My almost 5 year old DD in general has become a very loving and nurturing big sister to our 20 month old DS. However, now that DS is interested in toys and things that are my "daughters" toys, she is having a lot of trouble sharing pretty much anything. For instance DD has animal figurines that she likes to play with. They were laying on the floor since she was playing with a different toy and DS picked up a lion to play with. She immediately went over to him and yelled "That's mine, NO!" and tried to grab it out of his hands. They both started crying, screaming, etc. I tried to intervene by telling her that he will probably only play with it for a minute and then give be tired of it and she can have it if she wants. She insisted that it was her toy and kept trying to grab it from him. I suggested that she try to give him a different toy to see if he would "switch" with her but he did not want to, so the screaming continued.
This basic scenario happens repeatedly every day. It seems that no matter what toy DS picks up, DD immediately needs it, even when it is an object that is supposedly "his" toy such as a train that we gave him for his birthday, etc. I have tried to explain to her many times that all of the toys in the house are for sharing and that she wants him to share with her, etc. I realize that it is normal for her to have trouble sharing at times, and she is still adjusting to having a sibling to share with. I feel torn because I don't want her to think we side with him all the time but at the same time, it is not right for her to constantly take toys away from him. Recently, I have given her a couple "time outs" for it after warning her not to take something out of his hands, but I just don't feel like I have a good way of dealing with the problem.
Does anyone have any suggestions? I would greatly appreciate the help!