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I always ECd as though it was the usual thing to do, even peeing DS in sinks in public restrooms with others present. I was actually a little disappointed that people rarely noticed! Friends and acquaintances usually were positive or too polite to say anythIng, lol. Not until I was overheard asking my 18 mo old if he needed to go potty and him nodding did I suddenly get a lot of interest from other parents- is he POTTY TRAINED? How did you do that? As they change diaper #2034...just do your thing, mama. A few ladies I met at BF support groups and one expecting friend I told about it decided to try it after seeing it work for us. I never advertised it, just went about it and those who wonder will ask and a few of them might try it:).
I don't advertise that we EC, but I never shy away from telling people about it if it comes up. I think partly because I think EC is so darn great that I want other people to know it is a possibility. If I was shy about it, my cousin wouldn't be ECing her newborn son! I haven't had any "flack" about it, although I have a few friends who are the insecure type who I down-play it around, because I don't want them to think I'm bragging. I also don't mention it to moms who are struggling to train their 3 year olds!
What really bugs me is when my mom tells people that I have DS "trained" and then I have to go into a big explanation about the fact that no, I didn't "train" my infant, I am just responding to his needs. I feel like she is "bragging" and mis-informing and it makes me very uncomfortable.
Honestly, I've gotten way more flack about the fact that I don't believe in sleep training when in "mixed" company. I have had friends (who did sleep train) get mad at me for implying that they are a bad parent when I explain to another friend (who is considering sleep training their first baby) why they may wish to reconsider.
I tend to take the same approach as nstewart. I downplay it when I am around other parents that I know tend to exhibit insecurities. I do correct DH when he starts telling people that I'm potty-training DD. But mostly people respond to it pretty well and are curious about it and how it works. My mom couldn't believe it the first time she saw DD go pee in her potty. And the older kids already think I've lost my mind with the cloth diapers so putting their baby sister on the potty doesn't elicit much of a response from them!
I have told a few people but make it clear that it is just "taking him to potty" and not potty training in the conventional sense. I don't balk away from admitting that yes, it is "training the parent" but quickly add that parents are also trained to feed their children WAY before their children ask for that, too!
People think it's cool that we haven't changed any poopy diapers in over 3 months and personally I think they are quite jealous!
IMO the only way that EC is "parent training" is if responding to your baby's needs and cues is being "trained". If so, I am totally "trained"!
I don't go along with the "training the parent" thing if someone says that is what it sounds like. I actually tell them that IMO it is communication, not training. I liken it to knowing when your baby is hungry. Maybe they just think I'm crazy...lol