Chat Thread: Jan 9 - Someone Starts a New One - Page 12

[AKislandgirl]

katico: I could have written your post about your DH in the middle of the night. Last night Maeve woke up crying (so very rare) and it woke DD1 up. DH lost his sh!t over it and I just yelled at him to "get over yourself, you have 2 kids." I can't deal with him having a tantrum on top of it. I really feel like his attitude when the kids are upset is "poor me, I have to listen to my kids cry or tantrum". My attitude is, "poor kids, why are you upset and how can I help you feel better?" Not sure if its just him or what but it really pisses me off!

Liv: Your MIL is crazy! Maybe she is friends with Steph's MIL!

Group: I am with Starling on the thread in babies and then toddlers. In fact we were in the Feb '09 DDC together so we have done that together and it works well. Or the social club. I'd rather keep it on MDC then on FB.

Getting out of the house: I'm ready for less layers and less effort! Hard to get 2 kids ready to go out and about when it is so cold (single digits to negative temps). Spring can't come fast enough!

[RosemaryS-F]

Originally Posted by Katico 

Quote:

Oh gosh, Rosemary, that's not what I meant at all!!!  She posts a lot about their religious practices and that was me trying to be sensitive to the fact that might not be everyone's cup of tea as I was sending you all off to her blog...I could definitely have said it better.  I'm so sorry if I offended 

I know.

[Katico]

I'm mortified  So sorry!

[starling&diesel]

Here's the Gruffalo cake! 

[beautifulmoon]

^ so great! I love it!

[lifeguard]

The cake is fabulous & so is your dd's expression!

[theboysmama]

great cake! Love it!!!

I would prefer a private group. If we could do a social group private then yeah but if not then a private fb group. I am in one for my SHARE group and it works well. A couple of members have a made up name that they used to open their account and use it just for the purpose of that group and don't use fb at all otherwise. Also, for long monologues, rants, etc a doc can be opened and attached. I could post lots of pics because it is private unlike this forum. So a private group would be my preference regardless of where we put it.

Katico- pls don't be mortified. communication via type is so hard... we all know that isn't what you meant.

getting out- I think it was around kid 3 that i just refused to do errands with anyone but hte little one. Just not worth it to me. I have been known to go to wal mart at midnight. I don't have to anymore as dh has a VERY flexible schedule and my older kids are in school or pre-school a few mornings a week so I get my errands done then or send dh.  Getting them out to museums and fun stuff is more manageble but still challenging, akin to hurding cats. lol

AFU- Saphira slept through the night last night and in her swing!!! I have never ever had a child give me more than a few hours at a time. It was amazing. she slept form 10:15 to 7:45 (I got from 10:45 to about 6;15 but it was still awesome). When dd1 woke me up I flew out of bed so fast.Dh jumped up and said what's wrong. I told him the baby had slept all night and was still in the swing. We were both sure she was dead. Uggg whe was snoring away and doing just fine. Scared teh crap out of me.

She is having a major potty pause right now and I am washing so many diapers. She is still going on the potty too but it isn't her preference. So annoying.

We went skiing yesterday and I decided to leave her in teh day care. She did great! I just went in ever few hours to nurse her. Never had a kid that would let me do that either.

Found a tooth on the top that just cut so that makes 1 on top and 1 on bottom and another on teh bottom that is almost out. CRAZY. They just cut through the skin adn then stop so she doesn't have full teeth or anything.

Just when I think I know what to expect my kid throws me a curve ball. she is so different than the others in so many ways.

She is cooing and smiling (no real laughs yet) and rolling from tummy to back. so much fun.

A women at target said how old is she... I told her three months and she said oh it gets better. I said what do you mean this is the best my 3 yr old covered the bedroom in paint and glitter this morning. She said oh I meant tthe sleep. weird.

[RosemaryS-F]

Aw, Katico, no biggie! Truly.

Starling, did you make that cake???? amazing!

nicole, how can you tell the tooth is going to cut? what does it look like?

[starling&diesel]

I did make it! I found a tutorial online, thank goodness. I'm impressed that it actually looks like the Gruffalo and it tasted great, especially for a gluten-free cake. Can't wait to see what she requests for next year. My friend's kid asked for an elevator cake! And she made one!

[theboysmama]

Rosemary- first you see the white nub then it gets somewhat irritated and there is a bright red/purplish bump on top. It starts to feel harder and harder. She has runnier than normal poops. fussy as can be and then bam the redness goes away and there is a sharp white dot on the outside of hte gums. Typically it continues to move up. With saphira her first one popped through and then stayed put. We will see about these other 2.

Starling- an elevator cake? I would like to see that.

[RosemaryS-F]

Nicole, Iona has the white hard bumps on the canines and the molar. Looks like also possibly the bottom fronts. Ugh! She's chewing, and has the runny poo. this has been going ON AND ON.

[theboysmama]

it can go on and on for sure. my oldest did it for about 4 months before anything actually popped through. it typically happens within a few weeks of the irritated bright red/ purpleish bump that appears on top. Saphira was a lot less crabby when the first one finally cut through.

pi- what a nice run. Sounds bittersweet. My dd1 weaning is scheduled april 26th. She will be 3 yrs and 4 months. A big weaning party will be held and then on the 27th she will go to Disney Land with my dad. Then when she returns NO MORE NANA's. Worked with all the others so hope it goes off without a hitch. She is excited about disney but not really ready to wean. I was ready a while ago.

[livacreature]

Starling: That cake is awesome.  Your DD looks like she has some serious spunk.

Teething: No signed here, but holy cow, I didn't realize it was so involved and it was such a process.  poor little people!  Hoping she is like me and doesn't sprout anything until about a year!  Does it usually impact sleep much?  Do they feed more or less?  I missed this chapter in books, apparently. lol

[AKislandgirl]

Liv: my DD1 got her first teeth right as she turned 4 months. She wasn't overly fussy but some of the other ones did bother her and her sleep a bit. I'm not sure why some were some much harder for her then others but that was definitely the case. She also tested her new teeth on me almost every time they came in. Yowsers did that hurt! Especially since I would be all relaxed nursing her - then bamm! She'd bite down. I'm shuddering a little remembering it! Every kid is different so things may be harder or easier for your little one. Maeve is teething now. She's not super fussy but a drooly mess and is gnawing on anything she can get to her mouth. Dh's fingers are her preference!

Pi~ What a nice run indeed! How is your son doing now that a few days have passed? I'm thinking of weaning my DD1 soon. She will be 3 in a couple of days. She nurses first thing in the morning and right as she falls asleep now. Some days she does skip those. This weekend she skipped 3 of her normal nursing sessions in a row! I think I'll gently try to nudge her in that direction. I always figured I'd wean her around 3 so well see what the next few months do for us.

Another huge snowstorm has hit. Getting lots and lots of snow around here!

[theboysmama]

Saphira had her hearing screen today. Everything looks good. The audiologist said it is common for kids with lots of older siblings to not respond to noise as they are so used to so much noise. tee hee. makes since.

I really did not like the audiologist. She chastised me for not having the test done sooner and said she still needs the other test (the one where she has to be asleep) to check past the coclia. I asked her if she was at risk and she said oh it is not very likely that she has issues since this test is good BUT it is a state law you have to have it done. She said not to feed her for a while and keep someone in the back seat with her on the way there to keep her awake and make sure she is pissed that way she will nurse well and fall asleep (ummm I don't think so). If she doesn't sleep then they can just sedate her and do the test (ummm NOT). I talked to dh and I think we are going to skip it. She will report us (to whom i'm not sure) if we don't get it done. I am assuming there is just a paper we can sign. This IS MY child right?

Since the hearing seems fine we are going to possibly call early intervention and see if there are any issues there (she just doesn't respond, has trouble making eye contact, etc.) I assume it is sensory issues (like my 3 older kids) so it won't hurt to get on the radar now.

[emmaegbert]

Originally Posted by Katico 

I was so mad at DH last night - DD1 woke up at 4am and started losing it in that overtired, half asleep, irrational toddler way.  And she woke up the baby.  And he like...couldn't cope with it.  He was all annoyed and bordering on angry.  And I'm like...dude....you're not HERE enough to lose your patience with them.  I get that it's 4am, but suck it up - YOU don't have to do anything but roll over while I deal with it.  

same exact thing happened here the other night-- and the 2yo was getting over a long sickness, and I had been up vomiting with the same sickness... anyway I refused to nurse her and she rolled around and cried and complained and DH started yelling at her! I was so mad at him, like THIS IS NOT HELPING. Eventually she accepted that I wasn't going to nurse her and went to sleep. And I guess eventually DH accepted that she was a toddler and he also went back to sleep. I swear.

potty pause- totally. still catching lots but many more wet diapers. what gives? I don't know. Still catching almost all poop so that is awesome.

liva I felt like I might have typed my other response re getting housecleaning help wrong (I was in a hurry)... your MIL is an insane and horrible person. You should just do whatever works for you. If your house is not unhealthy and it works for you, then fine. But for me, I really, really could tell when I had some help and it made a huge difference. I don't have it now (can't afford it, and I don't work for income, so I really can't prioritize it). But I literally fantasize about it. It was so great. Some friends I know just have someone who comes like once a month and "deep cleans", others a maid 2x a week for all the laundry and cleaning, my parents have someone once a week who does floors, bathrooms, kitchen... there are many arrangements.

[emmaegbert]

oh and baby has such busy hands these days! She ripped a tissue... she pulls big sister's hair... funny! 3 months on Saturday and I can so tell. She is just changing so fast.