Phew, so much to reply to! I'm having a hard time finding free hands lately!
Man cold/labour Amy May, wow. Ha!! Men. They have no sense of self-preservation sometimes! Saying that to your wife who has recently birthed, even in jest, takes some balls
livacreature: love your updates, so happy! love that you're redoing your downstairs and doing it just right! I'm doing our bedroom this year. I've decided it's waited long enough, it's the last room and I haven't done a thing to it - it's rag tag and I'm sick of it! So excited to do it exactly how I want it!
Rosemary: I'm so sad for you, missing out on the meet-up! But if you got to meet Nicole that would also be wonderful! Yay!
Babies meeting IRL: HOW FREAKING ADORABLE!! You ladies and your babies are so cute.
RSV: not_telling:, I hope it isn't RSV your littles are dealing with. It is dragging on and on at our house. None of feel 100% yet. Claire's cough is gone thankfully, but she still having days when every breath is this sad little snorty wheeze
Nosefrida: Yeah, I usually skip the filter - I figure that whatever they have I'm going to get no matter what.
Nicole: tell us more about this whole Furrs/shamrocks deal! Also, I can't believe Saphira's getting teeth!!!!!
alcohol: y'know what's weird? I expected to be a cheap drunk post pregnancy but I feel like I have a greater tolerance! wtf?! I can have a few drinks and feel almost nothing...so weird.
solids: livacreature, seeing your pics of the avacado makes me sooooo excited!!!! Can't wait!
Valentines decorating: haha, so glad my pipecleaners have inspired We're definitely making a big deal about Valentines here for DD1. although the process of hanging a heart banner today with DD1 trying to help (read: pulling chairs over onto my toes to try and reach high enough to help hang the fragile paper banner that was too high for her to reach even with the chairs, while I asked her over and over to please just let mommy hang the (gd f'ing (internal dialogue)) banner and I would let her help with the rest of the decorating) kind've killed my festive spirit.
Birds of Prey: I think this is why our DDC is still so active. It's never boring
Social Groups: does anyone know when they're kicking us out?
yellowdart, LaBruja, Mainebirdgirl: So glad you're all chiming in. So nice to hear your updates!!!!! Please don't ever feel awkward jumping in after an absence!
mama hair: ugh. I totally need a haircut. It's gotten long enough that my layers are weird and so it's been in a (very short, unflattering) ponytail
lifeguard: I'd totally be worried about that much soap going into the washer - esp if you have a front loader, can't too many bubbles wreck washers? I dunno, I'd be rinsing it in the tub first. You're such a cool mama, love that he knew he could call for help, haha
3 months rock bottom Yep. My theory is that it all starts to really catch up to you around now. The fatigue, the isolation, the demands of older kids and husbands (and work), hormones are doing crazy things, your body still isn't normal. I think this is very, very normal. LaBruja, it sounds like you have every right to be overwhelmed right now - there's a lot going on in your world! Be gentle with yourself Funny how I can give that advice and so sincerely mean it....but can't apply it to myself..
"Less AP than I expected" Mainebirdgirl, props to you, twin mama!!!! Seriously...I am in awe of parents with multiples! It makes me sad that you feel like you wouldn't be welcome because you aren't AP "enough"....I think we all have a range of parenting styles here...and, what I have come to realize, as a parenting expert with almost 3 years experience under my belt haha, is that AP isn't about checking off the boxes of "what you do", it's about listening to your child and parenting with respect. I had a bit of an identity crisis after DD1 was born - I wasn't quite the parent I thought I would be - I couldn't breastfeed, did that mean I couldn't call myself AP? My child didn't WANT to be in arms or a carrier all the time - she wanted to sit and look at the world. She LOVED her jumperoo a friend lent us. LOVED the damned thing. All she wanted to do in the world was jump! Claire looooves her swing, something I never thought I would own but am so grateful for with a toddler to take care of as well. She also wants to be sitting and jumping just like her sister.
And I think that the logistics of two infants necessitates some gear! Girl, own it! And sometimes, babies just have to cry. Sometimes, there is nothing you can do for them. sometimes they just need to let it out. It isn't "un-AP" to set them down after you have tried everything. We were talking about that here recently - that sometimes it seems like they just need that cry and all you can do is be there for them. Hugs to you!
Friends sans baby:
Originally Posted by starling&diesel
Liv ... I think you're friend is being unreasonable, no matter how painful her situation is. I think I'd say something like, "I'm so sorry that you're having a hard time, but the baby and I are a package deal, so when you're ready to hang out, let me know.". I think the onus is on her to do her own work to come to terms with her disappointments about motherhood and parenting.
Totally in agreement.
Originally Posted by theboysmama
My baby is such a swing head. Part of me feels guilty but a bigger part of me LOVES it!!! She just doesn't like being worn very often and would much prefer the swing. She doesn't really like sleeping with me either so the swing it is.
And this. Love the swing. I can't help it. She naps so well in there and it means I can get other things done!
AFM: Sigh. Snow, rain, basement flooded with sewer water , a husband who is so smart but SO STUPID (and resulting marital strife), first, neverending, awful PP period......it's already been a long week.
But, the flooding means finally getting the sketchy drain fixed, and perhaps even getting a new floor to replace the very old concrete!! Yay! Which means I can finally have a decent laundry area! And my contractor is coming by next week to fix a whole list of things in this old house that are everyday nuisances - painting I couldn't do, light fixtures replaced, plaster repaired. Very exciting.
All I want in the world right now is the biggest bag of doritos I can find. am I a 12 year old boy? wtf period cravings?!
Claire is 3 months old this week. I can hardly believe it. She is all about standing and jumping. I hope she walks early like her sister did (9mo). She's found her voice, lots of talking...and lots of raspberries and bubble blowing. Adorable. I just love her so much. She is the sweetest, roly poly, jolly, happy little thing. It's amazing, thinking back to worrying that you couldn't love another child like you did your first...and you so completely can.
ETA: I totally had a dream about you all last night. It was another dream that we had a convention and all got together and theboysmama was leading a talk on ....milk....not sure exactly what to do with milk, just milk, and she had Saphira in tow. And you were all there and it was so fun.