My almost 2.5 year old son is acting like a girl (or just being a very lazy boy) and it really bothers me. I cannot get him to do anything active.
Every time I take him to playground all that he ever wants to do is swing. He rarely ever wants to climb up and go on the slide or do anything that requires moving. Even when he's on the swing he doesn't want to move his legs back and forth to swing himself. With a baby in the carrier, I can't exactly chase him on the playground to make him climb, run, etc. But I do a lot of verbal encouragement and physical chasing (as much as I can) to encourage him to go climb but he never wants to and it makes me want to pull my hair when at the end of my acting/chasing/jumping-around/being-exciting or what not all I hear is "i wanna go on the swing". I cannot believe a child, especially a boy, can be this inactive!
Another thing, he loves to bike (tricycle) and he always wants to bike but every time I take him out on his bike around the neighborhood he moves (peddles) at the slowest speed possible I get tired just standing there waiting for him to get moving. Every time I take him out (1-2times daily) I end up totally annoyed and upset about his pace and my nagging, and I honestly do not enjoy taking him out at all at this point. I spend the whole outing (just around the block) fighting with him because I'm trying to get him to go by saying or physically pushing his bike from behind and he absolutely refuses me to push him because he wants to "do it by myself", and then he doesn't!
Whenever we see kids playing in the neighborhood, he would stop to watch and never move again. He just stands there and watches and watches and watches and I can't get him to leave. Many times I'm so embarrased that he is watching so much. By the way what can I do about this? Is this even common for this age?
This problem bothers me at many levels. 1) It is not healthy that he doesn't get any regular exercise at all, and exercising as part of self-care and wellness is a very important value of mine that I want to pass on to my kids from a very young age. 2) I expect a boy (a man) to be active, energetic and athletic. A man like him would just make me want to throw up, and I can't even wrap my thought around the fact that this is my son at 2.5 y.o we're speaking and what kind of man (if at all) he's going to grow up to be. 3) Laziness is a trait that I absolutely cannot live with and again I can't believe this is my son! 4) It just makes me mad that I'm totally tired chasing, jumping, yelling, dancing, being exciting, just to get him to move his body and he won't move a single bit. I feel like the biggest idiot, and you know what makes me even angrier?- him misbehaving (throwing, banging, jumping & stepping where he's not supposed to) in the house clearly saying that he's got access energy that needs to be released and I take him outside and he acts like an unmovable stone.
Maybe this post wasn't titled that well - I don't believe girls would even act like this; I should have probably just said that my son is a lazy ass! (sounds terribly mean but this laziness) Help please! What can I do to help him be more active? (the put on music and dance ideas obviously doesn't work here, we're talking a living stone here!)
Edited by Mamaluu - 1/5/12 at 8:56pm