circumcision and concealed penis 'buried penis'

[anne mtl]

Hi everyone, i have 3 boys:

18 year old = not circumcised = no problems

10 year old = circumcised = partial buried penis

8 month old = circumcised = totally buried penis

my 8 month old son was circumcised at 14 days and now at 8 months, he has a buried penis. i've researched on this and many seem to blame circumcision. i was wondering if i should get surgery to fix that. he has no infections or problems urinating. some say that he will grow out of it but my 10 year old never grew out of it.... my 18 year old feels really bad for his little brothers and told me i should have never did had them circumcised and that this could affect their pride enormously. i feel awful. i'm pregnant with another boy and i don't want him circumcised but my husband wants circumcision done anyway, i guess because he wants equality between them.... has anyone been through this? has anyone had surgery to correct a buried penis? or has anyone's child grown out of this situation?

[tropicana]

the phrase, two wrongs don't make a right, comes to mind.

i'm assuming your 18 year old was from a previous relationship?

i think your research is correct, that circumcision can contribute to a buried penis.

keep finding out more about circumcision, and you may find that you are more and more sure you don't want to do this to your next child.

[anne mtl]

thanks for your post tropicana. my 18 year old and my 10 year old are from my previous relationship. my 3rd and almost 4th sons are from my current relationship. i wish i could go back in time and change this because now i feel that i have to fix this problem i caused for both my sons. :(

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

There is no way you should risk the son you are pg with now. Odds are extremely high that he will also suffer from buried penis and yes circ is to blame for the other 2. You need to bring out your mama bear and tell your ds that no you will not consent. Obviously none of your boys genitals are going to match and it is silly to even think they will.

[bandgeek]

Does your 18 year old feel comfortable talking about this with your husband?  Maybe he can explain what it's like to be intact, how it doesn't matter if they all "match" or not, how the buried penis is not worth the risk of the surgery, etc.  Maybe hearing it from another adult man (even a young one) will help him understand.

[McGucks]

My son is almost two years old and also has an inverted penis.  The doctor showed us how it is buried under a "fat pad."  If you gently press the fat pad, his very typical penis pops right out.  He said that they often resolve over time.

I asked about this on MDC when he was first born and got a whole lot of responses (some pretty nasty...I am new to the natural community and just didn't know that not circ'ing was an option) about how it was because he was circumcised.  We have pictures from when he was an a thin infant who had been circ'd.  Those pictures show a very clearly NOT inverted penis.  It was only after he put on lots of weight from EBF that the inversion occurred.

It would not occur to me to get surgery to "fix" the inversion, in part because it may fix itself over time, and in part because, yes, I do regret having him circ'd in the first place and don't want to change anything else about him.

I would ask all posters to be compassionate (or at least not unkind and critical) to OP about this.  What's done is done, and the research on penile inversion and circumcision is NOT conclusive.

We do the best we know with the information we have at the time; when we know better, we might make different choices.  Of course, I understand and respect the reasons MDC is anti-circ., but some religious and traditions are present in some people's lives.

As far as "matching":  women's vulvas don't match.  Why do people compare penises so much?  Hmm.

[motherhendoula]

I agree with Caedensmommy - i too have one circd boy from my first marriage and one intact from my current marriage - while i have no help OP for buried penis or what caused it - i wanted to give you a great line from my very own DH .  Initially he wasnt sure whether we should circ or not - because he was and my older son was and didnt we want this new little boy to 'match' the other men in the family????   To which my DH replied - "well its not like we take our pants down in family pictures - "  I mean really - how will anyone know if they match or not???

[McGucks]

Originally Posted by motherhendoula 

To which my DH replied - "well its not like we take our pants down in family pictures - "  I mean really - how will anyone know if they match or not???

 

[MommyofNRM]

Originally Posted by caedenmomma 

My son is almost two years old and also has an inverted penis.  The doctor showed us how it is buried under a "fat pad."  If you gently press the fat pad, his very typical penis pops right out.  He said that they often resolve over time.

I asked about this on MDC when he was first born and got a whole lot of responses (some pretty nasty...I am new to the natural community and just didn't know that not circ'ing was an option) about how it was because he was circumcised.  We have pictures from when he was an a thin infant who had been circ'd.  Those pictures show a very clearly NOT inverted penis.  It was only after he put on lots of weight from EBF that the inversion occurred.

It would not occur to me to get surgery to "fix" the inversion, in part because it may fix itself over time, and in part because, yes, I do regret having him circ'd in the first place and don't want to change anything else about him.

I would ask all posters to be compassionate (or at least not unkind and critical) to OP about this.  What's done is done, and the research on penile inversion and circumcision is NOT conclusive.

We do the best we know with the information we have at the time; when we know better, we might make different choices.  Of course, I understand and respect the reasons MDC is anti-circ., but some religious and traditions are present in some people's lives.

As far as "matching":  women's vulvas don't match.  Why do people compare penises so much?  Hmm.

This describes my son EXACTLY! I came searching for info on circumcision after several people told me my son didn't look normal and stumbled upon mdc. I've learned so much and have begun doing better for my family. While I can't go back in time and change what I did to my baby, I will absolutely not make the mistake again. When you know better, you do better. My son gained a lot of weight around 3 or 4 months and developed a "fat pad" and his penis became introverted. He will be 2 next month and there's been no change. Aside from being introverted, some skin reattached to the head and when we started seeing a new pedi, he assumed ds was uncircumcised. He has not recommended anything and says it will eventually fix itself. It's purely cosmetic. Now I just hope and pray that it does fix itself and not hurt/cause embarrassment to my son as a teen and adult. 

[Cande Hadlock]

I have a Chunky Autistic 6 yr old and finally got the doctors to look at his inverted penis and really believe there was something wrong.  His testes have not dropped either.  He was circumcised.

I have a 12 yr old also circumcised has no problems whatsoever.  I don't know if this helps anyone but I feel better.