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Pants- We do pants in this house most of the time. It's too cold not to.

 

TV- I have decided to really leave the TV off if Landon is laying on the floor, otherwise he just stares at it for a very long time. It makes him super content, but I know it's not good for him.

 

DDC- Do we know when they will shut us down? I was just thinking......we could set up a Facebook group if we wanted to. Just a thought. I am in some other groups on Facebook and it's nice. It might be easier than trying to do the social group.

 

Pi- Your weaning DS1 story is so sweet.

 

AFM- today is a running errands day for us. Grocery store, Trader Joe's, find jeans for Dp, and laundry. Tomorrow is a cooking day. I need to get all my meals for the week prepped and/or cooked. This way I won't be tempted to grab something unhealthy at the last minute.

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stomach virus, ugh. I'm not getting it so bad but my 2yo was sick for 3 days, poor thing. Obviously, "not so bad" is still nothing I'd actually want to have.

 

I'd love to wean my 2y9m dd but she so isn't ready.

 

AP: I didn;t even know what it was until my son was about 18mo, but the basic things are all stuff that "Came naturally" to me. I so don't want a yardstick by which to find out I don't measure up though... so I don't worry about it too much. I have found that my son has been more challenging as he gets older- a combo of his personality (very intense and reactive) and just that for me, caring for babies and toddlers, well, it just seems obvious what they need. I dread having teenagers though!

 

TV- we don't have tv in our house. We watch some stuff on the computer but nothing for the little ones. Last night we watched some Fred Astaire and Gene Kelly dance numbers on youtube together... that is pretty much the most we do like that, and its infrequent. It works for us. It make us very different from most families and I find people tend to either get huffy like I am judging them for having tv (I am not) or they feel terribly sorry for my poor deprived kids (pshaw).

 

chelsea- lets get together! That would be fun. Probably not for a few more weeks... but we can be in touch.

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 It make us very different from most families and I find people tend to either get huffy like I am judging them for having tv (I am not) or they feel terribly sorry for my poor deprived kids (pshaw).

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Facebook group:  I'd be down with that, or even just friending each other.  I think the social group will be nice though because of anyone who isn't into the personal reveal of FB and/or just wants to drop in after a long absence

 

AFM:  I have always thought of myself as a very "go and do with kid in tow" kind of mama....DD1 has always been a very easy baby/kid and I took her everywhere to do everything.  Popped her in the sling and went.  I'm having a lot of trouble getting out and doing things with both kids though...I find it really intimidating.  Claire is an easy baby too, and DD1 is still easy....but when you put the two together it just feels so overwhelming sometimes.

 

I took them out today to do one little errand and had to take Claire out of her carseat three times to change her diaper before I actually pulled out of the driveway!  DD1 didn't WANT to go shopping and didn't WANT to sit in her carseat.  Then we get to the store and Claire didn't WANT to go into her sling, she kept straightening her legs and it was all awkward.  And then I only got half of my list done again because I could tell Claire had just peed again and it was only a matter of time before she lost her shiz.  Not to mention DD1 is still newly potty trained and stores make me nervous.  

 

So, all that frustration and effort for half of my list at ONE of my errands.  DH has been at work since 5am today and probably won't be home for another couple of hours and....I just do not have the patience left over by the weekend to take them with me on errands!  I think that's what it boils down to.  I'm alone with them or on duty 24/7  and it uses up every last bit I have.

 

I was so mad at DH last night - DD1 woke up at 4am and started losing it in that overtired, half asleep, irrational toddler way.  And she woke up the baby.  And he like...couldn't cope with it.  He was all annoyed and bordering on angry.  And I'm like...dude....you're not HERE enough to lose your patience with them.  I get that it's 4am, but suck it up - YOU don't have to do anything but roll over while I deal with it.  

 

So complainy, I'm sorry. I just needed to vent.

 

 I don't know how to fix it. How can I complain about him never being here when it means I get to stay home with them?  I cannot keep going without even a couple of hours on the weekend to leave the house and do something on my own.  Even if it is only groceries and errands.  And he just doesn't seem to get it.  

 

 


 

 

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Facebook: A group or adding would be great, anyone who wants to friend me, just pm and I'll give you my link.  I'm not searchable because of work.

 

Errands: Right now, DD is easy to run errands with, but having another little person in tow would be totally different.  Especially you know, with that little person moving and such.  I'm a bit nervous about erranding with a mobile little child.  I'm also nervous about bringing her into work for meetings and such when she starts running about.  I went out to the store for the first time without DD yesterday, half way through the craft store I nearly have a heart attack because I couldn't find her.  Took me a minute to get my pulse to slow down and remember she was with daddy, I hadn't laid her down somewhere!  Katico, I have super respect for you balancing both kiddos without your husband around much.


AP: The way I view the whole "parent philosophy" thing is it gives me something to fall back on when I just am not sure what to do.  The rest of the time, I just go with what works for her.  What flows for us is babywearing, I hate hauling the stroller up and down my front stairs to the sidewalk.  She sleeps next to the bed because I need to burrow in blankets to fall asleep at night, but if she wakes up in the middle, I bring her in because I can fall sleep without all that stuff at four am.  I can't imagine her sleeping in her room.  I've only let her sleep alone for a few hours since she was born on New Years Eve and was constantly upstairs checking on her.  Cloth diapering, I don't see that as philosophy, that is economics and I am not a purest.  I was bummed by not being able to exclusively breastfeed, but I'm going to do mixed feeding as long as I can and give her as much as my body will make.  I give myself an A for effort there.  Sometimes she is in the swing.  Mama needs to fold laundry sometimes and it usually makes her happy.  I've never left her to her own devices to cry except when our car was stuck in frigid weather or when I had to attend to my own medical needs and I wouldn't be safe to have her right there.  However, I have a baby who is easy to soothe.  If she wasn't, I don't think I'd be a bad mom if I tried to comfort her, but needed to walk away for a minute or two to keep my cool.  AP philosophy is a huge tool in the box, but I don't cross check what I do to make sure it fits.  I do cringe when I hear of scheduling babies, harsh sleep training, and any form of violence or disrespect inflicted on children.

 

Homestays: I wouldn't be okay with a 10 or 11 year old staying with a family I didn't know alone.  If their were other children, I'd be more okay with it.  Later middle school or high school, sure.  I just don't trust that all people have the best interests of children at heart. 

 

Pi: That is so sweet with your DS1.  You guys have had a long run.  It's very admirable. 

 

Housecleaning: How do mamas find time for this?  It may be harder because I'm working, but I have hours at home during the day.  DD does not nap, I need to get things done and she just isn't happy not being held.  A lot of it is stuff I can't do while wearing her.  Help!!!!  Things are starting to get out of hand and I have MIL coming in a few months.  She takes pictures of piles of clutter in my house and shares them with relatives AND sends me copies.  (Seriously, the people who came three days after birth sent me an album with several pictures of piles of paper/pizza boxes/dirty clothes piles...WTF IS WRONG WITH THESE PEOPLE!?!?!?!)  Usually I'm not embarrassed of my house's condition, but right now I am.  It just seems like the easiest thing to let slide.  I have to work, I have to make dinner, I have to take care of the baby.  Frankly, I'd rather play with the baby then clean.

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not_telling ... Congrats on the school acceptance!  So, if you get another acceptance, how will you choose? 


I have no freakin' clue.  DS had his visit at the second school this morning and it's just such a great place.  And many of the things that make it great are what make the other school great, too.  We may have to toss a coin.

 

livacreature - what do you mean photos of your clutter and putting said photos in albums...do you mean photos of people where clutter happens to be around or actual photos of just clutter?  if the latter...WTF?  that's cuh-razy wako rude strangeness?

 

facebook - i'm up for a FB group, but i reckon that may not be the best venue for the long..uhh...monologues?  rants? 

 

housecleaning - i do random things at random times.  our house is far from spankin' clean.  the only things we're good about keeping up with are laundry, dishes and vacuumin the first floor.
 

 

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Not_telling: Nope, not people with clutter in the background.  Close ups of stacks of paper, shots of my counter with cereal boxes and not-put-away-groceries.  This is the woman who would not let me shower in her house after begging us to stay overnight because she had not put away her clothes in her room and their only working bathroom would require me to walk through it.  But no, taking pictures of my post-partum clutter and mailing them to me AND extended family is completely the nice, normal thing to do.  In fact, I got a seperate album with these pictures.  I told DH since I had to have the awkward conversation with my mom about her "secret" smoking habit and changing her clothes, he can tell his mother I will break her camera if I catch her doing this.

 

 

Edit to add: I'm a pretty mellow person.  I let a lot roll off.  I try to avoid conflict.  But this woman sends me into a rage like no one else can.  I hate that she has that power, but man, does she know the buttons to push.

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livacreature - wow, just wow. That is just so over the top inappropriately rude. I'd be beyond angry. What you need to do is print out several copies of this poem & post them all around the house to make it clear what your priorities are. Geeeez!

 

fb - anyone who wants to connect pm me. I do think we should keep the social group going though.

 

katico - I'm reallllly hoping the errands will get easier as the spring rolls in. It definitely takes a long time & a lot of energy to do things we both in tow but I try hard to think of it less as something to get done & as quickly as possible & more as an outing for all of us. I often try to combine fun things with the errands, it makes it all take that much longer but kind of feels more worthwhile for the littles. So we'll go grocery shopping & then to the library. Oh & I know exactly where all the public washrooms are in town! fwiw - few people will say no if you are frantically looking for a toilet for a lo ime - we've peed everywhere!!! It's frustrating that men just seem to not get it. I'm not sure how to enlighten them. Dh will spend a day with just ds or run some errands with him & then complain to me after like it's news how hard it can be.

 

pi - so sweet. Ds weaned so gradually that I can't remember the true last time - it certainly was not a special memory, more of a non-memory.

 

It is crazy windy here tonight!

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liv ... What an obnoxious MIL!  That would send me over the edge with rage.  And I'm a pretty mellow person too!

 

FB ... Not me.  I don't have an account.  I'd be game for a social group, or what my Feb 09 did is start a thread in the baby section and kept it going until the babies were one, then we started a thread in Toddlers, and now that the kids are three, we'll be moving on over to Childhood Years or whatever it's called. 

 

Getting out with two ... If we had a decent sized home, I might stay home more, but our living room / kitchen / dining room is only about 400 sq feet, so we go out everyday for the better part of the day.  I'd go crazy if we didn't! Sample day yesterday, 0930: off to homeschool playgroup, 1200: Science World, 1400: Micheal's for cake supplies, 1500: to DP's restaurant for late lunch, 1630: home!

 

AFM:  My daughter's third birthday party is tomorrow!  We throw a big party / fundraiser for the Basics for Babies program through the food bank here, so it's going to be big!  Lots of prep today for that, including making a Gruffalo cake!  I'll post pictures when I can.  It turned out great!

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Emmaegbert, hope you feel better soon!! I know a stomach bug is going around here. And, yes!! Let's get together when the weather warms up.

Beth, I can relate to it being intimidating with two little ones it tow. I have to take Eliza(she's 2) with me whenever I do anything during the day during the week. I do all their food shopping and have to do it with Landon and her. It makes me nervous, but so far it's gone okay. I really hope your dh comes around and understands that you need time alone to get some errands done. Complain away, don't worry about it! We don't mind one bit.

Livacreature, I cannot believe your mil did that!!! How terrible.

FB, anyone can add me if they want. Pm me if you want my info.

Landon went to bed without his last bottle of the day, he was so tired he didn't want it. Something tells me it's going to be a long night for me......
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pants I started putting her into pants lately when I learned on this thread that those footie sleepers are supposed to just be pajamas. (I don't have a lot of dresses for her because tights don't seem comfortable to me.) I wanted to see what I thought about dressing her up. It's so cold here that she either has to wear pants or two or more layers of sleepers. 

 

housecleaning I'm slowly getting through the backlog of housework that needs to be done. Every once in awhile I have to remind myself to just enjoy where she is, right now, and put the laundry down.

 

homestays It seems quite young to me to be going away to another country, but you should probably go with your gut about this.

 

AP I feel like I kind of fell into AP. Last year I moved to a town that's very into natural parenting, and when I went to the used book sale last year, I happened to pick up one written by some "Sears" guy. It made a lot of sense to me. Beyond that, I think DD herself kind of led me into it. My mom, my sister, my sister in law, and my mother in law all said she was the fussiest, most particular baby they'd ever met. I think I've had to adopt some of the tenets of AP (willingly or no) just to deal with her. She demanded to be held all the time and wouldn't go to sleep at night unless she was held. She hated the swaddle. She even cried if, when you were holding her, you started talking to somebody else. 

 

Sometimes I have my doubts about what we're doing. I hope it all turns out for the best. So I can't really judge anybody for the choices they do. At the local new mom's group, one woman shared how she was, in effect, letting her son CIO at night so that he'd learn to sleep in his crib. It sounded awful both for her and for him. But I can't judge her for not being AP enough because I'm not working full time right now and in need of sleep in the same way as she is. I think AP just offers another set of tools and alternatives, and you have to figure out what works best for your family.

 

tv I don't own a tv, but I do spend lots of time on the internet. That's a habit I hope to break before she becomes older and more aware of technology. The saddest sight I ever saw was sitting in a pho restaurant in Seattle watching two parents just glued to their iphones as their daughter, who looked to be about 5 or 6, stared sadly into space. I can see DP and I being like that with our laptops, and I need to change that.

 

errands Props to the moms who venture out with more than one kid. My biggest aggravation with errand-running is taking the bus and dealing with baby in the front, backpack in the back.

 

afm After that one time, DD has gone back to refusing the bottle. So DP takes her in during my lunch to nurse, but that means I only have a few minutes to gulp my lunch, or like today, not eat at all. So I was not in a good mood then when I came home today and he helpfully suggested that I apply for a full time job . I don't even know how he's thinking we'd manage that, with him studying for 2 grad degrees and working 2 pt jobs.

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I was interrupted in the middle of my posting. So let me add a few things I missed:

 

livacreature That's outrageous of your MIL. Incredibly rude.

 

pi The last night of weaning sounds so bittersweet. 5 years is a beautifully long run.

 

chelsea hope your night goes alright. I know how precarious sleep time can be, and if one thing goes off track  . . . 

 

starling happy birthday to your daughter!!! 

 

 

 

 

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Facebook - I'd love to be friends with anyone who wants to add me. http://www.facebook.com/KatrinaAshley90 That's my URL thingy. I'm ok with the info that's visible so I don't mind linking it publicly. I'd love to have a Facebook group. I'm on there constantly. Add me add me!!

 

Facebook Group - FYI, if it makes anyone more comfortable, we can set the group to completely private, so that only the people in it can see the information--other people can't even see that it exists if they're not invited to it. My extended family has a group like that on Facebook where we can easily share private news.

 

liv - good golly you have to deal with some ignorant, obnoxious people. I might personally murder anyone who thought it was OK to send me PP pictures of clutter. My house is a disaster and it's embarrassing but that's the way and stay the heck away from it if you don't like it.

 

AFM - went to a baby shower today for a good friend. I gave her a sweater, a bib, and a hat that I knit for her boy. Someone else gave her a (used) copy of Baby Wise by Ezzo... I'm guessing most of you are familiar with him but if not, he's a nutcase who pushes parents to hyper-structure their babies--CIO, harsh parenting methods from a very young age. Leads to underweight, emotionally starved babies, no parent-child bonding, and mothers with lost milk supply and unnecessary stress. So I pulled her aside after the shower and told her that "I don't mean to be harsh, except I do, throw that Ezzo book away." Thank goodness she'd already heard bad things about it and I didn't have to explain why it was such an unhealthy system. The woman who gave her the book had left before gifts were opened or I might have had some words for her too. I'm not a conflict person but it steams me up when someone hands a naive first time mom propaganda like this that's going to threaten her relationship with her child from the get-go. grrrrrr...

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More later, for now - this should take you to me on FB if you like!

https://www.facebook.com/people/Beth-Pothier/830330104

 

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cluttered/messy house: when I am working again out of the home (hint, hint, livacreature) I would NOT HESITATE to hire help with my house. Before we moved from california, I did hire a professional organizer and that lady was super helpful! We also had a weekly cleaner coming. it made a HUGE difference and since I was working full time, it meant that more of my home time was spent with my children, not cleaning... AND, my house was much cleaner!

 

for those with older kids who love dolls- check this tutorial out- repurposed infant clothes for dolls! I know my little one is quickly outgrowing the 0-3m clothes (though I've already given tons away, I wish I'd saved a couple of stretch suits just to do this project!). A friend from my old DDC linked this... http://obsessivelystitching.blogspot.com/2009/06/baby-clothes-to-doll-clothes-tutorial.html

 

speaking of my old DDC, we have a "secret" group on FB and its fun. But won't work if people don't do FB. Its really the main reason I go on FB, actually.

 

errands with kids- takes a lot longer, and I plan it for quiet times of day (like no grocery shopping at 5PM). I rarely have fewer than 2 with me. My biggest advice is just take your time. Rushing with kids is torture.

 

We are slowly recovering from a stomach bug. Gross. Baby seems to be ok through it all, thank goodness.

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TV: We avoid tv until about age 2 here. That's one of our things. (not_telling, it's brain development.)

 

YES, we did this too. And I find that stories read online hold his attention just as well. So we do more "books on tape" (my age! I really mean the internet, but don't know how to say it) than video.

 

AP:  He was raised on a commune, and (as I jokingly told Amy May earlier this week) where other women have MILs who are encouraging them to feed cereal in a bottle at 2 weeks, mine was telling me to rub walnut leaves on my baby so that he would never get leukemia.

 

HAHAHAHAH! What? Oh, sides are hurting.

 

Speaking of AP, I weaned my older DS tonight. We had set tonight as our last time nursing ever -- he chose the night, I pushed him to choose. I got a little weepy (my voice broke as I was singing to him), but then was fine, and now we're done. I pumped a bottle for DS2 so that I could stay with DS1 until he fell asleep. I wish he had stopped of his own accord last year when I thought he was going to, but since he didn't, I think this was a decent ending. It was time. Wow, that was a long run.

 

so bittersweet, pi, isn't it? Thanks for sharing.


 

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AFM:  I have always thought of myself as a very "go and do with kid in tow" kind of mama....DD1 has always been a very easy baby/kid and I took her everywhere to do everything.  Popped her in the sling and went.  I'm having a lot of trouble getting out and doing things with both kids though...I find it really intimidating.  Claire is an easy baby too, and DD1 is still easy....but when you put the two together it just feels so overwhelming sometimes.

 

It is way harder for me, also. Not a diaper change issue, but a feeding issue here. DD is kind of particular about how and where she'll eat, and needs generally to be majorly soothed before she will nurse. So it's hard in public. Lots of people coming up and asking if she's ok, if she's hungry, if she's tired, did I bring a bottle, blah blah.

 

I was so mad at DH last night - DD1 woke up at 4am and started losing it in that overtired, half asleep, irrational toddler way.  And she woke up the baby.  And he like...couldn't cope with it.  He was all annoyed and bordering on angry.  And I'm like...dude....you're not HERE enough to lose your patience with them.  I get that it's 4am, but suck it up - YOU don't have to do anything but roll over while I deal with it.  

 

Yes, this is totally understandable. Vent away.


 

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Housecleaning: How do mamas find time for this?  It may be harder because I'm working, but I have hours at home during the day.  DD does not nap, I need to get things done and she just isn't happy not being held.  A lot of it is stuff I can't do while wearing her.  Help!!!!  Things are starting to get out of hand and I have MIL coming in a few months.  She takes pictures of piles of clutter in my house and shares them with relatives AND sends me copies.  (Seriously, the people who came three days after birth sent me an album with several pictures of piles of paper/pizza boxes/dirty clothes piles...WTF IS WRONG WITH THESE PEOPLE!?!?!?!)  Usually I'm not embarrassed of my house's condition, but right now I am.  It just seems like the easiest thing to let slide.  I have to work, I have to make dinner, I have to take care of the baby.  Frankly, I'd rather play with the baby then clean.

Um, what? What?

As for getting housework done, my dh does the "cleaning" (dusting, vacuuming, mopping) every other week on Saturday. I do the kitchen and the bathrooms. Then try to maintain during the week, which is hard, but mainly we just try to pick up and keep on top of the dishes and laundry, and that is it. If you are having trouble with dirty things, have a trash can in every room (and recycling) and just toss stuff in. At least it won't be a dirty mess. And if there are dishes in every room, have a dish pan in the rooms you eat in and just put dirty dishes in it. These are my ideas. Then you can run the dish pan to the sink when you get a chance, but at least there will be a spot for them.
 

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AFM:  My daughter's third birthday party is tomorrow!  We throw a big party / fundraiser for the Basics for Babies program through the food bank here, so it's going to be big!  Lots of prep today for that, including making a Gruffalo cake!  I'll post pictures when I can.  It turned out great!

Happy Birthday!
 

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AFM - went to a baby shower today for a good friend. I gave her a sweater, a bib, and a hat that I knit for her boy. Someone else gave her a (used) copy of Baby Wise by Ezzo... I'm guessing most of you are familiar with him but if not, he's a nutcase who pushes parents to hyper-structure their babies--CIO, harsh parenting methods from a very young age. Leads to underweight, emotionally starved babies, no parent-child bonding, and mothers with lost milk supply and unnecessary stress. So I pulled her aside after the shower and told her that "I don't mean to be harsh, except I do, throw that Ezzo book away." Thank goodness she'd already heard bad things about it and I didn't have to explain why it was such an unhealthy system. The woman who gave her the book had left before gifts were opened or I might have had some words for her too. I'm not a conflict person but it steams me up when someone hands a naive first time mom propaganda like this that's going to threaten her relationship with her child from the get-go. grrrrrr...


Oh, that book. Yup, toss!

 

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Um, what? What?

As for getting housework done, my dh does the "cleaning" (dusting, vacuuming, mopping) every other week on Saturday. I do the kitchen and the bathrooms. Then try to maintain during the week, which is hard, but mainly we just try to pick up and keep on top of the dishes and laundry, and that is it. If you are having trouble with dirty things, have a trash can in every room (and recycling) and just toss stuff in. At least it won't be a dirty mess. And if there are dishes in every room, have a dish pan in the rooms you eat in and just put dirty dishes in it. These are my ideas. Then you can run the dish pan to the sink when you get a chance, but at least there will be a spot for them.
 

 


I LOVE THE DISH PAN IDEA!  We are migrate eaters, we eat in the basement, we eat in the bedroom, we eat in the living room.  This would also work with bottles.  BRILLIANT!  You seriously made my morning.  Tomorrow I'm going to try to do a deep clean of the house and my butt will be at the store first thing to buy more dish pans (and some new laundry baskets...one basket just isn't cutting it).  Dishes are a big issue for us, we don't have a dish washer and they tend to build up,

 

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, ESME!

 

Trinket: It makes me sad that despite all these mainstream recommendations on not to schedule babies, etc. there is still such a market for it.  I've yet to hear a nurse, doctor, lactation consultant anywhere tell me anything but feed on demand.  I don't know what her body is doing, it isn't my job to tell her she is hungry or not. 

 


 

 

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Keeping clean:  love the dishpan idea too!  Nothing drives me crazier that the assorted glasses etc upstairs - they sit there because everytime I'm going to the stairs I either have two kids or laundry in tow and no free hands!    I definitely think having enough/appropriate containers helps a LOT.  I just bought even more laundry baskets - I have 2 in our bedroom, 1 in DD1's room, 1 for towels, 1 for kitchen and 1 for kids clothing downstairs.  I am trying to do loads by type (i.e. all of my clothes together, all of DH's pants together, all of the girls' clothes, etc) and am finding it so much easier when each type has it's own basket in the place we need it.  

 

Also, yes to extra garbage cans.  and lots of pretty baskets.  I finally got an extra basket for all my burp cloths after struggling to force them to fit in the basket with my diapers.  Makes a huge difference.  

 

I feel like I am constantly cleaning and nothing is ever clean, so I can commiserate, Liva.  I'm going to try a kind of revolving chore schedule for myself again - not for the daily stuff - laundry, dishes, everyday clean up, but for the things I never get done and only notice when it's a desperate situation - i.e. sweeping the bedrooms and stairs, dusting the banisters and radiators, washing the windows.  None of them take very long to do but they get neglected.  The house is always tidy and the dishes, laundry, kitchen etc are under control but it's not very CLEAN around the corners, yknow?  It's an old house and we have a cat so the dust can be really bad.  So I'm going to try setting reminders to do them every week or two weeks or month or whatever, in my iphone.

 

I've taken some inspiration from this blog: http://ourmothersdaughters.blogspot.com/  Warning - Catholic family, whose ideas on child discipline I don't agree with, BUT - she has lots of articles (way down on the right hand side) on how she kept house with a very large family, and it's inspiring.  It is all very common sense and down to earth and makes me feel like if she could do it I can too, haha

 

Social Group is gonna be necessary for yes, our monologues, haha

 

MIL/Pictures:OUTRAGEOUS!  I think this wins for craziest MIL story so far!!!

 

Gruffalo cake = awesome!  Happy Birthday little girl!!

 

Emma: love the doll clothes idea!!!

 

 

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Ok - the dishpan idea is exactly what we need for dh's office!!! Thank you!

 

I am so wanting some alone time today. Feeling kind of bitter about it in fact. Dd really is unsatisfied with dh so when I leave them together when I return they are both unhappy - doesn't really make me feel so relaxed if I try to disappear for 15 minutes.

 

Ds' imaginary world has totally exploded recently. He gets into these elaborate imaginary times. It's fascinating to listen to but also leaves us a little confused at times if we haven't been paying close enough attention. Right now he is searching for "john" in the central vac holes in the wall. Too darn cute.

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Originally Posted by Katico View PostWarning - Catholic family, whose ideas on child discipline I don't agree with, BUT - she has lots of articles (way down on the right hand side) on how she kept house with a very large family, and it's inspiring.  It is all very common sense and down to earth and makes me feel like if she could do it I can too, haha

 

fwiw, I have a Catholic family, too. Should I come with a warning label? lol.gif

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Originally Posted by RosemaryS-F View Post

fwiw, I have a Catholic family, too. Should I come with a warning label? lol.gif

 

Oh gosh, Rosemary, that's not what I meant at all!!!  She posts a lot about their religious practices and that was me trying to be sensitive to the fact that might not be everyone's cup of tea as I was sending you all off to her blog...I could definitely have said it better.  I'm so sorry if I offended guilty.gif

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