We have a 4yr old that we adopted when he was 2. He's a great kid, but we've got the usual behavioral issues for a child of 4. Doesn't want to eat, trys to control us by telling us what to do. He doesn't want to watch THAT show... but no show is good enough, etc... So, whatever it is that sets it off he often ends up boiling over into a temper tantrum and is inconsolable. We'll put him in a timeout or send him to bed an hour early.
Our problem is getting him to accept the punishment. We'll put him in the time out, but he gets up... over and over and over and over, for hours if need be. The entire time it seems to just escelate. He'll definately do the opposite of whatever we want him to do. He'll stare right at us and put his feet on the floor. When we leave the room he runs to the door and leaves. If we lock the door he pounds on it or throws things inside of his room. In the event we send him to bed early, it will get so bad that I'm afraid he'll hurt himself so I'll put him in a bear hug until he settles down, but he'll try his best to bite and pinch me. I'm always able to keep my cool, talk in a gentle voice and explain that if he just calms down and stays in bed, or in his timeout, everything will be ok. But it just doesn't seem to work. He'll strip himself naked and throw his clothes, he'll tare everything off the bed. Is there anything else we could do?