Plus Size Mamas
Introductions - Page 3
If pregnant, EDD: 10/4/12
Size and/or weight 22/24, 4'11 270 lbs
Time TTC: 1 year, conceived in our 13th month of trying
Other children? 1 fur baby, a 50 lb retriever/shepherd mutt
Greetings everyone! I know lots of you from the Plus sized thread over in TTC but for those I don't know, I'm a fat acceptance and Health at Every Size advocate. I'm fat, fit and healthy. I started having body issues in 5th grade and began dieting in 8th grade. Like many of you, I wasn't nearly as fat as I believed myself to be as a young person. Toward the end of college, I began to come to terms with my body through what I now realize was self-directed art therapy. I stopped assigning morality to my food choices, stopped dieting and began living life with confidence and without all the self-hatred and body shame. Before a small hip injury, I worked out regularly doing yoga, cardio, swimming and water aerobics. I was ready to go back but now that I'm pregnant I want to talk to my midwife first. Now, I'm proud to take up space and I'm looking forward to learning even more about my body through this pregnancy.
If pregnant, EDD: 10/3/12
Size and/or weight 22/24, 5'4 288 lbs
Time TTC: This is my 3rd pregnancy, totally unexpected!
Other children? 2 sons, ages 2 and 6.
Hi! I'm a "fluffy" mom who is at the largest I've ever been for any of my other pregnancies. I was given the okay by my OB to follow the Weight Watchers nursing moms program to maintain my weight, but in truth, I'm actually down about 2 pounds, probably just from eating healthier. I am large but I don't have any co-morbidies...my blood pressure is great, my heart is great and my cholesterol is wonderful. I'm just fat. =( I am trying to be more active this time around, walk more, do a little Wii Fit, but I am worried about things like gestational diabetes or other developmental issues because I am a late-in-life Mom (I'll be 38 in April). I am glad to see that there are many more options for clothes for plus sized moms because my last two pregnancies I lived in sweats and extra large tees or super stretchy skirts. I'm glad to find you group of ladies. It will be nice to get support from women who know what I am talking about and where I'm coming from.
If pregnant, EDD: 10/9/12
Size and/or weight (if you want to share): 260/22m at 5'9
Time TTC: 12 months
Other children? Nope this is our first :D
Well hello there! I'm excited to be a part of a community of women who can understand how I feel and what I'm going through! I haven't had my first prenatal visit(it's scheduled for the 15th of Feb) so I don't know how my nurse is going to feel about my weight. I don't want it to be an issue and if it is with my nurse than I'll definitely be looking for someone else. We're only 5 weeks along and so far the only symptoms I've had are tender breasts and slight fatigue. I do have this weird feeling that its twins though...I was kinda wondering if any of you have had that feeling before and what the outcome was? My MIL is a twin and one of my dads sisters is a twin(the other died 30 years ago). Anyway, I'm happy to join you all and I'll be sure to keep you updated!
If pregnant, EDD: August 7th
Size and/or weight (if you want to share): 20/22
Time TTC: Unofficially a year (see explanation below). :)
Other children? None
Hi everyone! First time pregnancy, long time chubby chick. :)
I was really happy to find this group!
A little about me....from Toronto, Canada and married to an amazing man and my best friend. We've been together for the last 7 years, married for 3 of those years. We decided in late 2010 to stop using birth control and see what would happen (with obvious intentions, but without the pressure of planning and calculating). Our motto was "if it happens it happens". Having almost reached a year of "if it happens, it happens" and no positive results by Oct 2011, we decided in the new year we'd book a doctor's appointment to ensure all was in working order. Two weeks after that conversation I found out I was pregnant! :)
I've had a very calm, symptom free pregnancy to date *knock on wood*. I'm 18 weeks and have no complaints...except maybe for being totally winded after climbing stairs. What is up with that?? I feel like I ran a marathon after one flight.
From a body perspective, I've only recently started to pop out a little bit. And really just a little. If you didn't know I was pregnant, you'd just assume I've put on a few pounds or had too many pints of beer (oh, beer....how I miss thee). I've read on a few different posts the shape of a belly being referred to as a 'B', which I think is a perfect way to describe it, because that's exactly what I've got going on! I'd say part of me wishes I could have the typical preggo belly you see in the pictures and videos, but the other part of me realizes, that's just not me and dwelling on what I don't have isn't doing me any favours. :) So, I'm trying to stay positive and taking it all in - day by day.
Anyway, that's my long winded intro. Look forward to reading all your posts!
If pregnant, EDD: August 17th
Size and/or weight 16/18
Other children? Yes, toddler baby
Hello everyone! Hmm, I am here, because I am preggo, again. And I struggle with being overweight, technically morbidly obese if a doctor had a say. (But I say...REAAALLLYYY????)
Throughout my life, I have had so many folks chime in about my body.
At one point I was small(ish) and bulemic. Everyone was so proud. (Like 10 years ago) When I met DH in college, he wasn't down with the bulemia and so I decided to stop because for the first time I felt loved for who I was. Woops, hello 3 dress sizes. Then I got married, had a miscarriage, became depressed, gained 40 more pounds, got pregnant (gained 40 lbs during my pregnancy), and although I lost a lot of weight when I started nursing, the depression and anxiety came back ( from a traumatic birth experience) & this time I had a babe to care for. So I went on Zoloft. Honestly, best decision ever. The downside was that I gained some weight back.
Fast forward a year and a half, things are great, pregnant with my second. Trying to wean myself off of the zoloft.
Haven't gained much weight with this one (either that or my scale is broken)
I love my body for being so strong, and allowing me to be a mum, and overcome many challenges. I can be incredibly hard on myself when I receive a crappy comment or see a picture of when I was thin. But for the most part, I am doing my best to be a good role model for my daughter. Even if that means losing weight in the future, but for now, being happy with who I am, and the choices I make is good enough.
If pregnant, EDD: 1/8/2013
Size and/or weight 16/18, 5'4" and about 218 lbs
Time TTC: 18 months
Other children? One 4-year-old son
HI! I've also been heavy for as long as I can remember, but my mom says I was actually pretty slim as a toddler. As an adult, the closest I've been to "regular" size is about a size 14, but that only lasted for a few months. I'm pretty successful professionally and I've always been smart, so I have kind of pushed my weight to the back of my mind. I hate to exercise, and I love to eat. And it also probably doesn't help that my mom said she used to give me something to eat when I would cry, and since I didn't like peanut butter, she gave me plain jelly sandwiches for years in elementary school. I have a weird body image issue, though, in that I see myself in the mirror as looking much better than I actually do. I think that may be part of why I don't worry too much about my weight. Just this past weekend we were at a wedding and I thought I looked really good & kinda hourglass curvy and I saw photos and I just look fat.
I live in NJ with my husband and our 4-year-old son, who we accidentally conceived on our wedding night. I've been pregnant 3 times accidentally in my life, so I'm apparently pretty fertile, but when we decided it was time for a sibling for our son, I was quite surprised when we had trouble conceiving. We've been trying since October 2010. I was able to get into a research trial this past December that provided us with 4 free IUI cycles - none of which were successful. We decided to take a few months off from trying, due in part to me being just tired of it, and because we have 4 weddings this summer and I didn't want to be worried about having to be in town for blood level checks, etc (I was at the doctor's office on Christmas morning last year!!).
So in April, we really paid no attention to ovulation signs, timing, doing the deed, any of it . . . and lo & behold I am pregnant! I'm due in early January, all hormone levels look good right now & my first ultrasound is on Tuesday.
I'm so glad to have found this group - when I was pregnant before, I lurked on the babycenter.com plus size & pregnant board, but I just can't handle how large and impersonal that site can be. So I look forward to getting to know you guys over the next 35 weeks!
If pregnant, EDD: N/A
Size and/or weight 22/24
Time TTC: none for either....they both just happened :)
Other children? 3 yr 7 mo and 1 yr 5 mo old boys"
Hi there! I am so glad to find a group like this one! I have been big since I was about 10 years old....and have been constantly ridiculed because of it. Both of my births were vaginal with insulin-dependent GD in both and HELLP Syndrome with the first and HBP bordering on pre-eclampsia with the second. My eldest son was born 5 weeks preemie while my youngest was only 5 days early. They are both precocious tots. My eldest is going through the oppositional phase right now and a handful every day and my youngest just wants to do/have anything my eldest does. I love them both a lot but I hate it when doctors or even random people will come up to me and say stuff like "you need to lose weight so you will be there for your kids" or anything like that. I take them outside to play, we go on nature walks, we rough house a lot...who are these other people who don't know us to judge? Yes, I like my food a little too much but that's my problem, not yours.
Sorry, rant over. Again I am glad that there is a group like this with people like me can talk about things we are going through. :)
If pregnant, EDD: n/a
size/weight: 18ish; 150ish lbs (can you tell I'm short? )
Time TTC: 3 months (a miscarriage a month ago)
Other children? DC1 - 5 years; DC2 - 2 years
I've had four pregnancies: two ending with my kids and two miscarriages (one in 2004 that resulted in an emergency D&C and one a month ago that occurred naturally). I was thin before I had kids: after both of those full-term pregnancies I had about 20lbs I never managed to lose. I come from a health at every size perspective: I try to keep my diet pretty good and exercise regularly, but I don't try to lose weight. Both of my parents are obese, my father very much so, and since weight is so highly inheritable, I don't ever expect to be thin. For exercise, I like yoga, biking, hooping, and running. I also like to swim, but that happens pretty rarely with two small children. I had been vegan for years, but we've mostly transitioned to an omnivorous diet. I am loving our CSA that just started again! Once I get past the first trimester, I've had healthy pregnancies: one accidental unassisted birth in the back of a car and a homebirth. I had tearing that required stitches with my first baby (who was 9lbs) and hemorrhaging that the midwife controlled with pitocin with my 8lb13oz baby. I am still recovering from my pregnancy loss (miscarriage at 9 weeks). My midwife gave us the go ahead to not avoid a pregnancy though she'd like to see us wait until I've had a menstrual period before we actively try. We've always been very relaxed about TTC: I don't chart or anything, so for us this is TTC. I am hoping I conceive as easily as my other pregnancies and this time we will have a sticky baby!
If pregnant, not pregnant ( i think i am though)
Size and/or weight (if you want to share): 26
Time TTC: er not really lol
Other children? M/c april 2007
I've always been the last one to do anything, go to school, meet my soulmate, even get married. But I've been known for being strong, tall and mainly fat, at age 14 I found that i could use my weight and height to scare my bullies so I began to lift weights by the time I stopped I was lifting 250lbs. You can imagen how broad my shoulders have gotten. I had a Miscarriage years ago from another relationship I was in, I had the lovely issue of no pregnancy test coming up positive not even after 3 months of no period.Had all the checks and everything I'm healthy so no reason I shouldn't concive, only My fiance and I haven't its been 3 months of using nothing we never have used anything. Now I've been having nausea really bad for about 2 weeks actually vomited one day back pain while laying down and walking period feeling when said period is a week away cramps, crying spells, sore breast, color change in genitals, swelling inside, constant need to pee, i can fall asleep at like 8pm and not wake up until 2pm the next day then want a nap at 4, some foods i used to love make me sick. i have all this and 3 test say negitive i swear if i take one the day of my period and its not positive i'm seeing a dr.
If pregnant, EDD: not pregnant :( recent loss...
Size and/or weight 22/24
Time TTC: getting pregnant isn't a challenge... pausing from TTC
Other children? 2 daughters
Glad to see this group! I had two healthy plus-size pregnancies when I was in my 20s. We always wanted a 3rd child, but used fertility awareness for 6 years to prevent pregnancy, for various reasons. However, one month dh THOUGHT I was tracking (I use cycle beads) but in fact I was not, and yes, I got pregnant. We were shocked, then thrilled. However, I miscarried at 6 weeks pregnant (I think it just never really got going, a chemical pregnancy.) That helped us realize that we are open to another child, and I pretty much wanted to get pregnant right away. Two cycles later I got pregnant again- I was thrilled! I made it to 11 weeks, and had a sense that something was not right. After a small bit of spotting, I went to the ER and much to the dr's surprise, my baby had no heartbeat. :( I ended up choosing to have a D&C the next day, since I wasn't really starting the process and didn't want to experience a natural miscarriage at that point... (I know some do, but it was not the right choice for me.)
Anyway, it's been quite overwhelming to go 15 years with 2 pregnancies, 2 children, and feel "in control" of my fertility & experience despite being a plus-sized woman, and then in a 4 month period have two losses. :( I do not believe that either loss had anything to do with my size... the second was definitely due to a chromosomal abnormality (the ultrasound showed 2 cord cysts, which is a soft marker...)
So, given that I am still open to a third child but we are taking a break from trying for a bit (at least 3 months, I think, tbd) I'm trying to consider what my goals are to get ready for another pregnancy. I'm about 20-30 lbs heavier than when I was pregnant with both girls, so I would like to lose some weight. Pregnancy was actually really easy and enjoyable for me, but I do recognize I'm older (35) and that can change things too. But I know that if I'm pregnant again I will be plus-size, since I doubt that I will ever NOT be plus size.
I'm here to gather information, see what has worked for other people, and be encouraged by hearing about other's experiences! :)
If pregnant, EDD: April 30th, 2013
Size and/or weight: 230 when I got pregnant,size 20 (Lord blessed me with birthing hips. lol.)
Time TTC: 1 month of "trying" and 8 of "not trying, not not trying."
Other children? Nope, other then furbabies. :)
I've always struggled with weight, until about high school then I embraced it. I found my husband the summer I after I finished high school and we connected instantly. He's in the Army and deployed soon after. Over the deployment we knew we wanted to get married and start a family soon. He got back in Feb. 2012 and proposed. :) We started "not trying, but not not trying" right away. Had a few hopeful months, but period would always come. We got married July 6, 2012, and after many prayers, conceived our first a month to the day of our wedding. Lol. So here we are, starting this new chapter in our life. :D We are both very excitied to be parents. We both thought we would have a lot of trouble having them, since hubby had tried with his ex wife with no success, and I had a m/c when I was in high school. Guess this is God's way of telling us we were meant to have children with each other and no one else. Glad to see other plus size ladies embracing it!! And I can't wait to explore this group more. :)
If pregnant, EDD: 03/06/2013
Size and/or weight 18/20 225
Time TTC: We were actually TTA . . .
Other children? an almost 3 year old, a just turned 1 year old. (see siggy)
I have been plus size my whole adult life, and relatively health (no major concerns, but I could definitely be more fit). My highest weight was in 2008, I hit just under 250 lbs. I lost 25 lbs while TTC #1, which we had been TTC since 2007, and finally got pregnant in February 2009. I had an easy, complication free pregnancy, gained 25 lbs, was induced at 41+6, ended up with a c-section, lost all my baby weight plus 5 lbs, and gained those 5 lbs back right before becoming pregnant with #2 in January 2011. Another easy, complication free pregnancy, only gained 10 lbs, had a VBAC at 41+6 and lost all the baby weight and then some, my lowest was arond 212, which was the lowest I have been in probably my whole marriage (we have been married since 2005). I gained a bit back and started this pregnancy right under 220. I lost a little, but have started gaining. I'm 22 weeks along now and am at 225ish. Planning on another VBAC. - This pregnancy was very much a suprise, we were going to wait until baby #2 was about 2 years old . . . oh well.
My parents aren't really overweight and I think (I Know it distresses my mother) that both her daughters struggle with weight to the extent that we do. I don't really try to blame my weight on any one thing in particular, but growing up, I think if my mother had done more to support me at the size I was then (about 140 lbs in high school, a size 10/12) and I had known how to dress my figure better, that things might have turned out differently. But, hindsight is what it is. I like my body, my husband loves it, but both of us are struggling to become healthier, more fit people to be there for our children as they grow. I want to encorage in them healthy, moderate habits so they dont struggle as we have.
Glad to have found a group of lovely women to chat with!
If pregnant, EDD: April 6 ,2013
Size and/or weight (if you want to share): 18, 200lbs (pre pregnancy)
Time TTC: 0, COMPLETE suprise this baby was!
Other children? DD 6 years.
I am very happy that there is a group like this! Wonderful idea :-) I don't know what else to say here, so I guess I'll just post away :-)
EDD: July 20th, 2013 (having dating US today so it may change)
Size or weight: 24
Time TTC: well we were gonna start TTC in March lol. Someone was in a hurry!
Other children: DD 20 months
Hi everyone! I'm very excited to find this group!! I have a wonderful 20 month old DD and am expecting our second in July. I'm lucky to have an easy time conceiving and so far pregnancy has been uncomplicated. I look forward to getting to know you