We were unschoolers for about two years. About a year ago we sent our son, now 9, back to school. He is at a Waldorf school that we love for the most part. In our town it's where the hippies send their kids.
Anyway, it's come to my attention that the social aspect is the biggest draw for DS. Which is fine, except the school costs us thousands each year, even with the tuition adjustment that we get. DS is behind in his reading and writing, which doesn't bother me, but it does bother him. He keeps saying things like he's dumb, which of course we've NEVER said to him. I'm assuming he's picked up that kind of language from kids at school, or the TV he watches after school at my parents house. My parents watch him a few hours each week after school until my husband or I can pick him up. The TV is always on when I walk in, and it's usually on something I've told them 100x not to let him watch.
Sigh. End rant.
My daughter is 2.5 and will be going to the Waldorf school this coming fall. Part of me is SO excited for the time I'll then have to work on my job (which I mostly love). But part of my knows that she does really well when it's just she and I home all day.
Today DS and DD were home with me all day and I had serious anger issues like I haven't had in months. They were seriously driving me batty. I had to wonder if part of the reason was because I only see DS for about 20 waking hours a week. He and DD go to their other grandparent's house one day a week (Sunday) with my DH, who is starting a business on their farm. Saturdays are hit and miss, sometimes we are in town for a large part of the day and then DH and I have a date night.
DD and I are very close, which cause additional problems between DS and myself. She is completely comfortable with me, and we have our own little rituals and so forth. I can see why DS would feel left out, although I constantly reassure him that I love him and he's as important to me as DD is.
I can't help but think unschooling would either improve things drastically or make them a lot worse. For example, I would need DS to keep an eye on DD for a few hours a week while I work from home. My job is flexible, so it's possible I'd need to take both of them to run errands for my job, which neither of them are likely to enjoy.
I wish DH could quit his job and be the unschooling parent. He'd be so good at it, and he wants to quit anyway.
Anyway. Does anyone have any ideas/advice/comments? I'm too close to the situation to see the forest for the trees I think.