I'm going to be an odd voice on this thread and say that we have decided to vax both kids. But selectively, and somewhat delayed (I've refused varicella, rotavirus and flu shots, and they don't give Hep shots here until later anyway). DD, who will be three in 10 days, just got her 18 month shots. I AM torn about vaxing her further, however, because she did have a reaction this time (her whole upper arm was swollen and red for 4 days). I'm waiting on the Canadian Disease Control folks to get back to me with a recommendation after I reported her reaction, then I'll talk to my doctor.
Oren is just 2 months behind the Canadian schedule, and I'll probably keep him close to that. DD got her shots at the same time as O got his first set, and so her reaction happened AFTER he had his needles. If it had happened before, I might have been more hesitant to innoculate the baby, but as it is, he had absolutely no response to the vaccines - no lump, soreness, fever, no crying or crankiness on the night of (all of which DD had as a baby), so I feel OK continuing with his vaccines.
Amanda - for me, the greater good does impact my decision. I'm afraid I'm not very articulate on the subject, but someone in my community compared vaccines to cycling - you do incur greater personal risk by riding a bicycle rather than driving a car but the overall repercussions of that decision to cycle, as part of "cumulative changes in behaviour" makes the overall risk of accident or fatality lower for your area. I liked that. I am generally community-minded, and my decision to vaccinate my kids had the scale tipped in favour because of those considerations. Otherwise I was totally on the fence. And of course, I still do fret about it, and how bad would I feel if one of my kids had a major reaction? So bad. But I am glad to be in that crowd of the vaccinated that helps make it safe for anyone to decide to not vaccinate. And I totally respect anyone's decision to not vax, I fully understand where you are coming from, it just wasn't what I felt in my gut for our family.