I am so over this and just don't know where else to turn. I don't have mama friends in real life and I'm hoping you ladies can help, you seem like a perceptive bunch and child-need based rather than parent-need based, so I'm hoping you'll give me a reality check if I need it.
My partner and I have been pretty much nomadic for the last 6 years. Along the way our DD (4 at the end of the month) came along. Her whole life has been one place after the next, one culture after the next, one language after the next. I travelled a lot as a kid, not quite like this, but a lot, and I always found it exciting and was anxious to get back on the road again. I was miserable when I had to stay home because of school. But she's not me.
She's getting older. And the doubt is creeping in. Part of me wants to keep travelling and show her the whole world, have her grow up in it. Part of me wants to do what my mom did and travel some of the year, but always have a "home" to go back to in the city. And still another part of me wants to buy a few acres somewhere in the middle of nowhere, have a little garden and some animals, and never leave for extended periods again.
As of right now DD doesn't seem to be too affected by travelling. She misses the friends she makes in places we stay for months at a time, but she makes new ones just as quickly. She adjusts easily. We've been mostly "home" for the last month or so, aside one quick trip, and she's already asking when we're going away again. But now that she's getting older, I wonder if this life is what's best for her. No permanency, no cohesive culture, no place she can really call her own. She's still an only child for right now, not the way we envisioned it. Unless we adopted an older child, she won't ever have a sibling close in age. We thought by now she'd have 1 or 2 siblings, that they'd all be each other's playmates first and foremost, but the years snuck up on us. My partner and I are her primary playmates instead. I love that, don't get me wrong, but I'm wondering now if she really does need to settle somewhere, be it here in the city or somewhere else, and have consistent friends her own age and a place to come home to. Not just a barren apartment where mama and daddy's mail gets sent, not a brief stopover en-route to the next place.
Can we really provide the stability she needs while travelling? If you've done it with kids her age and older, how did it turn out? Any thoughts on how we can be mindful of her needs as she grows and changes, or what you'd do? I think I really need a few different views on this, because I'm so conflicted myself that it's obviously not a balanced perspective.
Thanks in advance.