So, I'm wondering, how do you decide when to ask questions, or try to have discussions with your teen, and when do you let things roll along, forgoing comment or question? I had thought I was pretty good at gauging this, but I'm off my game here a bit. I usually wait for dd to bring anything to me that she wants to discuss, and we do a lot of car discussions, which seems to work for her. I try not to offer anything unless she really asks. All of a sudden though, everything is off limits. Even when she actually asks me about my thoughts, she doesn't REALLY want me to respond because then I am in her business. Until she asks again, and is annoyed that I haven't answered.
I feel like we are communicating in 2 different foreign languages with each other, lol. My best bet is what I like to think of as "silent empathy", but I don't always succeed. Deep breath.