I know summer is technically more than a month away, but it sure feels like summer here! I'm certainly flexible on when exactly someone would take over the summer thread, but I was thinking maybe one of the less-pregnant-than-me ladies might take on that task?

On the pregnancy front, things are going well. Everything looked good at my appointment last week. I swear, my mw's scale is bewitched, though. I'm fine with the fact that it measures differently than my home scale, but it also shows bigger gains between visits than my home scale. Sigh. I've gained 18 lbs. since my first visit at 8 weeks. This week is 26 weeks. At least it slowed down from last time, when I was gaining 2 lbs/week. The average was only 1.25 lbs a week for this time. I know it's still within a healthy range, I'm just concerned that I'm putting on unnecessary fat that will be hard to get rid of later. I really just need to get out and go walking, both to build back my strength and to burn some calories. Oh, and if I could quit with the sugar cravings (and giving in to them!) that would probably be good, as well. I'm still reveling (perhaps too much) in being able to eat pretty much whatever I want again. Maybe I can get a picture of my belly today - it is growing in leaps and bounds! Definitely no question that I'm pregnant now, no matter what I'm wearing! dh and I were having a debate last night about who was bigger around, so we measured. I'm 40.5" at my biggest point - dh is 41"! I don't see how this is possible, as I'm quite pregnant, and while dh is a little chubby, he's really not that big looking. Anyway, little munchkin's HR is ticking right along, and he has nice accelerations when poked, so things are looking good! As I mentioned to gozal, I have my GTT test coming up in 2 weeks, and I'm very unexcited about it, but not feeling like fighting it. My mom is going to drive me to the appointment, so at least I don't have to worry about that. And my mom will get to see the birth center/meet the midwives, which will hopefully assuage some of her concerns about me birthing there.

Sorry for the novel, and hope everyone is continuing to do well!
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Chica - Yeah for a good appointment.  Glad you are feeling reassured a little bit.  Sorry about the sunburn.  It seems I read somewhere that pregnant women are more sensitive to the sun.  Happy reading...I totally get the might have to read something trivial.  Sometimes I read stuff I wouldn't admit to anyone, but I like to take a break from reality once in a while.  

 

Gemmine - Welcome!  Glad your MS has gotten better in the 2nd trimester!!  Very very glad to hear the cyst has resolved!!! Lots of women lose weight in the 1st trimester and I'm sure now that you're feeling better you'll start to put on some of those pregnancy pounds.  ...And yeah to having a beband buddy.  I didn't buy one with my first pregnancy, which looking back I really should have.

 

Kparker - Sounds like your little one is all snuggled in.  :)  It's nice to know everything looks good and that you're at a low risk for certain things.

 

Gozal - So sweet thinking about your twins getting to know each other in the womb.  I hope you continue to get good reports about their growth.  I know with twin that a major concern.  So yeah to healthy babies!!  I'm with you on not liking maybe.  Are you wanting to know for sure at the 20 week?  My 20 week is the 30th, so it sounds like our scans will be close to the same time.

 

I think it's ok for you slow down.  You are growing 2 babies!   Wahoo is right to a clean home!  I've actually been able keep mine much cleaner and toys picked up.   Plus, if you want to slow down and just enjoy being pregnant no one should say a word.  I know I've been trying to spend more time with DS now that I feel better.  Things will change once the baby is here and it's hard for me to imagine how I'm going spend time with him and take care of a newborn.

 

It may just depend on your doctor as to what they will let you do.  I know they check your urine at each visit for sugar, so maybe if that has been clear they will be more likely to let you just check your blood sugar.  When you talk with your doctor make sure they understand that you are taking it seriously and not just trying to get out of the test.  There are women who think they just don't need the test, so that can kind of put doctors on the defensive. (That said I think you sound very reasonable.)

 

As for DS and the ultrasound.  I guess I'm going to end up leaving him at home.  He has hit one of his "I'm testing my boundaries phases", so his behavior at the doctors might not be his normal delightful self.  

 

Renavoo - Awesome that your presentation is done.  It's not nice for them to laugh at the pregnant woman.  ;)  Hope this means you get to slow down a little bit.

 

That is really sweet how your DH is all concerned about how he is going to get you to the hospital.  My advice is to let him plan.  It will make him feel like he is contributing something.  Plus, you may or may not feeling like walking 10 blocks at 3cm. ;)  I walked around at 3cm for a week, but I know some women who claim their labor was very painful even that early on. 

 

I'm sorry your baby shower was stressful for you.  I've always thought the point of baby showers was to show support to the parents to be.  I know "down south" they are also seen as way to help parents pay for the expensive of a new baby.  Hence we often have "diaper showers" where everyone brings diapers, wipes, destin cream, etc.    In any case, I hope you got some cute and useful baby things.   I keep making lists in my head of things I'm going to need.  I can't wait until I get to start actually buying them.  (So, I'm somewhat jealous of your fun right now)

 

Monkey - How's moving?

 

Me - 17 weeks!!!  I'm starting to feel the baby move more or maybe I should say I'm feeling more confident that what I'm feeling is a baby.  So far this baby seems to be way less active than my DS.  DS seemed to never stop moving.  This one just seems to stretch and then he's done.  The most interesting thing is that the baby seems to move in response to DS!   My DS always comes and gets in bed with me in the morning and the baby always starts moving when he literally jumps onto the bed.  Also, when DS gets loud (starts fussing, crying, has fit) the baby will start moving.  The other thing is that I really don't think this one is going to like being messed with.  If I put my hand on my belly where it is kicking it will move to the other side.  My DS always kicked my hand.   ---  

 

BTW - I had a cavity filled this week.  The numbing med they use is different when you are pregnant and it takes forever for it work and it wears off fast. 

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wissa - Looks like we cross-posted. Yay for being more sure of the baby moving! And funny that he's already reacting to his brother. I want to know more about this faster-wearing-off numbing stuff. I HATE having my face feel numb for hours (and also hate the pain of the numbing injections) so I typically choose to go medication-free for cavities, unless they're really bad. I might consider something that would wear off faster. I'm guessing the injection pain is the same, though? Anyway, sorry you had to deal with all that. I was lucky enough to get a clean bill of health from my dentist last month.

Funny thing about moving - we really don't own enough stuff to pack too much in advance. There just isn't that much that we can put in boxes for two weeks and not notice it's gone. And most of what does fit into that category, we are trying to get rid of! I do think I will pack up the bookshelf soon, though.
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Yeah my next scan is 18-20 weeks, we're def finding out the sex but not telling anyone else :)  As for the photos I'm not in any of them; that's my best friend, her husband, and their daughter, and the blonde boy is my nephew! He looks just like his momma. Yes, liking/thumbs upping it is how you vote :)

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Hi Ladies!

K, I voted for your photos :o) Good luck with this!

Monkey, yah to your grandma doing better! I'm so happy with how everything has turned out and that your grandma is mobile, if a little slow (that's how I feel now too. haha) As for weight gain, I think it's not something you should worry too much about. I hate the uptick of my scale (I've stopped weighing myself at home, actually) but I rationalize it by saying that each baby weighs 4 pounds, there's 2-3 pounds of amniotic fluid and I have SWELLED up...my hands are numb from carpal tunnel syndrome and seriously, my legs look like tree stumps when I get home. haha. I was looking in the mirror last night and it's funny because I can still see a shadow of my former body but now, it's just accented by this huge belly!

 

You have to go to the 3 hour test initially?! That's ridiculous! I can't imagine. Honestly, i would refuse because that is just too much. Even now, when I don't feel the cravings of food as much, I don't like to go that long without eating something. It makes me weak to think about it. And it's so unnecessary. I do think you should push back a little...just because that is their procedure doesn't mean it's right. haha I get on my soap box every time food enters the picture. ;o)

 

Wissa, YAH for movement and how funny that the baby reacts to his big brother! I bet that your DS is excited as he watches his mom grow with his brother! As for getting a cavity filled, ugh. I've been putting off my dentist appointment for a while and you just reminded me why. hehehe

 

Anyway, hope everyone is doing well! I think work should slow down a bit now, thank goodness, although there's still a lot to be done before i leave for maternity leave. But i'm excited for the prospect of spending some time just reveling in the pregnancy, even though i feel so much more tired and achy. Oh well, i just can't wait to meet the little ones. It's so close and I get excited with each passing week!

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