I wanted to start a support thread for other familes dealing with the stresses of one or both providers being unemployed..and who feel, like me, that they are at risk for losing everything. Hopefully this is the right place for this thread.
I am a stay at home mother and wife. DH had a very good job that paid 14.91$ an hour. It was about an hour away and was physically hard for DH- but he worked there for 4 years and was employee of the month twice. We lived comfortably on that income and did quite well. Until may of last year- 4 days after DHs birthday, he was fired for 'not meeting production'...he was fired by ONE point. He was an excellent worker and didnt deserve that. He wasnt the only one to get fired around this time. To be honest, i dont think that had a problem with his 'production'- but rather they needed to get rid of a few, and that was their excuse.
We have been drawing unemployment since then. 330$ a week. We pay a little over 400$ for the place that we're renting..which is hardly worth the price. We live in a small 3 BR 2 BTH double wide. Half of our electrial outlets dont work..the place is pourly put together..which make our electric bill higher because either the heat or ac is on ALOT. Our bathtub and bathroom wall seems to be rotting out. The place was INFESTED with roaches when we moved in. The AC went out 4 times during the summer after DH lost his job and we have numerous other issues with this place. Atleast we have a large back yard.
Our rent is always due on the first of every month. We can never pay it all at once because we dont have enough money to do so. Luckily, our landlord was friends with my grandparents and cut us some slack. We pay 200$ one week and 200$ the next.
Our electric bill is about 200$ a month, car issurance is a little over 100$, phone/internet is about 83$ a month and water bill is 30$. We are normally behind..on everything. Then what we have left goes to gas and whatever else we may need. Luckily, we have food stamps- which gives us 316$ a month for food- but it doesnt cover non food items, so we have to make sure we have enough for that.
DH has been looking for work NONSTOP since he lost his job. We are now on his unemployment extension- we have 10 weeks left. After that, nothing is guaranteed. Needless to say, DH hasnt found a job. Finally, i think he just gave up on the idea. Unemployment rates are very high where i live. There are NO jobs. After giving up on the idea of finding a job, he decided to go back to school. Which is great..but i wish he would worry about finding a job first.
I try to do what i can to help with income. I do tarot readings and make arts and such and sale on ebay as well as selling any clothing that we cannot get further use out of. It helps a bit, but hardly enough to notice.
Now, while DH does his homework and talks joyfully about his day...I cry in the bathroom for fear that we will lose our home. I know it isnt much- but it is ours ( well, it would be almost ours if we where renting to own, which we're not). I feel very overwhelmed and very scared..DH doesnt help much in the comfort department.
I feel like our time is running out before we lose our home. I try my very very best to stay positive-but its very hard when everything seems to be going wrong.
Anyone else out there in a similar position or with feelings like this?